i went mktg with my mom.
her 2 grandkids were with us, nana and lucas.
nana, as usual, is an obedient girl who walks and eats, as it deems fit.
but looking at how mom tends to lucas, i really pity her. very lo hei, as the cantonese put it, wasting lots of breath to teach the child.
i guess boys being boys, they are more active, make more requests and doing things in their own ways. mom is getting old, so with so many things up her mind as a caretaker at home, she's losing patience. i would hv too, if i were in his shoes.
while feeding lucas, i was shocked to see him being a fussy eater like the jiejie. he rejected the minced meat strung onto his noodles and would shake his head forcefully, if he refused to eat or do something. dad of coz, would just enjoy his food, not lifting any fingers to help.
mom is the pitiful soul, to take care of the young ones, complete her grocery purchase, rushed home to unpack the stuff and getting ready for other chores.
when we got home, it was time to pick trisha. i suggested letting claire and nana to perform the pickup role. guess what? mom said,"不放心，车很多，还是我去比较好！“
”叫老爸去啦！“i continued. well, dad just reclined to his usual comfy self, lying on bed and reading his papers.
i wonder if it hurts his heart to see his wife, who has slogged all these yrs, to hv no rest for herself. well, maybe, mom has really pampered dad so much and for so many years, that he's immuned to her 'suffering and fatigue'...well, 不懂得珍惜眼前人，总有一天会心痛。老爸，清醒吧！
as for mom, we continue to pray for her good health. i can really see her temper getting short with so many kids at home, and this is only the start of holiday season. hope the kids will remain good and appreciate her love.
Tuesday, May 31, 2011
mom's reinforcement
at my stdt's place.
hanging on the toilet door, i saw a note from the mom to the boy,"i am so proud of your english result. i knw it's not easy for you to spell words right...but u hv shown your best...to celebrate the joyous occasion, i have bought a ..cake. ..."
wow, to me, it's a great reinforcement.
truly, for a kid to perform well these days, it's not easy. esp for a kid going thru some therapy sessions to help address certain learning issues at this tender age.
this note will serve to remind the boy that when he does well, the whole family rejoices. but more importantly, when results don't meet expectations, evaluation has to be made to address the problems.
these days, all the kids hv similar problems. not checking their work. or rather, not bothering to get the final answers right.
so, i always emphasise with them,"i would rather u do 5 questions right than 15 questions with hardly any right!"
hanging on the toilet door, i saw a note from the mom to the boy,"i am so proud of your english result. i knw it's not easy for you to spell words right...but u hv shown your best...to celebrate the joyous occasion, i have bought a ..cake. ..."
wow, to me, it's a great reinforcement.
truly, for a kid to perform well these days, it's not easy. esp for a kid going thru some therapy sessions to help address certain learning issues at this tender age.
this note will serve to remind the boy that when he does well, the whole family rejoices. but more importantly, when results don't meet expectations, evaluation has to be made to address the problems.
these days, all the kids hv similar problems. not checking their work. or rather, not bothering to get the final answers right.
so, i always emphasise with them,"i would rather u do 5 questions right than 15 questions with hardly any right!"
1 jun 2011
today is the hip hop competition for joy and claire.
joy is doing grade 7 while claire is at grade 4.
surprisingly, both agreed to book the dance studio at my condo at 7 pm,, and guess what, they practised for more than 2 hrs and came home heavy with perspiration.
i asked,"how? did u girls hv good time?"
joy answered,"yes, mom. u knw what? claire is very flexible with contemporary moves leh!"
well, that's what i like about joy. she never stops at complimenting other people if she genuinely finds them good. not an inch of jealousy in her heart.
well, by contemporary moves, joy means the ballet dancers' sway and turns, i guess.
turning to claire, i asked,"do u think joy dance well? u knw, she's hoping to get high distinction leh?" haha, joy didn't mention it that way lah, she said she's happy with above average result.
claire nonchalantly replied, with i-touch in hand,"i dunno leh. didn't really watch her!"
well, it could be the truth.
but everytime when i seek answers or views from my 2 girls, i can already tell that joy is certainly a more cheerful personality and gives likeable answer. claire, on the other hand, is more reserved with giving raving reviews and is less likely to praise another.
haha, that seems like a replica of me and hubby respectively.
do genetics really play such an impt role in the kids' characters? i would say, yes,with both my hands up.
a sad parent is not likely to produce a happy child in the family. similarly, an optimistic parent is not likely to raise a pessimistic kid.
so, that explains how impt it is for us to talk to our kids in the right way. like how one of my friends like to put it,"my kids always complain that i dun trust them. everything they tell me, i take it with a pinch of salt!" well, maybe trust needs to be earned with right reinforcement behaviours.
joy is doing grade 7 while claire is at grade 4.
surprisingly, both agreed to book the dance studio at my condo at 7 pm,, and guess what, they practised for more than 2 hrs and came home heavy with perspiration.
i asked,"how? did u girls hv good time?"
joy answered,"yes, mom. u knw what? claire is very flexible with contemporary moves leh!"
well, that's what i like about joy. she never stops at complimenting other people if she genuinely finds them good. not an inch of jealousy in her heart.
well, by contemporary moves, joy means the ballet dancers' sway and turns, i guess.
turning to claire, i asked,"do u think joy dance well? u knw, she's hoping to get high distinction leh?" haha, joy didn't mention it that way lah, she said she's happy with above average result.
claire nonchalantly replied, with i-touch in hand,"i dunno leh. didn't really watch her!"
well, it could be the truth.
but everytime when i seek answers or views from my 2 girls, i can already tell that joy is certainly a more cheerful personality and gives likeable answer. claire, on the other hand, is more reserved with giving raving reviews and is less likely to praise another.
haha, that seems like a replica of me and hubby respectively.
do genetics really play such an impt role in the kids' characters? i would say, yes,with both my hands up.
a sad parent is not likely to produce a happy child in the family. similarly, an optimistic parent is not likely to raise a pessimistic kid.
so, that explains how impt it is for us to talk to our kids in the right way. like how one of my friends like to put it,"my kids always complain that i dun trust them. everything they tell me, i take it with a pinch of salt!" well, maybe trust needs to be earned with right reinforcement behaviours.
青春不能留白
well, who said 青春不能留白?
it's my home's elder missy, 乐萱.
she's certainly living by the motto. , to live out her life fully, she is dancing so much now.
indeed, i'm inspired by her enthusiasm in dance, often seeing her browse thru youtubes for dance moves. learning them, imparting them and seem all ready to enter into another dance competition.
she has been urging me to try k-pop dance with her dance coach, jacky. a new class has started for the newbies. of coz, to no avail.
what i really enjoy is belly dancing. and with porky belly, i'm sure i'll beat anyone to it. the problem is my failing memory, which will deter in my progress.
some nights ago, she watched a taiwanese prog and cajoled me again,"mom, let's go and join belly dancing together!"
haha, can u beat it? she seems to be keen to conquer not just the power and sexy dance moves, but also the 'oldies' shaking booties and boobies' group!
well, if i hv better developed boobies, i might really consider, i told her. else, it will be an eye-sore when u dress like the belly dancers.
maybe it's just an excuse for me to back out...truly, my dementia signs are kicking in. but it seems better when i do not consume the fish oil, which is for skin betterment.
how ironical. how to balance good skin with good memory?
it's my home's elder missy, 乐萱.
she's certainly living by the motto. , to live out her life fully, she is dancing so much now.
indeed, i'm inspired by her enthusiasm in dance, often seeing her browse thru youtubes for dance moves. learning them, imparting them and seem all ready to enter into another dance competition.
she has been urging me to try k-pop dance with her dance coach, jacky. a new class has started for the newbies. of coz, to no avail.
what i really enjoy is belly dancing. and with porky belly, i'm sure i'll beat anyone to it. the problem is my failing memory, which will deter in my progress.
some nights ago, she watched a taiwanese prog and cajoled me again,"mom, let's go and join belly dancing together!"
haha, can u beat it? she seems to be keen to conquer not just the power and sexy dance moves, but also the 'oldies' shaking booties and boobies' group!
well, if i hv better developed boobies, i might really consider, i told her. else, it will be an eye-sore when u dress like the belly dancers.
maybe it's just an excuse for me to back out...truly, my dementia signs are kicking in. but it seems better when i do not consume the fish oil, which is for skin betterment.
how ironical. how to balance good skin with good memory?
Sunday, May 29, 2011
affirmation of my fatness
'dear, m i fat?" i asked.
there came his frank outright response,"ya, a little!"
my heart started weeping. coz' he has never 'affirmed' me that way....boohoohoo...
"plse help me...that period of the month, i tend to eat more...such eating disorder has gotten me into feeling heavy, clumsy and lousy! " i explained.
i begged,"can u help to 'control' me in the diet? i mean, when i feel like a glutton, u will stop me lah.."
"ok lah...." he reluctantly agreed. extra job for him, u knw? and u r jolly well aware of how difficult it is to tell a woman not to eat when she's all hungry.
this conversation took place ystdy.
this afternoon (sun), we had plain porridge. slight hunger pang hit when i was outside waiting for the kids.
i cajoled him into fastfood, drinks etc, but he kindly declined.
then, when we spotted one fried behoon stall (lousy one though), my control let loose.
we ordered 2 plates and shared a pancake. that was it. i was regretful about it...and started whining again,"aiya dear, why u nvr control my diet again?"
"aiyo, u want to eat what? see lah, now i feel so fat!" he quizzed.
"plse plse..i really need u to stop me from eating at such irregular hours! all my exercise effort in morn gone lor!"
after this experience, i realise it's better to rely on myself where dieting is concerned. must by plenty of fruits to stand by...no more heavy bfst and fried stuff for comin week.
like what i told claire,"this wk, u pple shall eat my kind of food. i hv been compromising all these yrs to cook the things that u all like!"
why do i feel so fat? maybe it's my weak digestive system. maybe i'm at my relaxed self now that hol is kicking in after the exams.
by hook or by crook, i must lose weight - 1.5 kg is all i need. i will make it. esp now that this is posted on blog, i will win the battle.
there came his frank outright response,"ya, a little!"
my heart started weeping. coz' he has never 'affirmed' me that way....boohoohoo...
"plse help me...that period of the month, i tend to eat more...such eating disorder has gotten me into feeling heavy, clumsy and lousy! " i explained.
i begged,"can u help to 'control' me in the diet? i mean, when i feel like a glutton, u will stop me lah.."
"ok lah...." he reluctantly agreed. extra job for him, u knw? and u r jolly well aware of how difficult it is to tell a woman not to eat when she's all hungry.
this conversation took place ystdy.
this afternoon (sun), we had plain porridge. slight hunger pang hit when i was outside waiting for the kids.
i cajoled him into fastfood, drinks etc, but he kindly declined.
then, when we spotted one fried behoon stall (lousy one though), my control let loose.
we ordered 2 plates and shared a pancake. that was it. i was regretful about it...and started whining again,"aiya dear, why u nvr control my diet again?"
"aiyo, u want to eat what? see lah, now i feel so fat!" he quizzed.
"plse plse..i really need u to stop me from eating at such irregular hours! all my exercise effort in morn gone lor!"
after this experience, i realise it's better to rely on myself where dieting is concerned. must by plenty of fruits to stand by...no more heavy bfst and fried stuff for comin week.
like what i told claire,"this wk, u pple shall eat my kind of food. i hv been compromising all these yrs to cook the things that u all like!"
why do i feel so fat? maybe it's my weak digestive system. maybe i'm at my relaxed self now that hol is kicking in after the exams.
by hook or by crook, i must lose weight - 1.5 kg is all i need. i will make it. esp now that this is posted on blog, i will win the battle.
auto sensor
faith and john were waiting for me after my toilet break.
faith asked,"eh, u didn't switch on the light, huh!"
I looked at her in dismay,"it's auto sensor lah! when i walked in and closed the door, the light came upon!"
faith giggled non-stop, i was afraid she would hv another muscular stitch pain in her stomach.
"u r really blur leh...one lady saw u walk in and amusingly switched on the light for u! where got auto sensor?"faith continued.
"oh..no wonder. aiya, dunno why, actually i'm not that blur, but everytime with u guys, i always show this blur side of me...anyway, since it brings john so much laughter, i will sacrifice lah..."
then, my cell phone rang. the programmed no. reflected on the screen was 'katong edu hub', a tuition centre. well ,actually i saw this incoming no. in the morn but deliberately ignored it.
but there was an impulse to pick it up the 2nd time i rcvd this call.
"hello..mommy.." came the other side of the line.
"who's that?" i asked.
"r u mommy?" again the other party prompted. well, to me, it did sound like claire, but i wasnt able to acknowledge her coz' it wasnt my home programmed tel.
"HELLO.." a male voice resumed at the other line.
"who's that, plse?" i was still my polite self.
"what who's that? dun even knw who i m?" ha, this someone must be feeling hurt for not being recognised. talk about male ego.
"oh..is that u, dear? how come ...." i quickly reverted to my sweet voice, haha.
aiya, all a mix-up in tel no. whose fault? search me.
but this blur cases have john showing amusing look on his face...and u knw how reserved this man is -want to smile, dun want to smile, sometimes really dunno what's on his mind.
anyway, as we were walking back home, i took a peep at john's profile and teased faith,"hey, ur john is a changed man after being prayed upon by pastor tam ki!" then, we joked that his eyes were more kind and gentle looking.....becoz' GOD's love is in his heart.
who knws? faith might hv a miracle story to share with us about her dear half.....how his heart is now conquered by GOD's might.....
it was certainly a testimony session worth attending.....
faith asked,"eh, u didn't switch on the light, huh!"
I looked at her in dismay,"it's auto sensor lah! when i walked in and closed the door, the light came upon!"
faith giggled non-stop, i was afraid she would hv another muscular stitch pain in her stomach.
"u r really blur leh...one lady saw u walk in and amusingly switched on the light for u! where got auto sensor?"faith continued.
"oh..no wonder. aiya, dunno why, actually i'm not that blur, but everytime with u guys, i always show this blur side of me...anyway, since it brings john so much laughter, i will sacrifice lah..."
then, my cell phone rang. the programmed no. reflected on the screen was 'katong edu hub', a tuition centre. well ,actually i saw this incoming no. in the morn but deliberately ignored it.
but there was an impulse to pick it up the 2nd time i rcvd this call.
"hello..mommy.." came the other side of the line.
"who's that?" i asked.
"r u mommy?" again the other party prompted. well, to me, it did sound like claire, but i wasnt able to acknowledge her coz' it wasnt my home programmed tel.
"HELLO.." a male voice resumed at the other line.
"who's that, plse?" i was still my polite self.
"what who's that? dun even knw who i m?" ha, this someone must be feeling hurt for not being recognised. talk about male ego.
"oh..is that u, dear? how come ...." i quickly reverted to my sweet voice, haha.
aiya, all a mix-up in tel no. whose fault? search me.
but this blur cases have john showing amusing look on his face...and u knw how reserved this man is -want to smile, dun want to smile, sometimes really dunno what's on his mind.
anyway, as we were walking back home, i took a peep at john's profile and teased faith,"hey, ur john is a changed man after being prayed upon by pastor tam ki!" then, we joked that his eyes were more kind and gentle looking.....becoz' GOD's love is in his heart.
who knws? faith might hv a miracle story to share with us about her dear half.....how his heart is now conquered by GOD's might.....
it was certainly a testimony session worth attending.....
Saturday, May 28, 2011
rev tam ki from myanmar
i joined the young adults and youth fellowship yesterday. no becoz i was feeling youthful but because there was a great invited guest speaker, rev tam ki from myanmar.
his son was the transalator from viet to english.
i hv 2 distinguished guests with me, faith and her other johnny papa. didn't expect john's attendance, must be god knocking at his 'heart' door, haha.
anyway, it was a noisy singing session as introduction, akin to a live show performance with the young people jumping and clapping as they worshipped. like what faith said, not our cup of tea. haha, i mean, we still prefer the quiet way of worship.....though not the boring one.
lim min, the author of the book ' from darkness to glorious light' came upon the stage to give a fantastic background of rev tam ki.
in short, she was a chemist by profession and one day, she met rev tam ki in a church setting. despite the language barrier, she learnt through interpretation of rev tam ki's wonderful and miraculous experience of being resurrected from the dead at the age of 20, a poor farmer then.
as she got interested and interviewed him more, she was requested by someone to write a book about him.
she was holding a job and thought,"i am not a writer. neither do i knw any publisher. i can't do the job!"
but, as GOD would have planned for her, she was introduced to the director of a publisher co, and after collecting all the info through personal interview in rev tam ki's tribal hometown, a faraway place deeply involved with spiritual worship, she thought,"i hv all the 1st hand verified info. it's so amazing and i should write a book to praise GOD!"
thus, she quit her job and spent one yr writing the book.
she's probably one of the best author whom i hv come across, giving proper presentations about her book and the characters. in her words, you could the genuine heartbeats of love and faith in GOD.
well, rev tam ki shared about his life before GOD's entry into his life; a drunkard. at the age of 20, he was proclaimed dead for 8 hrs due to spiritual attack disease, but he actually experienced GOD taking him to heaven for a round.
in his description, there were angels, beautiful garden, people walking around, hymns and praises.....it was such a wonderful place. GOD's mission to him,"share the gospel with his community.' u knw how hard it would be - spiritual worshippers.
for the next 5 yrs, he had no bible and no idea what prayer and hymns were all about. but, his experience open his eyes to GOD's existence. one day, a missionary pastor entered into his remote land of hometown and started to teach him about 'GOD' and 'prayer'. he was excited but only knew one song then....
according to him, this only song was enough for him to pray for healing for others....he was gifted in that manner! several recounts of his healing prayer touched many. and it almost always happened on x'mas day, where christians round the world celebrate the holy season.
one day, a leper passed by (such leper story was also recounted in the bible) a place that rev tam ki was preaching. he wanted to be healed. rev tam ki just prayed for him and as he watched the man's rotten skin condition with flesh eaten away by the disease, his faith did not flinch a bit.
the next day, the man went looking for him, telling him "i hv never slept so well in my many years of living...but i did last night!" over the next 1 wk, healing power was working in his life, and today, he's also in missionary work, proclaiming GOD's majestic power.
when the leper was interviewed by the author, lim min, he shared that getting leprosy was one of the worst nightmare in his life. his day would be spent sitting under a tree, seeing his flesh being gnawed at, and with him biting his exposed bone to grant some relief. but today, he's all healed although pics of him now show deformed fingers etc.
over the last 3 decades, rev tam ki has built many churches in the uphill slopes of chin villages, which seemed to be an almost impossible task. digging the land itself would take 2 yrs before structures can be piled upon it.
his initial life was fraught with persecution but his faith persisted....he shared that one time on x'mas, he was sharing the gospel and closing with prayer, by the time he opened his eyes, his congregation was almost all gone!
in his befuddled state, his nephew came to tell him,"uncle, someone tried to shoot u. that's why ur crowd has dispersed!"
after another 2 attempts by that man to kill him, rev tam ki shared in a jovial manner that the bullet just didn't work....flying in other direction. he truly saw GOD's protecting arms on him.
to date, he has raised 7 from death and healed many. this man spoke with faith and power. like what he said, he would nvr hv imagined himself to be on the land of singapore and attired like a civilised soul...his tribal village pple are adorned with tribal costumes, bow and arrow plus gun to kill animals and enemies, at any time.
GOD has his ways of using pple....we are often the ones to hear the story and wow with admiration. but one day, should our turn come, i wonder what would be our reaction?
his son was the transalator from viet to english.
i hv 2 distinguished guests with me, faith and her other johnny papa. didn't expect john's attendance, must be god knocking at his 'heart' door, haha.
anyway, it was a noisy singing session as introduction, akin to a live show performance with the young people jumping and clapping as they worshipped. like what faith said, not our cup of tea. haha, i mean, we still prefer the quiet way of worship.....though not the boring one.
lim min, the author of the book ' from darkness to glorious light' came upon the stage to give a fantastic background of rev tam ki.
in short, she was a chemist by profession and one day, she met rev tam ki in a church setting. despite the language barrier, she learnt through interpretation of rev tam ki's wonderful and miraculous experience of being resurrected from the dead at the age of 20, a poor farmer then.
as she got interested and interviewed him more, she was requested by someone to write a book about him.
she was holding a job and thought,"i am not a writer. neither do i knw any publisher. i can't do the job!"
but, as GOD would have planned for her, she was introduced to the director of a publisher co, and after collecting all the info through personal interview in rev tam ki's tribal hometown, a faraway place deeply involved with spiritual worship, she thought,"i hv all the 1st hand verified info. it's so amazing and i should write a book to praise GOD!"
thus, she quit her job and spent one yr writing the book.
she's probably one of the best author whom i hv come across, giving proper presentations about her book and the characters. in her words, you could the genuine heartbeats of love and faith in GOD.
well, rev tam ki shared about his life before GOD's entry into his life; a drunkard. at the age of 20, he was proclaimed dead for 8 hrs due to spiritual attack disease, but he actually experienced GOD taking him to heaven for a round.
in his description, there were angels, beautiful garden, people walking around, hymns and praises.....it was such a wonderful place. GOD's mission to him,"share the gospel with his community.' u knw how hard it would be - spiritual worshippers.
for the next 5 yrs, he had no bible and no idea what prayer and hymns were all about. but, his experience open his eyes to GOD's existence. one day, a missionary pastor entered into his remote land of hometown and started to teach him about 'GOD' and 'prayer'. he was excited but only knew one song then....
according to him, this only song was enough for him to pray for healing for others....he was gifted in that manner! several recounts of his healing prayer touched many. and it almost always happened on x'mas day, where christians round the world celebrate the holy season.
one day, a leper passed by (such leper story was also recounted in the bible) a place that rev tam ki was preaching. he wanted to be healed. rev tam ki just prayed for him and as he watched the man's rotten skin condition with flesh eaten away by the disease, his faith did not flinch a bit.
the next day, the man went looking for him, telling him "i hv never slept so well in my many years of living...but i did last night!" over the next 1 wk, healing power was working in his life, and today, he's also in missionary work, proclaiming GOD's majestic power.
when the leper was interviewed by the author, lim min, he shared that getting leprosy was one of the worst nightmare in his life. his day would be spent sitting under a tree, seeing his flesh being gnawed at, and with him biting his exposed bone to grant some relief. but today, he's all healed although pics of him now show deformed fingers etc.
over the last 3 decades, rev tam ki has built many churches in the uphill slopes of chin villages, which seemed to be an almost impossible task. digging the land itself would take 2 yrs before structures can be piled upon it.
his initial life was fraught with persecution but his faith persisted....he shared that one time on x'mas, he was sharing the gospel and closing with prayer, by the time he opened his eyes, his congregation was almost all gone!
in his befuddled state, his nephew came to tell him,"uncle, someone tried to shoot u. that's why ur crowd has dispersed!"
after another 2 attempts by that man to kill him, rev tam ki shared in a jovial manner that the bullet just didn't work....flying in other direction. he truly saw GOD's protecting arms on him.
to date, he has raised 7 from death and healed many. this man spoke with faith and power. like what he said, he would nvr hv imagined himself to be on the land of singapore and attired like a civilised soul...his tribal village pple are adorned with tribal costumes, bow and arrow plus gun to kill animals and enemies, at any time.
GOD has his ways of using pple....we are often the ones to hear the story and wow with admiration. but one day, should our turn come, i wonder what would be our reaction?
Friday, May 27, 2011
feeling so fat...
i hv been eating quite a fair bit this week....laksa, nasi lemak, bread, sphaghetti...all things unhealthy.
i woke up these few mornings with a heavy feeling.....as if my feet size have shrunk and my body was becoming too burdensome for me to carry!
signs of 'fatso' feeling or rather, awakening call for 'exercise'!
my waistline feels so broad and my tummy feels so hard and round!
i told my hubby last night,"for the next one week, plse control ME!"
"control you?" he quizzed.
by that, i meant to help 'rein in' my diet. i knew it was that period of the month that made me greedy for snacks.
i decided to give time for exercise starting this weekend....without exercise, one really feels lousy.
ystday evening, it was a surprise to see hubby back at 7 pm and suggested a swim at the pool with claire. she was all for it, needless to say!
seeing him exercise really boosts up my energy....no wonder they say, one inspiring the other. hope the exercise regime for HIM and ME will sustain.....
really feel so FAT....
i woke up these few mornings with a heavy feeling.....as if my feet size have shrunk and my body was becoming too burdensome for me to carry!
signs of 'fatso' feeling or rather, awakening call for 'exercise'!
my waistline feels so broad and my tummy feels so hard and round!
i told my hubby last night,"for the next one week, plse control ME!"
"control you?" he quizzed.
by that, i meant to help 'rein in' my diet. i knew it was that period of the month that made me greedy for snacks.
i decided to give time for exercise starting this weekend....without exercise, one really feels lousy.
ystday evening, it was a surprise to see hubby back at 7 pm and suggested a swim at the pool with claire. she was all for it, needless to say!
seeing him exercise really boosts up my energy....no wonder they say, one inspiring the other. hope the exercise regime for HIM and ME will sustain.....
really feel so FAT....
dementia?
it was time to pick claire up from sch at 1.15pm
i left hme with helper to perform our daily job.
helper, j was sent to the supermarket to buy some grocery stuff while i went to pick up claire up from sch. she was her usual unkempt-haired self when i saw her.
we were happily chatting away as i told her that joy was waiting for her at home to get ready at 2 pm for a haircut and shopping at parkway, while i would go for my facial.
when we got home, claire was looking hi and low for helper j. in the room, no one was in sight! the rooms bore no footsteps of her too! it was strange that we did not hear her 'yes, mei mei, aunty is coming!'
i was also feeling little funny. checking with joy, that was all i heard,"mom, didn't aunty go out with u to pick mei mei?'
"aiya...how could i forget?"
as she had not mobile for contact, i had to drive out again. she must be wondering,"where has madam gone to?" i could imagine her blur look....haha.
true enough, upon reaching claire's sch, i saw her standing there waiting.....
i related the incident to her and she just smiled...afterall, she wasn't very expressive in english due to vocab limitation.
frankly, i was feeling really tired afte the exams though i had taken a good 1-week break off classes.
i began to wonder if it was due to the 'fish oil' brand of pdt that i started taking...everytime i consume it, i felt that my brain went blank...i recalled the sales lady told me,"some people feel nauseous after taking it...so u go slow!"
many years ago, i was taking evening primrose pdt and i experienced the same feeling too....
in the night, i was telling hubby that i might really hit dementia as i age, and might forget the way to come home....
haha, incidentally, he was also telling me that he could foresee his 晚年居住在天桥底下，因为得了老人痴呆症，不认得回家的路！
sounds so pathetic, right? i told her, "as long as i'm around, 我一定把你揪出来！" well, did the man really think that it's so easy to leave my 黄家掌？慢慢等吧！哈哈，just for laughs...
i left hme with helper to perform our daily job.
helper, j was sent to the supermarket to buy some grocery stuff while i went to pick up claire up from sch. she was her usual unkempt-haired self when i saw her.
we were happily chatting away as i told her that joy was waiting for her at home to get ready at 2 pm for a haircut and shopping at parkway, while i would go for my facial.
when we got home, claire was looking hi and low for helper j. in the room, no one was in sight! the rooms bore no footsteps of her too! it was strange that we did not hear her 'yes, mei mei, aunty is coming!'
i was also feeling little funny. checking with joy, that was all i heard,"mom, didn't aunty go out with u to pick mei mei?'
"aiya...how could i forget?"
as she had not mobile for contact, i had to drive out again. she must be wondering,"where has madam gone to?" i could imagine her blur look....haha.
true enough, upon reaching claire's sch, i saw her standing there waiting.....
i related the incident to her and she just smiled...afterall, she wasn't very expressive in english due to vocab limitation.
frankly, i was feeling really tired afte the exams though i had taken a good 1-week break off classes.
i began to wonder if it was due to the 'fish oil' brand of pdt that i started taking...everytime i consume it, i felt that my brain went blank...i recalled the sales lady told me,"some people feel nauseous after taking it...so u go slow!"
many years ago, i was taking evening primrose pdt and i experienced the same feeling too....
in the night, i was telling hubby that i might really hit dementia as i age, and might forget the way to come home....
haha, incidentally, he was also telling me that he could foresee his 晚年居住在天桥底下，因为得了老人痴呆症，不认得回家的路！
sounds so pathetic, right? i told her, "as long as i'm around, 我一定把你揪出来！" well, did the man really think that it's so easy to leave my 黄家掌？慢慢等吧！哈哈，just for laughs...
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
xin yao 9 concert
i was with serene at the xin yao 9th yr concert anniversary.
it was a flop.
not enough performers. no surprises. so much so that they hv to include 'impersonation' show and english titles from other singers, plus another celebrity singer from taiwan.
that aside, i was still full of admiration for those people who have persisted till today in their passion for such genre of songs....xin yao.
like how 黎沸辉put it, his younger days were spent with 巫启贤,自弹自唱in the bedroom comfort, half naked. he was 82 kg then and with whole body laden with fats. then one day, when they hv finished singing, they heard applause and cheers from neighbours at opposite blocks, who were their faithful audience.
today, each has carved a niche in the singing profession. the interest never died.
well, it's not easy, but such passion really is inspiring.
it was a flop.
not enough performers. no surprises. so much so that they hv to include 'impersonation' show and english titles from other singers, plus another celebrity singer from taiwan.
that aside, i was still full of admiration for those people who have persisted till today in their passion for such genre of songs....xin yao.
like how 黎沸辉put it, his younger days were spent with 巫启贤,自弹自唱in the bedroom comfort, half naked. he was 82 kg then and with whole body laden with fats. then one day, when they hv finished singing, they heard applause and cheers from neighbours at opposite blocks, who were their faithful audience.
today, each has carved a niche in the singing profession. the interest never died.
well, it's not easy, but such passion really is inspiring.
joy's 2nd k-pop competition
joy informed last night that her sch promo exam will be brought earlier by 2 weeks.
it was bad news coz' it might clash with her plan to take part in another k-pop dance competition.
however, she wasnt giving the competition a miss, since she was the one to inititate and had given promise to the other 4 girls in the group of her participation. apparently, this group of 5-some worked so well in the first k-pop dance competition, that they want to do more of such this year.
well, i told her,"u r a big girl now. u shld understand where u stand in terms of priorities..."
she quickly responded,"dun worry, mom! i hv decided to start my exam revision earlier. with effect from now, i'm going to do 'consistent' work...so that will leave me with little revision to do before the exams!"
"what 'consistent' work? i already thot u should be starting with working consistently from beginning of yr...so, what do u mean now?" i retorted.
she proceeded,"actually, u might not understand my definition of 'consistent' work..it means like the way i studied for my 'o' level!"
oh i see, that means studying like a 'statue', not moving or stirring at all.
well, all i ask that joy will start reading the GP essay reference book that i got for her some months back and take more interest in serious study. her way of study is often homework and pre-test prep.
in any case, i trust that she will knw how to manage her time in the midst of the k-pop dance contest coming up plus the sep hip-hop concert; she's one of the choreographers for the concert item(s) which spells good exposure for her.
it was bad news coz' it might clash with her plan to take part in another k-pop dance competition.
however, she wasnt giving the competition a miss, since she was the one to inititate and had given promise to the other 4 girls in the group of her participation. apparently, this group of 5-some worked so well in the first k-pop dance competition, that they want to do more of such this year.
well, i told her,"u r a big girl now. u shld understand where u stand in terms of priorities..."
she quickly responded,"dun worry, mom! i hv decided to start my exam revision earlier. with effect from now, i'm going to do 'consistent' work...so that will leave me with little revision to do before the exams!"
"what 'consistent' work? i already thot u should be starting with working consistently from beginning of yr...so, what do u mean now?" i retorted.
she proceeded,"actually, u might not understand my definition of 'consistent' work..it means like the way i studied for my 'o' level!"
oh i see, that means studying like a 'statue', not moving or stirring at all.
well, all i ask that joy will start reading the GP essay reference book that i got for her some months back and take more interest in serious study. her way of study is often homework and pre-test prep.
in any case, i trust that she will knw how to manage her time in the midst of the k-pop dance contest coming up plus the sep hip-hop concert; she's one of the choreographers for the concert item(s) which spells good exposure for her.
Sunday, May 15, 2011
claire's baked potatoes
claire is off from sch today. exam markin day.
so, to prevent her from being restless at home, i told her to try learning to bake potatoes, a dish that she enjoys.
it's done now. and she intends to bring it to popo's hse to share with her 4 cousins.
it's an achievement for kids to step into the kitchen to learn something.
life is not all about study. i want her to be good in outdoor activities, computer literacy, IQ math, current affairs etc.....
we intend to bake a cake this week too!
but the best part of doing sth, is not to do and keep it for oneself, but to share it with many others.
in this manner, the light will shine....and the kids will take more pride in her job.
so, to prevent her from being restless at home, i told her to try learning to bake potatoes, a dish that she enjoys.
it's done now. and she intends to bring it to popo's hse to share with her 4 cousins.
it's an achievement for kids to step into the kitchen to learn something.
life is not all about study. i want her to be good in outdoor activities, computer literacy, IQ math, current affairs etc.....
we intend to bake a cake this week too!
but the best part of doing sth, is not to do and keep it for oneself, but to share it with many others.
in this manner, the light will shine....and the kids will take more pride in her job.
good luck, white!
white is starting on a new job.
after 10th yr in the old (current) job.
that's such a relieving news to us all.
every new venture comes with insecurity and risks. but, i do think that there's nothing to lose anymore.
if new envt is good, it will be a boost.
if new envt is not within expectation, it's just another refreshing challenge, but at higher pay.
in year 2004, i started off as a commercial centre tutor for p4- p6 stdts. it was not easy. modelling approach was new to me then. when the p6 questions were presented to me, i wasnt able to solve every one of them. i had methods, but longer way.
it was after some months of poring into books and using my brain functioning power, that i began to devise strategies for myself. imparting to stdts the right way to do things is a wonderful feeling. finding short-cut method to doing things is a bonus feel.
it's been my 8th yr now. i'm getting better with handling not just the academic aspect of stdts, but the emotional part of it as well.
the best thing that i hv done in the last decade was to find my niche in teaching. it's carefree and gives me the oppy to knw kids a lot better. it also motivates me to listen out for jokes to share with them.
for such a change in my career, i hv only one person to thank - my dear HUBBY, who has been supportive of my financial needs. well, some tutors earn much, but recently, i was amused when one dentist friend and me share a sentiment that 'we are the most poorly paid dentist and tutor around town!"
but, we continue to count our blessings.
after 10th yr in the old (current) job.
that's such a relieving news to us all.
every new venture comes with insecurity and risks. but, i do think that there's nothing to lose anymore.
if new envt is good, it will be a boost.
if new envt is not within expectation, it's just another refreshing challenge, but at higher pay.
in year 2004, i started off as a commercial centre tutor for p4- p6 stdts. it was not easy. modelling approach was new to me then. when the p6 questions were presented to me, i wasnt able to solve every one of them. i had methods, but longer way.
it was after some months of poring into books and using my brain functioning power, that i began to devise strategies for myself. imparting to stdts the right way to do things is a wonderful feeling. finding short-cut method to doing things is a bonus feel.
it's been my 8th yr now. i'm getting better with handling not just the academic aspect of stdts, but the emotional part of it as well.
the best thing that i hv done in the last decade was to find my niche in teaching. it's carefree and gives me the oppy to knw kids a lot better. it also motivates me to listen out for jokes to share with them.
for such a change in my career, i hv only one person to thank - my dear HUBBY, who has been supportive of my financial needs. well, some tutors earn much, but recently, i was amused when one dentist friend and me share a sentiment that 'we are the most poorly paid dentist and tutor around town!"
but, we continue to count our blessings.
oh no...plse turn back, mom!
we were on the way fetching the 2 girls to their dance studio.
halfway yakking, joy suddenly screamed in horror and with face turning pale,"omg...plse plse, can we turn back to go home? i forgot sth.." we were already 2 minutes from the destination spot.
"what happened?" i probed.
"i forgot to wear my bra..." she continued.
i looked at her black-color tee and wondered,"what's the big deal? can't see ur nipples, what?"
"that's the point!" she responded.
haha, so her concern was the flat chest, not that nipples were made visible to the public eyes.
i jokingly told her that i could lend her my bra, if not for my translucent white tee, coz' that would put me in a more embarassing situation.
"i look like a man...so flat-chested!" she griped.
"ok, 2 choices, either u follow us home to wear it and then make ur way to anchorvale on ur own, or we go compass point to buy a new one, but deductible from ur weekly allowance!"
the 2nd option was preferred.
so, on the way to compass point, i caught 2 men looking at her and told her not to worry about her 'flat chest'. btw, one was an indian foreign worker, and the other an 'obiang' bf of a plain-looking girl. haha, so, it was nothing flattering afterall!
walking into metro lingerie corner, she kept reminding me not to draw too much attention about her bra and breast. i was really amused.
anyway, the purchase was completed and she got herself back to a normal woman feel.
so, what's the moral of this story?
breast size is impt to women afterall. if they dun hv enough to boast, they will need to artificially enhance the size with the help of 'bra'....hoping it to be 'ze-bra' size, haha!
like how joy put it,"u knw, during our dance, we hv to do all kinds of action like chest-pop...".
frankly, to me, dun hv means dun hv lor. who tells her to defy my good advice of wearing less tubes and strapless bra, which cause the 2 lumps of fats to fail the 'convergence' test....aiyo, better dun elaborate too much, else the fire will start in my home!
bye, everyone. and dun mention it to her when u see her.....
halfway yakking, joy suddenly screamed in horror and with face turning pale,"omg...plse plse, can we turn back to go home? i forgot sth.." we were already 2 minutes from the destination spot.
"what happened?" i probed.
"i forgot to wear my bra..." she continued.
i looked at her black-color tee and wondered,"what's the big deal? can't see ur nipples, what?"
"that's the point!" she responded.
haha, so her concern was the flat chest, not that nipples were made visible to the public eyes.
i jokingly told her that i could lend her my bra, if not for my translucent white tee, coz' that would put me in a more embarassing situation.
"i look like a man...so flat-chested!" she griped.
"ok, 2 choices, either u follow us home to wear it and then make ur way to anchorvale on ur own, or we go compass point to buy a new one, but deductible from ur weekly allowance!"
the 2nd option was preferred.
so, on the way to compass point, i caught 2 men looking at her and told her not to worry about her 'flat chest'. btw, one was an indian foreign worker, and the other an 'obiang' bf of a plain-looking girl. haha, so, it was nothing flattering afterall!
walking into metro lingerie corner, she kept reminding me not to draw too much attention about her bra and breast. i was really amused.
anyway, the purchase was completed and she got herself back to a normal woman feel.
so, what's the moral of this story?
breast size is impt to women afterall. if they dun hv enough to boast, they will need to artificially enhance the size with the help of 'bra'....hoping it to be 'ze-bra' size, haha!
like how joy put it,"u knw, during our dance, we hv to do all kinds of action like chest-pop...".
frankly, to me, dun hv means dun hv lor. who tells her to defy my good advice of wearing less tubes and strapless bra, which cause the 2 lumps of fats to fail the 'convergence' test....aiyo, better dun elaborate too much, else the fire will start in my home!
bye, everyone. and dun mention it to her when u see her.....
Friday, May 13, 2011
short-term memory?
claire's friend, ds came to my house yesterday, after the last hmt exam paper.
the moment claire hopped into the car, she excitedly told me about her math results.
in my house, ds asked if claire often 'reported' the exam result at first instance to me. of coz lah, claire replied.
she said,"i dun. normally, only when i get the paper!"
"why?" enquired the curious clairy cat.
"coz i dun want to let them knw if i dun perform up to their expectations!" quizzed the girl.
"but, good or bad, u tell them, it's once and for all what. either way, u still hv to disclose ur results....so, better tell early than late!"
"coz' my parents got short-term memory!" out came the funny reply.
"what do u mean?" probed my girl.
"when u dun do well and tell them, u get one scolding. then, u show them the paper, u get another scolding! so, i would rather show them later and get the scolding once!"
aye, u see, how kids are so smart these days....parents' behaviours can really mould a kid.
to me, my style is always telling the kids, to face the music of one's actions. immediacy is impt. procrastination might just aggravate the situation, coz' that's tantamount to hiding information.
so, when claire told the daddy about her 80 plus results, the only thing that he asked was,"claire, i'm not keen to knw how ur friend do. but ask urself, r u happy with the score? is this the best that u could have done?"
"YES, daddy, i think i'm the 2nd highest among the girls....all my friends...."
okay okay, at the end of it, if a kid doesnt do well, teach her to see her weaknesses and remind her to 'jiayou'......
the moment claire hopped into the car, she excitedly told me about her math results.
in my house, ds asked if claire often 'reported' the exam result at first instance to me. of coz lah, claire replied.
she said,"i dun. normally, only when i get the paper!"
"why?" enquired the curious clairy cat.
"coz i dun want to let them knw if i dun perform up to their expectations!" quizzed the girl.
"but, good or bad, u tell them, it's once and for all what. either way, u still hv to disclose ur results....so, better tell early than late!"
"coz' my parents got short-term memory!" out came the funny reply.
"what do u mean?" probed my girl.
"when u dun do well and tell them, u get one scolding. then, u show them the paper, u get another scolding! so, i would rather show them later and get the scolding once!"
aye, u see, how kids are so smart these days....parents' behaviours can really mould a kid.
to me, my style is always telling the kids, to face the music of one's actions. immediacy is impt. procrastination might just aggravate the situation, coz' that's tantamount to hiding information.
so, when claire told the daddy about her 80 plus results, the only thing that he asked was,"claire, i'm not keen to knw how ur friend do. but ask urself, r u happy with the score? is this the best that u could have done?"
"YES, daddy, i think i'm the 2nd highest among the girls....all my friends...."
okay okay, at the end of it, if a kid doesnt do well, teach her to see her weaknesses and remind her to 'jiayou'......
when the noise is gone one day...
serene sent me sth....i thot it was quite a true reflection of our lives each day.
simply, it said mothers get irritated with all the noises and lame squabbles happening every hour at home, among the kids.
but one day, when all these are gone...ie. no more scratchy noise of children waking up in morning, no more bickering on trivialities, no more laughter from the room, no more hearing of children's phone conversations with their friends,......we would feel empty and lost.
the whole gist of it all, life is a process. often, when we possess all these little things, we see them as pests, and couldn't wait to be the pest controllers.
i recall how in my own bz schedules, i would tell claire,"say it quick. learn to summarize...dun be so long-winded!" i wonder, one day, in my greying years, would i receive the same comments from them?
so, in essence, we should treasure having the kids around. at different age, we see them do different things and should strive to grow with them and be lifelong learners.
simply, it said mothers get irritated with all the noises and lame squabbles happening every hour at home, among the kids.
but one day, when all these are gone...ie. no more scratchy noise of children waking up in morning, no more bickering on trivialities, no more laughter from the room, no more hearing of children's phone conversations with their friends,......we would feel empty and lost.
the whole gist of it all, life is a process. often, when we possess all these little things, we see them as pests, and couldn't wait to be the pest controllers.
i recall how in my own bz schedules, i would tell claire,"say it quick. learn to summarize...dun be so long-winded!" i wonder, one day, in my greying years, would i receive the same comments from them?
so, in essence, we should treasure having the kids around. at different age, we see them do different things and should strive to grow with them and be lifelong learners.
chee ko pek
mom's place.
5 kids in the room with laughter filling the air.
suddenly, trisha came running out telling popo,"popo, 他们cheekopek我，为什么我不能cheekopek他们？“ frankly, it took me a while to understand what she said.
we didn't take much heed till i saw tears running in trisha's eyes. so, to make things clear, i used to thunderous voice to command attention,"claire, come out from the room!" "or.." she replied in squirmish voice.
but the good thing about me was i didn't jump into conclusion.
i gave her a chance to explain. so, claire said that trisha happened to see nat's panty colour and said it out loud,"it's green!" so, in 'reciprocation', nat said she wants to knw trisha's colour too. so, it was 'mulberry bush round and round', with all other 3 kids pulling down (not the whole thing lah) one another's pants to check out the colour code.
so, it's a fair game lah. i wanted to double confirm so i summoned all the kids to be out. nat started to explain and then everyone ended up laughing. including the little cute lucas.
then, i looked at trisha and said, "then, why are you crying?"
she looked at me and breaking into a smile,"i also dunno why i cry!"
haha, maybe it's the age, she felt like she has been molested. i knew trisha is pretty conservative in some ways, such that she doesnt' like white to hv indecent exposure in dressing. so, maybe that event in the room hurt her a little.
but, at the end of it, i told all kids,"if u all want to play, must not cry,ok?"
everyone nodded and there, trisha broke out laughing again. she's such a funny sight.
then, mom said,"她每次都是这样的，一点事情就哭，不懂得人，会以为她被欺负！“
not the ending yet....
nana told us that gallant lucas actually told trisha jiejie in the room,"like that also cry.."
so, i told everyone that lucas is my hero for being young, and yet so mature. i encouraged every one to give him a hug of honour.
guess what, he couldn't take the over-dose of girls' hug and attention.....and started ot have tears running in his eyes!
what's with white's kids, haha? so emotional.
but it was sure a funny sight when u heard all kids burst out laughing when i was the mrs BAO....
see, i told u, this is the result of our wong sisters identifying themselves by color codes...one day, u will hv the nieces addressing themselves by green, pink, purple and maybe a repetitive white....
5 kids in the room with laughter filling the air.
suddenly, trisha came running out telling popo,"popo, 他们cheekopek我，为什么我不能cheekopek他们？“ frankly, it took me a while to understand what she said.
we didn't take much heed till i saw tears running in trisha's eyes. so, to make things clear, i used to thunderous voice to command attention,"claire, come out from the room!" "or.." she replied in squirmish voice.
but the good thing about me was i didn't jump into conclusion.
i gave her a chance to explain. so, claire said that trisha happened to see nat's panty colour and said it out loud,"it's green!" so, in 'reciprocation', nat said she wants to knw trisha's colour too. so, it was 'mulberry bush round and round', with all other 3 kids pulling down (not the whole thing lah) one another's pants to check out the colour code.
so, it's a fair game lah. i wanted to double confirm so i summoned all the kids to be out. nat started to explain and then everyone ended up laughing. including the little cute lucas.
then, i looked at trisha and said, "then, why are you crying?"
she looked at me and breaking into a smile,"i also dunno why i cry!"
haha, maybe it's the age, she felt like she has been molested. i knew trisha is pretty conservative in some ways, such that she doesnt' like white to hv indecent exposure in dressing. so, maybe that event in the room hurt her a little.
but, at the end of it, i told all kids,"if u all want to play, must not cry,ok?"
everyone nodded and there, trisha broke out laughing again. she's such a funny sight.
then, mom said,"她每次都是这样的，一点事情就哭，不懂得人，会以为她被欺负！“
not the ending yet....
nana told us that gallant lucas actually told trisha jiejie in the room,"like that also cry.."
so, i told everyone that lucas is my hero for being young, and yet so mature. i encouraged every one to give him a hug of honour.
guess what, he couldn't take the over-dose of girls' hug and attention.....and started ot have tears running in his eyes!
what's with white's kids, haha? so emotional.
but it was sure a funny sight when u heard all kids burst out laughing when i was the mrs BAO....
see, i told u, this is the result of our wong sisters identifying themselves by color codes...one day, u will hv the nieces addressing themselves by green, pink, purple and maybe a repetitive white....
maid's woes
a friend told me that her indo maid has been troubled by the marriage affair.
she learnt recently that her hubby wanted to leave her, and has since abandoned the kid in the nanny's custody, not footing the baby-sitting expenses too!
she mentioned that she's the 2nd wife of the man and is more concerned with her kid's affair than the hubby.
she's thinking of going back, despite having worked her for about 4 months and still paying her debts from mthly salary.
my caring friend spoke to her about the bleak prospects of returning home (jobless situation), the kid's monetary welfare not taken care of and encouraged her to move on in singapore, after lending her a month's salary to send home to the nanny.
it's so saddening. such indo women leaving their hometown to strive for a living, in a foreign environment, and yet being 'betrayed' by the man whom they hv given their lives.
looking at ourselves here in singapore, life is so much easier with all the amenities and help available at door step, and more importantly, our men take care of household expenses well.
she learnt recently that her hubby wanted to leave her, and has since abandoned the kid in the nanny's custody, not footing the baby-sitting expenses too!
she mentioned that she's the 2nd wife of the man and is more concerned with her kid's affair than the hubby.
she's thinking of going back, despite having worked her for about 4 months and still paying her debts from mthly salary.
my caring friend spoke to her about the bleak prospects of returning home (jobless situation), the kid's monetary welfare not taken care of and encouraged her to move on in singapore, after lending her a month's salary to send home to the nanny.
it's so saddening. such indo women leaving their hometown to strive for a living, in a foreign environment, and yet being 'betrayed' by the man whom they hv given their lives.
looking at ourselves here in singapore, life is so much easier with all the amenities and help available at door step, and more importantly, our men take care of household expenses well.
spiritual warfare?
i hv joined a fri cell group in church.
at 8.20 pm last night, i left mom's place with claire and was making my way home.
i was appalled when the car engine couldn't start. thinking that it might be the battery weakness in my remote control car key, i got out of the car, to attempt opening and locking the car with remote control.
it was fine.
so, i tried again to start the engine. result was none the different.
i told claire,"i remembered uncle colin and qin-yi had this problem last year!" without much ado, i called red. when we finally spoke, she cool-ly told me,"leng, just turn the steering wheel!"
"but it's so stiff and seems to be locked up...ok, let me try again!"
after some attempts, bravo, everything was restored back to normal.
after thanking her, i sped my way home like scooby-doo!
i related to claire that there seemed to be always sth blocking my way to the fri cell meeting. but i told her, it's impt to persevere in life, and look for the right people to direct you to the solution.
i also told her the importance of knowing new people, being exposed to circumstances...so that, we will not be taken aback when some strange things happen.
indeed, 经一事，长一智！ hmmm...must encourage claire to start using this term in chinese writing. she's only good with 'once bitten, twice shy"!
at 8.20 pm last night, i left mom's place with claire and was making my way home.
i was appalled when the car engine couldn't start. thinking that it might be the battery weakness in my remote control car key, i got out of the car, to attempt opening and locking the car with remote control.
it was fine.
so, i tried again to start the engine. result was none the different.
i told claire,"i remembered uncle colin and qin-yi had this problem last year!" without much ado, i called red. when we finally spoke, she cool-ly told me,"leng, just turn the steering wheel!"
"but it's so stiff and seems to be locked up...ok, let me try again!"
after some attempts, bravo, everything was restored back to normal.
after thanking her, i sped my way home like scooby-doo!
i related to claire that there seemed to be always sth blocking my way to the fri cell meeting. but i told her, it's impt to persevere in life, and look for the right people to direct you to the solution.
i also told her the importance of knowing new people, being exposed to circumstances...so that, we will not be taken aback when some strange things happen.
indeed, 经一事，长一智！ hmmm...must encourage claire to start using this term in chinese writing. she's only good with 'once bitten, twice shy"!
exam fever is over!
well, with exam classes over, i'm declaring next one week a holiday for myself.
time to let my tensed muscles relax.....meeting up with friends, shopping and movies are in my list of 'to do'!
i have so much to write about. seriously, that's the best part about life. it's continuing, it's exploratory, it's manifesting.....it's like a river flow that's non-ceasing such that everyday's events will unfold themselves and remind us about something.
hope the outcome of students' results will be in line with my effort and their hard work (if any).
amen.
time to let my tensed muscles relax.....meeting up with friends, shopping and movies are in my list of 'to do'!
i have so much to write about. seriously, that's the best part about life. it's continuing, it's exploratory, it's manifesting.....it's like a river flow that's non-ceasing such that everyday's events will unfold themselves and remind us about something.
hope the outcome of students' results will be in line with my effort and their hard work (if any).
amen.
Saturday, May 7, 2011
my dad played me out!
last night, i was appalled to learn from white and blackie that my own dad belonged to the 'NATO' group. ha, not the aeronautical agent, but 'No Action Talk Only'!
well, it started with my dad 'psycho-ing' me and any other pple present to vote for 'opposition', citing much unhappiness on the street with PAP.
coupled with the hard-core 'opposition' member in my home and much observation of today's political scene, i was kinda ...well....voting is confidential, so can't let the secret out of the big bag!
but, in my conversation with white and blackie, i realised that dad (apparently) still gave his vote to PAP, on account of the need of bonus payout. certainly, he didnt want to be blacklisted. even a small yearly payout can satisfy his mercenary soul, haha.
well, the truth is, the old folks' mentality is such...no job to back them up, much as they are unhappy with the political scene here, they are happy to just stay put and vote the PAP in.
there's even talk that our votes are being coded, to allow PAP to knw who are their 'foes'. of coz, i won't believe such 'wuliao' tactics. afterall, they are ministers who are paid millions to
look into restructuring the nation to 1st-class level. having some citizens against their camp is only a small fraction. why would they even bother?
haha, dad, i wouldnt trust u anymore!
well, it started with my dad 'psycho-ing' me and any other pple present to vote for 'opposition', citing much unhappiness on the street with PAP.
coupled with the hard-core 'opposition' member in my home and much observation of today's political scene, i was kinda ...well....voting is confidential, so can't let the secret out of the big bag!
but, in my conversation with white and blackie, i realised that dad (apparently) still gave his vote to PAP, on account of the need of bonus payout. certainly, he didnt want to be blacklisted. even a small yearly payout can satisfy his mercenary soul, haha.
well, the truth is, the old folks' mentality is such...no job to back them up, much as they are unhappy with the political scene here, they are happy to just stay put and vote the PAP in.
there's even talk that our votes are being coded, to allow PAP to knw who are their 'foes'. of coz, i won't believe such 'wuliao' tactics. afterall, they are ministers who are paid millions to
look into restructuring the nation to 1st-class level. having some citizens against their camp is only a small fraction. why would they even bother?
haha, dad, i wouldnt trust u anymore!
election agent
haha, joy was the only one in the family who followed through the election broadcast and results last nite. hubby was at one of the polling centres bz with his 'national service' role!
i gave up halfway, due to the sleepy creatures beckoning me into the bedroom.
joy would rush into my room, reporting about each smc or grc results, as and when it was announced, not bothering if i was already in dreamland.
wow, i was really surprised with such enthusiasm from joy. it was a nice surprise though, to hv her so interested in politics. tell u what, she hardly knew anything about the nomination and the campaigns going on until last nite.
it started with white and blackie seated in living room with us watching the election news. i guess with more pple talking about it, joy was more eager to find out more. at one stage, i was asking joy, white and blackie, "what does GRC stand for?" ha, all got it wrong, thinking that G meant 'GRASSROOT'! see, even adults could be ignorant.....
anyway, hubby came back at close to 4 am. this morn, the first thing i did was to check into joy' s room...there she was, telling me everything about the results, including the % and close shave in joo chiat, potong pasir....
so, i complimented her for being involved in this nation-wide election talk. finally, she realised it herself,"true leh, mommy, when u watch, u r so into the whole thing and can rbr things better!"
haha, my effort finally paid off....before last nite, she was firing election questions sporadically, and yet not being able to relate well to actual scene, such that i gave up telling her much. instead, claire was my target of election conversation.
but now, joy seems to hv matured and even told me,"from now on, i'm interested in politics and i'm so excited to be able to vote in next term!"
well, for once, i'm elated coz' there's one more thing to keep joy out of the picture of just dance passion in her current life....keep it up, joy. follow the news and talk it out with us, especially dad.
we want u to grow up having more substance and compassion like nicole seah, despite nicole's nsp group being coined 'no substance party', haha. well, it's a nice acronym since it helps pple rbr the party name better!
i gave up halfway, due to the sleepy creatures beckoning me into the bedroom.
joy would rush into my room, reporting about each smc or grc results, as and when it was announced, not bothering if i was already in dreamland.
wow, i was really surprised with such enthusiasm from joy. it was a nice surprise though, to hv her so interested in politics. tell u what, she hardly knew anything about the nomination and the campaigns going on until last nite.
it started with white and blackie seated in living room with us watching the election news. i guess with more pple talking about it, joy was more eager to find out more. at one stage, i was asking joy, white and blackie, "what does GRC stand for?" ha, all got it wrong, thinking that G meant 'GRASSROOT'! see, even adults could be ignorant.....
anyway, hubby came back at close to 4 am. this morn, the first thing i did was to check into joy' s room...there she was, telling me everything about the results, including the % and close shave in joo chiat, potong pasir....
so, i complimented her for being involved in this nation-wide election talk. finally, she realised it herself,"true leh, mommy, when u watch, u r so into the whole thing and can rbr things better!"
haha, my effort finally paid off....before last nite, she was firing election questions sporadically, and yet not being able to relate well to actual scene, such that i gave up telling her much. instead, claire was my target of election conversation.
but now, joy seems to hv matured and even told me,"from now on, i'm interested in politics and i'm so excited to be able to vote in next term!"
well, for once, i'm elated coz' there's one more thing to keep joy out of the picture of just dance passion in her current life....keep it up, joy. follow the news and talk it out with us, especially dad.
we want u to grow up having more substance and compassion like nicole seah, despite nicole's nsp group being coined 'no substance party', haha. well, it's a nice acronym since it helps pple rbr the party name better!
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
self-esteem smashed?
an upset working mom told me about the 'harsh treatment' received by her boy in school.
apparently, the boy didn't bring his chinese text book and failed to inform the teacher about it.
he just sat there to listen to the teacher's teaching.
when she noticed that the boy was without the text and not even taking the initiative to copy the chinese stuff into his exercise book, she was enraged.
she 'lectured' him, threw his bag onto the floor and dumped his pencil case into the dustbin. all for the reason that he hasnt shown initiative to inform and engage himself during lesson. she had expected him to, at least, faithfully copy the notes flashed on ohp.
as if such ridicule wasnt enough. he was sent out of the class, and into the next class, with the bunch of students 'talking' about his incident. this boy was totally humiliated and didn't knw how to react.
he teared in the toilet during break time and was feeling lousy the whole day.
the exasperated mom called the teacher to confirm the incident happening. post-conversation, she was still upset about the whole thing.
she asked what i would do, if confronted with such a matter.
i told her, much as i could understand the teaching woes of a teacher in a classroom setting, it was inappropriate to put the kid to the degree of humiliation. i would probably see her personally and raised the concern with her.
i couldn't say the boy was in total right stance too. i defined to the mom 'inaction' is all that i can think of.
anyway, being a professional herself, she had requested the teacher to address the issue of 'how she plans to speak to the victimised boy to address his deflated esteem'. a deadline of this fri was issued.
aye, i guess, kids' behaviours are a lot more complex nowadays. teachers' stress level is also highly strung on the edge of cliff. i guess, it's the way things are being handled. there shouldn't be such outburst of anger.....it hurts not just both parties, but the parents as well.
no wonder, parental complaints are becoming more prevalent nowadays.
apparently, the boy didn't bring his chinese text book and failed to inform the teacher about it.
he just sat there to listen to the teacher's teaching.
when she noticed that the boy was without the text and not even taking the initiative to copy the chinese stuff into his exercise book, she was enraged.
she 'lectured' him, threw his bag onto the floor and dumped his pencil case into the dustbin. all for the reason that he hasnt shown initiative to inform and engage himself during lesson. she had expected him to, at least, faithfully copy the notes flashed on ohp.
as if such ridicule wasnt enough. he was sent out of the class, and into the next class, with the bunch of students 'talking' about his incident. this boy was totally humiliated and didn't knw how to react.
he teared in the toilet during break time and was feeling lousy the whole day.
the exasperated mom called the teacher to confirm the incident happening. post-conversation, she was still upset about the whole thing.
she asked what i would do, if confronted with such a matter.
i told her, much as i could understand the teaching woes of a teacher in a classroom setting, it was inappropriate to put the kid to the degree of humiliation. i would probably see her personally and raised the concern with her.
i couldn't say the boy was in total right stance too. i defined to the mom 'inaction' is all that i can think of.
anyway, being a professional herself, she had requested the teacher to address the issue of 'how she plans to speak to the victimised boy to address his deflated esteem'. a deadline of this fri was issued.
aye, i guess, kids' behaviours are a lot more complex nowadays. teachers' stress level is also highly strung on the edge of cliff. i guess, it's the way things are being handled. there shouldn't be such outburst of anger.....it hurts not just both parties, but the parents as well.
no wonder, parental complaints are becoming more prevalent nowadays.
Tuesday, May 3, 2011
car park attendants taking a break?
haha, hubby challenged me to ignore the display of carpark coupons, when i park at hdb area.
his rationale: these attendants are taking a break, upon instruction from 'higher' authority.
true enough, i haven't seen these pest officers around, and it certainly makes me more relaxed.
hubby even told me,"1 fine might just cost 1 vote, ok?"
but what if i get a fine, i asked?
"well, i'll settle ur fines!" he answered.
this is just how confident he is that this election period is going to give us, car owners, a breather.
ok, i shall be good and obedient and listen to him, just to prove his point. what's there to lose for me, anyway?
his rationale: these attendants are taking a break, upon instruction from 'higher' authority.
true enough, i haven't seen these pest officers around, and it certainly makes me more relaxed.
hubby even told me,"1 fine might just cost 1 vote, ok?"
but what if i get a fine, i asked?
"well, i'll settle ur fines!" he answered.
this is just how confident he is that this election period is going to give us, car owners, a breather.
ok, i shall be good and obedient and listen to him, just to prove his point. what's there to lose for me, anyway?
aljunied grc - which camp to vote?
a friend's residential address falls under aljunied grc.
so, she has been 'bombarded' with questions regarding her votes for coming 7th may election.
haha, she's a PAP supporter all these yrs. but now, it's serious matters. everyone is talking about the possibility of having either 'nil' or 'aljunied grc -opposition' presence.
she has an answer now. but told me that her mom is still PAP all the way.
she asked of my views about the younger generation, particulary the views of the graduates.
well, as far as i'm concerned, it's the old aunties like my parents' generation who hv travelled a long way in the political history, seeing the fall and rise of singapore since the 60s, that clearly make them appreciate the work of PAP.
this day, the young generation will only be concerned with housing issues, employment prospects, education subsidy for kids.....so, the answer is pretty obvious!
whatever the case, this is the first time i'm so eager to see the results of the election. the opposition groups are more audacious in speaking up....but, certain issues being raised are valid and worth consideration.
so, she has been 'bombarded' with questions regarding her votes for coming 7th may election.
haha, she's a PAP supporter all these yrs. but now, it's serious matters. everyone is talking about the possibility of having either 'nil' or 'aljunied grc -opposition' presence.
she has an answer now. but told me that her mom is still PAP all the way.
she asked of my views about the younger generation, particulary the views of the graduates.
well, as far as i'm concerned, it's the old aunties like my parents' generation who hv travelled a long way in the political history, seeing the fall and rise of singapore since the 60s, that clearly make them appreciate the work of PAP.
this day, the young generation will only be concerned with housing issues, employment prospects, education subsidy for kids.....so, the answer is pretty obvious!
whatever the case, this is the first time i'm so eager to see the results of the election. the opposition groups are more audacious in speaking up....but, certain issues being raised are valid and worth consideration.
nicole seah's fans
hubby related an amusing incident of his casual bfst meeting with 2 colleagues (old uncles lah) last wkend at marine parade coffee shop.
nicole seah was on 'parole' with her nsp's team. she visibly stood out, and what was surprising was that, hubby's 2 colleagues are her 'fans'...
one even asked nicole,"heard u were not well 2 days ago. are u feeling better?"
the other one quickly called his son,"hey, nicole seah is here. u can come now!"
i wonder what's with this young candidiate that draws pple to her. then, i saw her on tv, the way she shook hands with pple, regaredless of hierarchy, it was done with sincerity, both hands wrapping around the commoners.
maybe it's a warmth of touch with pple. maybe she's just an average family kid who understands the needs of others.
though i'm not exactly impressed with her, i hv to remind myself, at the age of 24, i certainly didn't hv the audacity and courage like her.
hope she performs well in the coming election. the other candidates in her marine parade grc should shine, likewise!
nicole seah was on 'parole' with her nsp's team. she visibly stood out, and what was surprising was that, hubby's 2 colleagues are her 'fans'...
one even asked nicole,"heard u were not well 2 days ago. are u feeling better?"
the other one quickly called his son,"hey, nicole seah is here. u can come now!"
i wonder what's with this young candidiate that draws pple to her. then, i saw her on tv, the way she shook hands with pple, regaredless of hierarchy, it was done with sincerity, both hands wrapping around the commoners.
maybe it's a warmth of touch with pple. maybe she's just an average family kid who understands the needs of others.
though i'm not exactly impressed with her, i hv to remind myself, at the age of 24, i certainly didn't hv the audacity and courage like her.
hope she performs well in the coming election. the other candidates in her marine parade grc should shine, likewise!
low-cut blouse and shorts
joy quietly told me on the phone last night,"mom, u come back fast. i hv sth interesting to share with u.."
yes, i sped my way home, thinking that she might hv been talent-spotted by some star-search agent!
once home, she sat me down and said,"u wanna knw what happened?"
my ears were all erected and alerted...sounds funny here. i mean, in chinese, 两耳竖立啦，别搞错了!
the story unfolded...
a stranger woman chanced upon her facebook and was checking with joy if she would like to be an events model. joy was thrilled, of coz, at this age, with stardom mentality.
"how is the working hours and pay like?" the innocent girl queried.
"4 hours, SGD450!"
smart joy probed,"what's the attire like?"
"hmm...a low-cut blouse and shorts, hv to mingle with the guests!" what an answer.
"venue?" the girl asked further.
"hotel ballroom. oh yes, btw, we are also looking for dancers who can do erotic dance moves!"
of coz, the dear girl rejected the offer, citing to me,"aiyo, i'm so high class. how can i do a job like that. somemore, low-cut blouse, she thinks i got boobs, huh! my facebook pics must hv given her wrong impression!"
guess what i said. "luckily, god gives u no breasts...else, i bet u will be more showy with the assets!"
and for once, joy agreed,"actually, i'm quite thkful now that i dun hv well-endowed front..."
it's a funny incident. but the point is, young girls can easily fall prey to such temptations, in mercenery term and for some, glamour on stage.
letting kids stay away from facebook exposure is almost impossible, all we can do as parents, is to educate them and let them communicate openly and make decisions wisely!
yes, i sped my way home, thinking that she might hv been talent-spotted by some star-search agent!
once home, she sat me down and said,"u wanna knw what happened?"
my ears were all erected and alerted...sounds funny here. i mean, in chinese, 两耳竖立啦，别搞错了!
the story unfolded...
a stranger woman chanced upon her facebook and was checking with joy if she would like to be an events model. joy was thrilled, of coz, at this age, with stardom mentality.
"how is the working hours and pay like?" the innocent girl queried.
"4 hours, SGD450!"
smart joy probed,"what's the attire like?"
"hmm...a low-cut blouse and shorts, hv to mingle with the guests!" what an answer.
"venue?" the girl asked further.
"hotel ballroom. oh yes, btw, we are also looking for dancers who can do erotic dance moves!"
of coz, the dear girl rejected the offer, citing to me,"aiyo, i'm so high class. how can i do a job like that. somemore, low-cut blouse, she thinks i got boobs, huh! my facebook pics must hv given her wrong impression!"
guess what i said. "luckily, god gives u no breasts...else, i bet u will be more showy with the assets!"
and for once, joy agreed,"actually, i'm quite thkful now that i dun hv well-endowed front..."
it's a funny incident. but the point is, young girls can easily fall prey to such temptations, in mercenery term and for some, glamour on stage.
letting kids stay away from facebook exposure is almost impossible, all we can do as parents, is to educate them and let them communicate openly and make decisions wisely!
Monday, May 2, 2011
this sun 8 may performance
well, joy just reminded me about the 8th may public dance performance in the open field near her studio.
plus another one at vjc nxt wkend. some elderly charity show. when probed further, she had no idea what the whole objective was about, except that jacky was the one who arranged for the show. her only concern,"aiya, if we dance for old folks, dunno whether they can appreciate it or not!" see how lame my daughter is.
claire is also involved in both the shows.
then, halfway, she pleaded,"mom, can u cheer for our dance group again this wkend?"
in amused tone, i said,"hello joy, this is a public show. not competition. u think what?"
"u knw, my mood gets really high when i hear cheering...btw, my friends will be there to watch me as well!" she responded.
aye....a bit of swelling balloon syndrome in her head now. imagining herself to be super-stars?
haha, 2 yrs back, she was still hoping to be a singer on stage. but looks like now, all that has been abandoned and replaced by her new found dance interest.
birds of the same feather flock together.....absolutely rite saying.
plus another one at vjc nxt wkend. some elderly charity show. when probed further, she had no idea what the whole objective was about, except that jacky was the one who arranged for the show. her only concern,"aiya, if we dance for old folks, dunno whether they can appreciate it or not!" see how lame my daughter is.
claire is also involved in both the shows.
then, halfway, she pleaded,"mom, can u cheer for our dance group again this wkend?"
in amused tone, i said,"hello joy, this is a public show. not competition. u think what?"
"u knw, my mood gets really high when i hear cheering...btw, my friends will be there to watch me as well!" she responded.
aye....a bit of swelling balloon syndrome in her head now. imagining herself to be super-stars?
haha, 2 yrs back, she was still hoping to be a singer on stage. but looks like now, all that has been abandoned and replaced by her new found dance interest.
birds of the same feather flock together.....absolutely rite saying.
k-pop competition is over!
hey, thanks to all who came to support joy last wkend.
it was a competitive final round.
the impt thing was that the girls put up a very team-spirited performance, encouraging one another to do their best!
though they were only one of the finalists, joy kinda 妙想天开thinking that their group should be ranked 4th or 5th.
post-concert, joy was still in the dream mode. in the midst of boring study, she would slip into holding the i-phone and watching the dance competition video which the dad took for her.
she told me,"it's so nice feeling to be up the stage performing as a dancer. those 2 days were such memories...aye, and now back to study! i love the thought of pple watching and cheering for me!"
looks like she's still in ra-ra land. 快醒来吧，女儿！
last nite, she was browsing thru the websites again and eagerly informed me,"mom, i found another dance competition."
my reply,"no more competition. get back to your academic focus!"
well, it's hard to balance dance interest and serious stuff. while she enjoys doing the former, we hv to keep reminding her not to neglect the latter. she acknowledged and promised that she knws how to shuffle her priorities.
it's all over. but the memories of shaking and swaying their boots will remain....for a long period of time.
it was a competitive final round.
the impt thing was that the girls put up a very team-spirited performance, encouraging one another to do their best!
though they were only one of the finalists, joy kinda 妙想天开thinking that their group should be ranked 4th or 5th.
post-concert, joy was still in the dream mode. in the midst of boring study, she would slip into holding the i-phone and watching the dance competition video which the dad took for her.
she told me,"it's so nice feeling to be up the stage performing as a dancer. those 2 days were such memories...aye, and now back to study! i love the thought of pple watching and cheering for me!"
looks like she's still in ra-ra land. 快醒来吧，女儿！
last nite, she was browsing thru the websites again and eagerly informed me,"mom, i found another dance competition."
my reply,"no more competition. get back to your academic focus!"
well, it's hard to balance dance interest and serious stuff. while she enjoys doing the former, we hv to keep reminding her not to neglect the latter. she acknowledged and promised that she knws how to shuffle her priorities.
it's all over. but the memories of shaking and swaying their boots will remain....for a long period of time.
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