is it so difficult for boys to use 'gentle words' on the mothers?
i was told by this absent-minded boy that, one day, in sch, he needed to txt his mom to deliver a pair of soccer boots to his sch. so, his frd did him a favour by starting to write,"mummy, can you....?"
the job was performed alrite.
then in the eve at home, round the dinner table, the mom asked him,"wow, today, ur txt was so polite ,addressing me as 'mummy' leh!"
"huh..oh, it was my friend who typed in for me...u knw, i dun call u that way!"
so, when this was related to me, i asked the boy if it would be so difficult for him to greet the mom with a polite term when requesting for sth. he said, he wasn't used to it!
i told him,"i'm sure u friend is a nice boy to the mom, to think that he can address his mother in a friendly manner, when he seeks help!" he simply nodded his head.
truly, what's so difficult about saying 'thank you', 'sorry' at the right moments? pple with great sense of pride find it hard, so it's easy to detect such kids with pride, from the way they behave.
over dinner, i saw the mom try to talk nicely to him, but it was only a short time before she started to nag or scold him again, over things that he didnt seem to do right.
at one stage, he was saying,"stop scolding me lah!" then, he started to show an angry face and 'shut' himself down.
at the end of the day, it's not easy managing such kids, the proud and strong-willed ones. not that they are bad, but it's just impt to know them inside out. they may appear strong and stubborn, but in actual fact, they need plenty of affirmation and kind words. they dun share so freely about their inner feelings and yet, expect parents to give them leeway......
well well, no 2 kids are the same...so, parents must hold the reins tight and not fall off the horse's seat!
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Partly due to character, partly also due to upbringing. Otherwise, how come the other boy classmate could say kind words? Kids should be encourage to express their feelings and use kind words from young, then it won't be such a difficult thing when they grow up.
ReplyDeleteabsolutely agree. how many kids can be like nini at this age? u say,"smile", she will do so even if it's a fako smile, haha....she's just taking order.
ReplyDeletebut i find it adorable of her to do the things that u instruct her to, in a very compliant manner. haha.
i was even more impressed when she saw the whole lot of us playing on HER ipad, and yet she didnt snatch it back....i hv read abt the way she 'treated' lucas when he wanted to have a share or a peek into the screen while she was playing.
that shows that this girl is really clever and knws how to 'behave' at diff hours, haha. smart girls are generally strong-willed, mind u, my friend always tells me,"u look at my son lah, no wonder born in the yr of cow!"
haha, make sure u prove my friend wrong. cow can also work hard, bend down to drink when applicable and pull the cart in the right direction too.
This kind of bad habit must correct from young. Else the kid got so used to that, will even be harder to correct at later stage of life.
ReplyDeletethe mother also quite can, allows the son to behave like that. Can you imagine if the boy reaches puberty? The harder to communicate!
Look at me, a good example of how a good ox can be. Hehe!
ReplyDeleteShe is too fearful of u to snatch back her iPad. But at home, she will ask "Auntie Verlyn leh? Joy Jie-Jie leh? Claire Jie-Jie leh?".