a big trantrum that left me a sore throat!

finally, i threw a big tantrum with claire yesterday.

the nite before on tues, i told every one that i was probably coming down with an 'unwell' state. in fact, i was feeling quite frusco and uncomfortable. claire even asked,"mommy, is it ur winter period?"

wow, i hv nearly forgotten this seasonal word that i used with her last yr...thks for reminding me.

yesterday, 1 day after her 11th bdae celeb party with some frds back home, i treated her like an independent girl, asking her to do all necessary revision for english, esp those sections which she was weaker in.

she was her usual 'dreamy' self....throughout the time that i was home, all i saw was some flipping of pages of past worksheets done, then interrupted by reading her archie's comics (received as bdae present)....i had to remind her to 'transfer' her seat to a proper table, instead of always slouching on the sofa, imitating joy.

正所谓，上梁不正下梁歪！

finally, in the night at 7plus, after her return from a play session, with perspiration dripping, she was holding on to her comics book again! that was really an eyesore to me!
i looked at her with rage, hoping that she would take the initiative to go for her shower!

apparently, my 'deliberate stares' were taken frivolously by the 'concerned party'.

there went the volcanic eruption......it spewed hot ashes and wasnt' able to cease for the rest of the night!

surely, claire didnt have a good night thereafter...lectures, shouting, scolding and sitting down to doing necessary work, she had it all!

i always tell her,"i'm not concerned if u pass or fail! but i mind that u grow up not being productive and ignore the proper values to learn....if u attitude is good, u will naturally good harvest!"

basically, claire succumbed to distraction esaily. things that don't interest her, she will deliberately choose not to pay attention to it. she's probably stretching her comics reading time to the maximum...joy was all sympathetic seeing that i lost my 'cool' and told me to just leave her to survive and manage on her own!

in fact, i had little to do with her revision. i would hv expected her to come checking stuff with me, but she seemed to put up a front that she's all ready! yet, i still caught her in making very random errors in the familiar stuff!

i passed a comment at joy,"our generation was so much a better lot...no tuition. everything was our own respy, from dunno to knwing it! nowadays, all resources are provided for and yet, no attn to details is paid and repeated mistakes are made! horrible lot!"

finally, she got some work done. the point is not to get high marks, really.

it's really having the maturity to learn one's stuff, knowing its importance and putting aside all other 'temptations' like i-touch, facebook, reading....i was citing joanna, mebelle and natalie, her 3 cousins who are so independent in their work.

claire, look twds all this good behaviour and learn it!

she tends to take things in her stride, with no urgency, unlike joy and me! characteristics of blood O vs blood A group?