i was talking to joy while she was at the pc.
as usual, my tummy was exposed coz my home t-shirt was a tad shorter.
"yee...what's that?" she yelped.
"what, fats lah!" i remarked.
"no, it looks like cellulite!" she retorted.
"hello, that's not cellulite. it's stretch mark! hvnt u seen them before?" i grieved in reply.
"no, mom, what stretch mark? i never saw them before!" joy retaliated in disbelief.
"thks to you and claire lah, stretch my stomach lining so much until like that!" i replied in singlish.
yes, all mothers have stretch marks. i always say, no matter how well a woman maintains her waist and body, the stretch marks are the inevitable marks left of their pregnancy memories.
well, that explains why we can't wear low-cut bikini...i mean, besides the tummy fats, there's also the issue of 'cellulite', in joy's definition.
Wednesday, July 13, 2011
Monday, July 11, 2011
claire's dilemma
16th july, joy's 17th bdae celeb.
the honourable presence of claire would be missed on that day, coz it coincides with her sch's ndp show day.
claire was obviously upset that she's going to miss the games and food....plus helping out with the decoration job.
she requested,"joy, can u save some chocolate eclaire for me?"
joy's response was lame,"huh, i dunno whether the food would be enough for my friends or not leh.."
"but i like it, also some tidbit snacks!"claire relentlessly persuaded.
here comes mommy,"aiya joy, i will separately prepare fries and popcorn chickens for ur friends lah...just saving 2 choc eclaires for claire will not be that difficult, rite? just agree with her!"
"ok, claire!" joy sang the same tune as me.
then, joy suggested,"well, claire can still attend my bdae."
"how?" asked the eager claire.
"either ndp show or my bdae lah!" joy's lame answer, as usual.
"but mommy said it's once in a lifetime..." claire responded.
yes, i did tell her that such an event is not easily attainable unless one is successful thru balloting. furthermore, to watch it with her friends at the breezy floating platform area is sure a wonderful experience.
but, guess what, claire blatantly declared that she's only after the goodies bag, not the show (which she claimed is boring). i told her that sharon au would be back for the show and would be putting up a skit...it should be enjoyable!
hope both my kids' experience at the show and celeb would be a memorable one. hubby and i would just be spectators.
that's the advantage when our kids grow up, we get less involved with such things. only financial backing matters, haha.
the honourable presence of claire would be missed on that day, coz it coincides with her sch's ndp show day.
claire was obviously upset that she's going to miss the games and food....plus helping out with the decoration job.
she requested,"joy, can u save some chocolate eclaire for me?"
joy's response was lame,"huh, i dunno whether the food would be enough for my friends or not leh.."
"but i like it, also some tidbit snacks!"claire relentlessly persuaded.
here comes mommy,"aiya joy, i will separately prepare fries and popcorn chickens for ur friends lah...just saving 2 choc eclaires for claire will not be that difficult, rite? just agree with her!"
"ok, claire!" joy sang the same tune as me.
then, joy suggested,"well, claire can still attend my bdae."
"how?" asked the eager claire.
"either ndp show or my bdae lah!" joy's lame answer, as usual.
"but mommy said it's once in a lifetime..." claire responded.
yes, i did tell her that such an event is not easily attainable unless one is successful thru balloting. furthermore, to watch it with her friends at the breezy floating platform area is sure a wonderful experience.
but, guess what, claire blatantly declared that she's only after the goodies bag, not the show (which she claimed is boring). i told her that sharon au would be back for the show and would be putting up a skit...it should be enjoyable!
hope both my kids' experience at the show and celeb would be a memorable one. hubby and i would just be spectators.
that's the advantage when our kids grow up, we get less involved with such things. only financial backing matters, haha.
lucas' 3rd bdae celeb - 9th july 2011
everyone was present.
chattering sounds were heard in every nook and corner.
lucas appeared to be the most handsome and cheerful. afterall, it was his big day. he strut confidently showing off his new (and first ever) takane brand watch, presented by me.
in fact, claire was telling me that he was extra careful not to wet his watch, when he washed his hand.
joy, the dance coach, taught the young cousins, some dance moves. apparently ,trisha and lucas demonstrated the most interest and were gyrating their bodies away with the k-pop songs.....
for the first time, i had my hands on an 'ipad', no kidding! it was a word game introduced by red, who informed that she and orange had already escalated to the 66th level, while i probably ended at 20th level.
aye, on-line games addiction really applies not just to the kids....no wonder, red's young toddler is already so intelligent with the ipad moves, excelling in different games at such young age.
it was time to sing bdae song. you bet, lucas had such fun time blowing 2 re-ignited candles, brought in by me....till the cake smacked of his saliva, haha.
claire had great time playing with the cousins, as usual.
well, this sat would be joy's celeb, with her friends. i was contemplating whether to invite aunties and uncles, then on hindsight, thought of giving it a miss, since claire wouldnt be around (ndp show, compulsory at p5) and hubby/ i would probably just laze around, not participating much in the bdae event.
joy would be 17, how quickly time flies. to me, she was just a chubby cute little girl with nice set of teeth then, but now, a slim girl who likes to wear push up and sports bra, to give the double effect...haha, sorry joy, shouldnt hv let out your secret.
chattering sounds were heard in every nook and corner.
lucas appeared to be the most handsome and cheerful. afterall, it was his big day. he strut confidently showing off his new (and first ever) takane brand watch, presented by me.
in fact, claire was telling me that he was extra careful not to wet his watch, when he washed his hand.
joy, the dance coach, taught the young cousins, some dance moves. apparently ,trisha and lucas demonstrated the most interest and were gyrating their bodies away with the k-pop songs.....
for the first time, i had my hands on an 'ipad', no kidding! it was a word game introduced by red, who informed that she and orange had already escalated to the 66th level, while i probably ended at 20th level.
aye, on-line games addiction really applies not just to the kids....no wonder, red's young toddler is already so intelligent with the ipad moves, excelling in different games at such young age.
it was time to sing bdae song. you bet, lucas had such fun time blowing 2 re-ignited candles, brought in by me....till the cake smacked of his saliva, haha.
claire had great time playing with the cousins, as usual.
well, this sat would be joy's celeb, with her friends. i was contemplating whether to invite aunties and uncles, then on hindsight, thought of giving it a miss, since claire wouldnt be around (ndp show, compulsory at p5) and hubby/ i would probably just laze around, not participating much in the bdae event.
joy would be 17, how quickly time flies. to me, she was just a chubby cute little girl with nice set of teeth then, but now, a slim girl who likes to wear push up and sports bra, to give the double effect...haha, sorry joy, shouldnt hv let out your secret.
Thursday, July 7, 2011
gentler words
is it so difficult for boys to use 'gentle words' on the mothers?
i was told by this absent-minded boy that, one day, in sch, he needed to txt his mom to deliver a pair of soccer boots to his sch. so, his frd did him a favour by starting to write,"mummy, can you....?"
the job was performed alrite.
then in the eve at home, round the dinner table, the mom asked him,"wow, today, ur txt was so polite ,addressing me as 'mummy' leh!"
"huh..oh, it was my friend who typed in for me...u knw, i dun call u that way!"
so, when this was related to me, i asked the boy if it would be so difficult for him to greet the mom with a polite term when requesting for sth. he said, he wasn't used to it!
i told him,"i'm sure u friend is a nice boy to the mom, to think that he can address his mother in a friendly manner, when he seeks help!" he simply nodded his head.
truly, what's so difficult about saying 'thank you', 'sorry' at the right moments? pple with great sense of pride find it hard, so it's easy to detect such kids with pride, from the way they behave.
over dinner, i saw the mom try to talk nicely to him, but it was only a short time before she started to nag or scold him again, over things that he didnt seem to do right.
at one stage, he was saying,"stop scolding me lah!" then, he started to show an angry face and 'shut' himself down.
at the end of the day, it's not easy managing such kids, the proud and strong-willed ones. not that they are bad, but it's just impt to know them inside out. they may appear strong and stubborn, but in actual fact, they need plenty of affirmation and kind words. they dun share so freely about their inner feelings and yet, expect parents to give them leeway......
well well, no 2 kids are the same...so, parents must hold the reins tight and not fall off the horse's seat!
i was told by this absent-minded boy that, one day, in sch, he needed to txt his mom to deliver a pair of soccer boots to his sch. so, his frd did him a favour by starting to write,"mummy, can you....?"
the job was performed alrite.
then in the eve at home, round the dinner table, the mom asked him,"wow, today, ur txt was so polite ,addressing me as 'mummy' leh!"
"huh..oh, it was my friend who typed in for me...u knw, i dun call u that way!"
so, when this was related to me, i asked the boy if it would be so difficult for him to greet the mom with a polite term when requesting for sth. he said, he wasn't used to it!
i told him,"i'm sure u friend is a nice boy to the mom, to think that he can address his mother in a friendly manner, when he seeks help!" he simply nodded his head.
truly, what's so difficult about saying 'thank you', 'sorry' at the right moments? pple with great sense of pride find it hard, so it's easy to detect such kids with pride, from the way they behave.
over dinner, i saw the mom try to talk nicely to him, but it was only a short time before she started to nag or scold him again, over things that he didnt seem to do right.
at one stage, he was saying,"stop scolding me lah!" then, he started to show an angry face and 'shut' himself down.
at the end of the day, it's not easy managing such kids, the proud and strong-willed ones. not that they are bad, but it's just impt to know them inside out. they may appear strong and stubborn, but in actual fact, they need plenty of affirmation and kind words. they dun share so freely about their inner feelings and yet, expect parents to give them leeway......
well well, no 2 kids are the same...so, parents must hold the reins tight and not fall off the horse's seat!
blood trails
joy called at 7 am while i was out having bfst with hubby this morn. yes, it was an unusual experience for me.
we just happened to get up early and decided to enjoy a breezy walk downstairs at 6.30 am, before heading for bfst in the market.
"mom, what happened to the 2 of u? where are u now?" she asked in a nervous manner.
"oh, we r on the way back now, after bfst! dun worry, dad will still send u to sch!" i thought that was her concern.
"no mom, i'm very worried. i thot someone broke into our house and fire a shot at u! can u plse tell me what there's blood stains on ur bedsheet?" she probed further.
"oh, i get dad to explain to u when he's back.." i tried to sound mysterious.
"no, plse tell me, what happened to the 2 of u?" she sounded like she was going to faint.
"aiyo, i menstruated lah..." i explained in truth, but she didn't believe it.
"dun bluff me. it's such a big blotch of blood and in different patches...." she answered in disbelief.
"believe it or not lah..i'm coming back now!" i ended the conversation.
back home, she pestered me again.
"do i hv to show u evidence of my menstrual blood?" i asked.
haha, she really took a peek into my pte area and then commented,"but this is so little. the one on the bed is such a big patch.."
after much explanation, i gave up and told her,"i hv told u the truth, believe it or not lah!"
guess what was her lame response?
"if u dun tell me the truth, i'm not gonna talk to you anymore!" she had the cheek to talk that way.
aye, how could i control the flow of blood, rite? if it decided to come in a gush, could i even say,"hush, baby, slow down!"
of coz, i knew joy was just concerned at her end that it was nothing serious.....luckily, claire is still in camp, else i will hv 3 monstress girls pestering me, and that would sure ruin my morning.
we just happened to get up early and decided to enjoy a breezy walk downstairs at 6.30 am, before heading for bfst in the market.
"mom, what happened to the 2 of u? where are u now?" she asked in a nervous manner.
"oh, we r on the way back now, after bfst! dun worry, dad will still send u to sch!" i thought that was her concern.
"no mom, i'm very worried. i thot someone broke into our house and fire a shot at u! can u plse tell me what there's blood stains on ur bedsheet?" she probed further.
"oh, i get dad to explain to u when he's back.." i tried to sound mysterious.
"no, plse tell me, what happened to the 2 of u?" she sounded like she was going to faint.
"aiyo, i menstruated lah..." i explained in truth, but she didn't believe it.
"dun bluff me. it's such a big blotch of blood and in different patches...." she answered in disbelief.
"believe it or not lah..i'm coming back now!" i ended the conversation.
back home, she pestered me again.
"do i hv to show u evidence of my menstrual blood?" i asked.
haha, she really took a peek into my pte area and then commented,"but this is so little. the one on the bed is such a big patch.."
after much explanation, i gave up and told her,"i hv told u the truth, believe it or not lah!"
guess what was her lame response?
"if u dun tell me the truth, i'm not gonna talk to you anymore!" she had the cheek to talk that way.
aye, how could i control the flow of blood, rite? if it decided to come in a gush, could i even say,"hush, baby, slow down!"
of coz, i knew joy was just concerned at her end that it was nothing serious.....luckily, claire is still in camp, else i will hv 3 monstress girls pestering me, and that would sure ruin my morning.
Friday, July 1, 2011
kids' independence
when claire and i left mom's home at 9.35 pm, n&n sisters also planned to leave.
i queried,"u 2 going back on ur own?"
they answered,"ya, mommy will be back only at 11 plus!"
wow, i thought they were really independent to stay around on their own.
actually, i was relating to mom how much effort is needed to teach a kid the right values. sometimes, our breath can just be wasted and washed down the drain.
in my opinion, it's so impt for the parents, esp the mother who's always the daughters' figurehead role at home, to accompany the kids in the growing up years. else, where and how else would the bond be created?
white also shared that trisha always wishes for the mommy to pick her up from sch. her smile would beam broadly, everytime her dream was fulfilled.
that brought me back to the question with claire, reminding her how fortunate and blessed a child she is. having companionship of parents and joy jie jie with her all the times. we always plan things for her to do and even tell her to invite friends, if required. but, she's not someone who just goes out with any friends! unlike joy, having friends from all walks of lives!
so, at this stage, it's always playing with cousins, from both paternal and maternal side.
in fact, claire will be attending her 4day3nite camp in coming week. joy, who's done with her exams, asked for permission to bring her out today. just to spend time together, since she thot she's gonna miss claire!
mind u, i'm excluded from this whole outing! aye, when kids grow up, they need their own space too! well, maybe i should just have 二人世界with the other half, provided his eyes are not glued to the electronic gadget racing into the virtual land!
i queried,"u 2 going back on ur own?"
they answered,"ya, mommy will be back only at 11 plus!"
wow, i thought they were really independent to stay around on their own.
actually, i was relating to mom how much effort is needed to teach a kid the right values. sometimes, our breath can just be wasted and washed down the drain.
in my opinion, it's so impt for the parents, esp the mother who's always the daughters' figurehead role at home, to accompany the kids in the growing up years. else, where and how else would the bond be created?
white also shared that trisha always wishes for the mommy to pick her up from sch. her smile would beam broadly, everytime her dream was fulfilled.
that brought me back to the question with claire, reminding her how fortunate and blessed a child she is. having companionship of parents and joy jie jie with her all the times. we always plan things for her to do and even tell her to invite friends, if required. but, she's not someone who just goes out with any friends! unlike joy, having friends from all walks of lives!
so, at this stage, it's always playing with cousins, from both paternal and maternal side.
in fact, claire will be attending her 4day3nite camp in coming week. joy, who's done with her exams, asked for permission to bring her out today. just to spend time together, since she thot she's gonna miss claire!
mind u, i'm excluded from this whole outing! aye, when kids grow up, they need their own space too! well, maybe i should just have 二人世界with the other half, provided his eyes are not glued to the electronic gadget racing into the virtual land!
fashion parade
fashion parade show.
at mom's place, in the cozy room.
i told the girls,"3 awards. best, sexiest and funniest award to be given, based on individual voting".
they were all thrilled, esp white's 2 kids.
'can we vote for ourselves?" one of the kids asked.
"yes lah, can!" me replying in broken english. must have been lucas rubbing on his 'singlish' expression to me.
whole nite, i heard him saying,"no lah.." , haha.
so, guess who was awarded accordingly.
claire got all the awards, i think. even though i voted for nat on 'most sexy' and lucas on 'funniest' category.
well, i told the kids, we hv to vote from our hearts. ie. no cheating or skewed votes, haha.
indeed, claire gave her very best and made everybody laugh.
on the way back, she asked,"was i really funny? i dun find it leh!"
i told her, "yes, the reason why your cousins voted for u was, u were bold and dared to try the poses....furthermore, u hv an advantage coz' u and joy always did such fashion parade since young, for fun..." in fact, i think joy might still possess some of the videos. very comical and entertaining.
the whole idea was to tell claire that having early exposure to different things would be beneficial. coz' u started overcoming ur shyness and would be more ready to demonstrate your talent.
white's 2 kids are really spontaneous. that's what i like about them. just do it and laugh over it....no grandmother story! lucas was always the first one to act, when there's any request from me.
nat was also doing her best, probably taking the boldness from claire, just to shake the butt and act sexy. na was a little shy, but still i told all, it was a good effort for everybody to give it a shot.
i think the kids had great time....laughing away in the room.
on the way back, claire told me,"mommy, they said i'm very funny leh. am i funny?"
"well, it's always good to let down your hair and play to the maximum. if u can entertain pple with ur show, showcasing your talent, why hide behind the curtains, rite?"
afterall, kids learn from one another. give me a bunch of spontaneous kids, anytime!
after her bath at home, claire was quite inspired to try out indian and peacock dance for her daddy. i tell u, her indian dance steps were so funny, short of her looking dark-skinned and dorning a sari, that's all!
i told her,"u gotta teach your cousins the indian dance and present to ergu when she's back. coz' it's really entertaining and will make one laugh..."
i shared with hubby that uncle mano should be the rightful audience to such show...he will surely appreciate it and 一解乡愁，哈哈!
(p/s: kids need plenty of encouragement. i would be happy to turn claire's inhibitions into courage to perform. to me, she has the flexibility and talents, but just too reluctant to showcase! hope she will overcome all obstacles in due coure....)
at mom's place, in the cozy room.
i told the girls,"3 awards. best, sexiest and funniest award to be given, based on individual voting".
they were all thrilled, esp white's 2 kids.
'can we vote for ourselves?" one of the kids asked.
"yes lah, can!" me replying in broken english. must have been lucas rubbing on his 'singlish' expression to me.
whole nite, i heard him saying,"no lah.." , haha.
so, guess who was awarded accordingly.
claire got all the awards, i think. even though i voted for nat on 'most sexy' and lucas on 'funniest' category.
well, i told the kids, we hv to vote from our hearts. ie. no cheating or skewed votes, haha.
indeed, claire gave her very best and made everybody laugh.
on the way back, she asked,"was i really funny? i dun find it leh!"
i told her, "yes, the reason why your cousins voted for u was, u were bold and dared to try the poses....furthermore, u hv an advantage coz' u and joy always did such fashion parade since young, for fun..." in fact, i think joy might still possess some of the videos. very comical and entertaining.
the whole idea was to tell claire that having early exposure to different things would be beneficial. coz' u started overcoming ur shyness and would be more ready to demonstrate your talent.
white's 2 kids are really spontaneous. that's what i like about them. just do it and laugh over it....no grandmother story! lucas was always the first one to act, when there's any request from me.
nat was also doing her best, probably taking the boldness from claire, just to shake the butt and act sexy. na was a little shy, but still i told all, it was a good effort for everybody to give it a shot.
i think the kids had great time....laughing away in the room.
on the way back, claire told me,"mommy, they said i'm very funny leh. am i funny?"
"well, it's always good to let down your hair and play to the maximum. if u can entertain pple with ur show, showcasing your talent, why hide behind the curtains, rite?"
afterall, kids learn from one another. give me a bunch of spontaneous kids, anytime!
after her bath at home, claire was quite inspired to try out indian and peacock dance for her daddy. i tell u, her indian dance steps were so funny, short of her looking dark-skinned and dorning a sari, that's all!
i told her,"u gotta teach your cousins the indian dance and present to ergu when she's back. coz' it's really entertaining and will make one laugh..."
i shared with hubby that uncle mano should be the rightful audience to such show...he will surely appreciate it and 一解乡愁，哈哈!
(p/s: kids need plenty of encouragement. i would be happy to turn claire's inhibitions into courage to perform. to me, she has the flexibility and talents, but just too reluctant to showcase! hope she will overcome all obstacles in due coure....)
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