Thursday, March 31, 2011
heavy dimsum lunch
we had ala carte dimsum lunch ysterday. it was fried food aplenty and the result of it all, i had such bad headache and heavy body. upon getting home, i fell asleep. it was with great reluctance that i dragged myself up from the body to take a quick shower before hurrying for teaching class. the whole day was bad. the effect of fried food in my body caused a massive 'choke-up' in my neck and body.... when i got back at 7.30pm, i told hubby that i needed to immerse myself in the pool, to clear off the 'clogged' system. he and claire accompanied me. we had a great time at the pool. immediately, i felt my body lighter. then, i took a sauna bath for a short while and got home to shower. in the night, we decided to go for yoguru dessert. cooling to the tongue and refreshing for the mind. finally, it was home sweet home. i slept early after rubbing whole load of medicated oil on my head and body. this morn, i was better but claire had to miss school coz' she was coughing through the night and feeling her throat pain, following the unhealthy fried dimsum lunch ystday. a day off for her, had breakfast with my parents and white's kids.....then, saw trisha marched smartly into sch compound looking so brave, and stopping to meet a greeting from her friend! i swore never to eat that way again...age is catching up.
Monday, March 28, 2011
joy's in the final round for music festival
well, the latest update from the last sat event, a favourable one indeed.
joy and her dance group was surprised to receive a msg from the judges that they are in for the final round of competition.
it was a twist of event. unexpected. good or bad?
well, it is a double-edged sword.
not getting into final would mean the end of the 'ordeal' . afterall, prep for final competition round is going to be exhausting and might face hurdles here and there. that would translate to more acne breakouts for joy.
the other side of it would mean that, the girls hv a chance to work tgether for next 3 weeks to bring out the best movements in them. to me, it's really giving joy a chance to be more vocal.
whatever the stance, any oppy presented to the group should be grasped with thanksgiving and the girls should just focus on the dance and foster closer ties, rather than wanting to emerge as champion.
frankly, to see joy travel such a long mile to this state of performing on stage, is already unbelievable. not every one enjoys being on stage. in fact, many shun at the oppy.
whatever the outcome might be, i wish her all the best and will strive to make best use of this oppy to learn more contemporary moves.
jiayou, joy!
joy and her dance group was surprised to receive a msg from the judges that they are in for the final round of competition.
it was a twist of event. unexpected. good or bad?
well, it is a double-edged sword.
not getting into final would mean the end of the 'ordeal' . afterall, prep for final competition round is going to be exhausting and might face hurdles here and there. that would translate to more acne breakouts for joy.
the other side of it would mean that, the girls hv a chance to work tgether for next 3 weeks to bring out the best movements in them. to me, it's really giving joy a chance to be more vocal.
whatever the stance, any oppy presented to the group should be grasped with thanksgiving and the girls should just focus on the dance and foster closer ties, rather than wanting to emerge as champion.
frankly, to see joy travel such a long mile to this state of performing on stage, is already unbelievable. not every one enjoys being on stage. in fact, many shun at the oppy.
whatever the outcome might be, i wish her all the best and will strive to make best use of this oppy to learn more contemporary moves.
jiayou, joy!
Saturday, March 26, 2011
being called a cat?
we were at the hospital icu visiting chow. it was late morning hours, since hubby was on leave.
surprisingly, he was high-spirited. i was thrilled as he has been showing fluctuating condition last few weeks, often gasping for breath. wind, the helper was with him.
apparently, there was a 'passing out' event the night before. he was curious to find out what actually happened. i texted his wife and casually joked with him, that he was behaving like a curiosity 'cat'. but, it was really good to see him 'talking' and 'smiling' so much.
at one stage, i said,"u knw, u r really the strongest man i hv ever seen!:
he mouthed his reply clearly,"what to do?"
indeed, if a person reaches a stage that all he could do is just to accept the reality of truths, he will be at peace and strives to handle the pain from within. i truly pray that GOD will relieve him of his physical pain and gives him the spiritual freedom that will let him rest and sleep well.
out of the blue, he wanted to tell me and hubby something. it was tough for us to get the right word, for i heard him saying,"the other day, someone just called me a ...." after many attempts, we realised that he meant 'cat'!
i thought he was 'offended' with me calling him a curiosity 'cat', then it turned out that he was merely sharing the amusing remark that a nurse called him a 'cat' the other day....my significant other half was fast, he nodded with agreement, "coz a cat has 9 lives!"
chow nodded with pleasure, with a satisfactory smile on his face.
indeed, i began to trace with hubby why the western way of presentation is 'a cat has 9 lives?' i hvnt got the answer yet.
we even told chow that the oriental way of saying is '打不死的蟑螂（小强）'.....
so, it was coincidental that chow was being described as a 'cat' on 2 occasions in the same week. we were all amused.
at one stage, he was trying to tell us that 'megan has become very .....', we just didnt get the right adjective word, except that we knew it was a 4-syllabus word. then, he kept saying 4th july...after many attempts, then we realised that he meant 'independent'!
from the conversations, you could tell that chow 's mind is lucid and organised, relating things well. the only thing is that, he has lost track of his time and was asking us about the date.
when i told him that his bdae coincidentally falls on 22 apr and his wife is keen to hv a mini celebration at home, he replied,"see how first!"
we hope to be able to give him more cheer on his 54th bdae......every day that he's able to look around and feel the touch of his beloved family members is a blessing.
jiayou, chow!
was told that
surprisingly, he was high-spirited. i was thrilled as he has been showing fluctuating condition last few weeks, often gasping for breath. wind, the helper was with him.
apparently, there was a 'passing out' event the night before. he was curious to find out what actually happened. i texted his wife and casually joked with him, that he was behaving like a curiosity 'cat'. but, it was really good to see him 'talking' and 'smiling' so much.
at one stage, i said,"u knw, u r really the strongest man i hv ever seen!:
he mouthed his reply clearly,"what to do?"
indeed, if a person reaches a stage that all he could do is just to accept the reality of truths, he will be at peace and strives to handle the pain from within. i truly pray that GOD will relieve him of his physical pain and gives him the spiritual freedom that will let him rest and sleep well.
out of the blue, he wanted to tell me and hubby something. it was tough for us to get the right word, for i heard him saying,"the other day, someone just called me a ...." after many attempts, we realised that he meant 'cat'!
i thought he was 'offended' with me calling him a curiosity 'cat', then it turned out that he was merely sharing the amusing remark that a nurse called him a 'cat' the other day....my significant other half was fast, he nodded with agreement, "coz a cat has 9 lives!"
chow nodded with pleasure, with a satisfactory smile on his face.
indeed, i began to trace with hubby why the western way of presentation is 'a cat has 9 lives?' i hvnt got the answer yet.
we even told chow that the oriental way of saying is '打不死的蟑螂（小强）'.....
so, it was coincidental that chow was being described as a 'cat' on 2 occasions in the same week. we were all amused.
at one stage, he was trying to tell us that 'megan has become very .....', we just didnt get the right adjective word, except that we knew it was a 4-syllabus word. then, he kept saying 4th july...after many attempts, then we realised that he meant 'independent'!
from the conversations, you could tell that chow 's mind is lucid and organised, relating things well. the only thing is that, he has lost track of his time and was asking us about the date.
when i told him that his bdae coincidentally falls on 22 apr and his wife is keen to hv a mini celebration at home, he replied,"see how first!"
we hope to be able to give him more cheer on his 54th bdae......every day that he's able to look around and feel the touch of his beloved family members is a blessing.
jiayou, chow!
was told that
dance audition is over
finally, joy's dance semi-final audition for music festival was over ysterday.
she came back having mixed feelings. out of 5, 2 were selected. well, the geninely 2 strong teams. according to her, hers was the 3rd team which was supposedly to be nominated in, but one of the judges commented that the dance movements were 'inappropriate'.
well, what exactly was inappropriate? the girls felt 'cheated' and were little upset.
afterall, they hv put in so much time and energy. in fact, for joy, it's trading in bz time for acne face.
i was told that her group, in the first audition viewing, was told by the same judge to 'go all out' to dance..meaning, encouraging them to be as 'sexy' as possible. but then, now at semi-final viewing, the same judge felt that those moves were too 'bold'.....
frankly, my own views were positive. i hv watched her dance at home and i seriously thought they looked 60% above amateur, but truly, for a jc environment, it might be deem overly 'sexy'. imagine these jc girls with golden beaded dress and loosening their long straight hair, gyrating to the music and with 'slutty' eyes!
to me, getting in is not the ultimate goal. afterall, its' the first time these girls from diff sec sch got tgether, all having diff opinions to share. being able to come so far in last few weeks and putting together a show, is itself an winning trophy.
in joy's words,"i hv really done my best. we had good showmanship. the only regret is that our group didn't get in, and i would not be able to perform for my ahs friends at the music festival!"
"well, talking abt perfce, there's a lot of platform, dun hold it to heart. isn't one coming in may with jacky?" i said.
the good thing is, after the whole episode of audition ystday, joy got bathed, hid in the room, spoke to a few good friends about the whole event (probably shed a little disappointment tears, haha), she just 'konked out' on the sofa in the living room, joining the 'dreamgirls' in 'ra la land'!
her sleep lasted from late afternoon to this morning 8 plus am.
truly, she needed the rest. it was good to put the burden down. imagine if the group had gone into final, her burden of this project wouldnt just stop ystdy.
she looked all so worn out with the acne breakout on the face. it was sad to see her that way. when i told hubby of my 'heartache' to see her in that state, he responded,"it's a path that every kid has to go through before she can mature...it's nothing!"
maybe, a woman's heart works differently from a man's. but, he's definitely right. what's life without the 酸甜苦辣体验?
an experiential learning speaks a thousand words than one word from the parents, sometimes.
she came back having mixed feelings. out of 5, 2 were selected. well, the geninely 2 strong teams. according to her, hers was the 3rd team which was supposedly to be nominated in, but one of the judges commented that the dance movements were 'inappropriate'.
well, what exactly was inappropriate? the girls felt 'cheated' and were little upset.
afterall, they hv put in so much time and energy. in fact, for joy, it's trading in bz time for acne face.
i was told that her group, in the first audition viewing, was told by the same judge to 'go all out' to dance..meaning, encouraging them to be as 'sexy' as possible. but then, now at semi-final viewing, the same judge felt that those moves were too 'bold'.....
frankly, my own views were positive. i hv watched her dance at home and i seriously thought they looked 60% above amateur, but truly, for a jc environment, it might be deem overly 'sexy'. imagine these jc girls with golden beaded dress and loosening their long straight hair, gyrating to the music and with 'slutty' eyes!
to me, getting in is not the ultimate goal. afterall, its' the first time these girls from diff sec sch got tgether, all having diff opinions to share. being able to come so far in last few weeks and putting together a show, is itself an winning trophy.
in joy's words,"i hv really done my best. we had good showmanship. the only regret is that our group didn't get in, and i would not be able to perform for my ahs friends at the music festival!"
"well, talking abt perfce, there's a lot of platform, dun hold it to heart. isn't one coming in may with jacky?" i said.
the good thing is, after the whole episode of audition ystday, joy got bathed, hid in the room, spoke to a few good friends about the whole event (probably shed a little disappointment tears, haha), she just 'konked out' on the sofa in the living room, joining the 'dreamgirls' in 'ra la land'!
her sleep lasted from late afternoon to this morning 8 plus am.
truly, she needed the rest. it was good to put the burden down. imagine if the group had gone into final, her burden of this project wouldnt just stop ystdy.
she looked all so worn out with the acne breakout on the face. it was sad to see her that way. when i told hubby of my 'heartache' to see her in that state, he responded,"it's a path that every kid has to go through before she can mature...it's nothing!"
maybe, a woman's heart works differently from a man's. but, he's definitely right. what's life without the 酸甜苦辣体验?
an experiential learning speaks a thousand words than one word from the parents, sometimes.
is this a fair request?
i was asking my beloved other half,"what would u like for ur bdae?"
"no need lah!" his usual reply.
yes, indeed a simple man like him wouldn't require a lot. he's probably easily contented with few shirts and shorts to wear at home. that explained why in the last many years, my bdae presentation was merely food.....
at the sports link yesterday,"ah, how abt i buy you a pair of sports shoes?" i made another attempt to convince buying something for him.
after browsing through the rack, his reply was again nay nay.
in any case, i changed my mind too, reasoning,"better not buy shoes for u, else u will walk out of the house!" ha, superstitution talk only lah.
just this morn, i asked in serious tone again,'what would u like to hv for ur bdae?"
finally, he said,"ok lah, u vote for opposition party this yr!"
what, something that's non-monetary based yet, thwarting my own will...no way, i told him.
in his usual dry humor, he said,"i dun want ur vote to neutralise mine!"
wow, this whole thing is getting a little out-of-hand, i retorted.
when we got home, claire pursued this matter with me about voting rights. i gave her an example of the class being asked to vote for the monitor, given the nominees' names. well, would she change her mind about the voting name, just because a very close friend told her to do so, and the basis of the change was tantamount to a bdae gift exchange.
she vehemently said, "no way!"
well, the option for me with the same minded support from my younger daughter is unwavering.
voting is an individual's right. no way would such right be given up as a presentation of bdae gift. while i believe in accepting our spouse in his original form, anything to do with going against my own will and rights, i am afraid, isn't going to work!
sorry, beau!
tell me what u need now, haha?
"no need lah!" his usual reply.
yes, indeed a simple man like him wouldn't require a lot. he's probably easily contented with few shirts and shorts to wear at home. that explained why in the last many years, my bdae presentation was merely food.....
at the sports link yesterday,"ah, how abt i buy you a pair of sports shoes?" i made another attempt to convince buying something for him.
after browsing through the rack, his reply was again nay nay.
in any case, i changed my mind too, reasoning,"better not buy shoes for u, else u will walk out of the house!" ha, superstitution talk only lah.
just this morn, i asked in serious tone again,'what would u like to hv for ur bdae?"
finally, he said,"ok lah, u vote for opposition party this yr!"
what, something that's non-monetary based yet, thwarting my own will...no way, i told him.
in his usual dry humor, he said,"i dun want ur vote to neutralise mine!"
wow, this whole thing is getting a little out-of-hand, i retorted.
when we got home, claire pursued this matter with me about voting rights. i gave her an example of the class being asked to vote for the monitor, given the nominees' names. well, would she change her mind about the voting name, just because a very close friend told her to do so, and the basis of the change was tantamount to a bdae gift exchange.
she vehemently said, "no way!"
well, the option for me with the same minded support from my younger daughter is unwavering.
voting is an individual's right. no way would such right be given up as a presentation of bdae gift. while i believe in accepting our spouse in his original form, anything to do with going against my own will and rights, i am afraid, isn't going to work!
sorry, beau!
tell me what u need now, haha?
Friday, March 25, 2011
genting trip with 2 other guests
the 3 beauties - C.J.J. in short
(all with phoenix eyes)
- youth is always the best!
ha, guess who's that girl? slight resemblance of joy's pose, but i'm afraid it's someone else!
a prize for the right answer! (i mean, claim it from the girl in the pic)
a pic of foursome. 2 with smiley faces. one with a forceful sleepy smile and omg, the last with a sulky look....wisen up, miss J, time to put on your best sunshine smile!
a smile closes up distance between 2 persons, dun you know?
(well, maybe she got up from the wrong side of bed)
what's that pose? i see images of joy....she has finally trained and truly, 名师出高徒！
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overall, the trip was a pleasant one. in fact, the heroic driver didn't find the drive too taxing.
thks to the good night sleep that we had in the chin swee temple environment, which was a 10 minutes drive from genting peak.
in fact, it's so hassle-free, no pre-booking of hotels up at genting highland. furthermore, it cost barely $30 for a night's stay with a double and single bed.
needless to say, nicky slept with us for that 2 nights. luckily, he wasn't a snorer. but he claimed that i did though i insisted that i simply breathed a tad too hard...haha.
well, anything interesting to capture?
joy asked nick one day,"why do u like to play computers so much?"
his nonchalant reply,"i hv nothing better to do at home!"
maybe, that reply shocked joy a little coz' she always thought she had to fight for time to sleep, apart from the usual distractions from facebook, msgs and etc....
on the way driving back from jb to singapore, nicky was telling us that more than half of his class in poly smoke. his position was cute when he was being offered one to try,"erm...my parents dun like me to smoke..also, i'm having a sore throat!"
it was good to know that he didn't fancy smoking. neither was he curious about the experience nor susceptible to the peer's influence.
truly, it's not easy to oppose friends' offer, but being able to keep to one's stance and letting his friends knw about it, takes courage.
i asked in a casual tone,"nicky, did u regret not going to the jc?" "a little!" he said.
"well, impt thing is, jc life is very academic-based, it takes a lot of perseverance and learning how to deal with subjects u dun like. ask joy lah! furthermore, if u hv chosen the poly path, u hv to stick with it till the end!"
he sort of agreed. truly, we hv to let the kids understand, once a path is chosen, like it or not, we shouldn't call it quits so easily!
well, with jo, at the jap restaurant, we 'advised' her to smile more, and not showing that 欠扁脸 (well, no offence, that's how i describe my claire's face when she shows me no smile too!).
nicky was funny to say that he's used to seeing the sister not smiling and would prefer it to remain that way, since it would become artificial to see her smile. what strange reasoning, haha.
then, the main character spoke. in her matter-of-factly way, she responded,"no one in my famiy smiles......" "are you sure? dun your mummy smile and laugh a lot too?" we asked.
"yup, only mummy smiles more. u look at our family portrait...no one was smiling!" both the siblings retorted likewise.
well, to us, i always encourage the kids to put on a smile. joy is all eager to smile and make strangers feel comfortable. claire is still learning .....impt is to keep trying.
not neglecting my own kids, joy and claire, they hv fun rides in the car too, playing games and taking vain pics. afterall, they enjoy more leg space!
not to forget about our visit to the a'famosa water world resort.....wow, how could wild wild wet 'hulala' be compared to the one in malaysia? we literally 'flew' up when we took the ride in fivesome...maybe, it was the weight that caused the 'flight'! i swore, i nearly flew out of the raft...which explained why in the 2nd attempt, the attendants refused to let us go in fives....
the sliding was fun too...long slide and at such speed, that i swore my dear spouse was 'air-borne' on the slide, without his body coming in contact with the slide. it was a thrilling experience, except tha we missed nicky in the whole experience....check with him why?
the moral of the trip last year was 'rough it out', as jo had distinctly remembered.
the moral of this trip was 'six-some or none'.
afterall, our family strongly believes that we do things together, not leaving anyone out unless there's a good reason. it was good having nick and jo with us, a different experience altogether. i am sure none of us would forget the forfeit game in the nice buffet restaurant, when we played 终极密码....the girls were to eat fruits and desserts, and truly, i enjoyed my sweet oranges so much.
it was home sweet home in the night after sending the 2 back.....and the only regret was, i had to sadly miss a good movie in church, titled 'letters to god'!
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our first ever cable car ride to the goh tong jaya wholesale centre was interesting, with nice sample of malaysia's foodstuff. needless to say, we purchased some too! on the way back, we had a hell-ride. out of the blue, the cable car was hung and stopped moving for a while. i could see claire turned ashen-faced in the midst of the swinging cable car....while we continued to joke about the transport possibly giving way.....
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
joy's a scatterbrain
tues morn, joy claimed it was a bad luck day for her!
first, it was waking up really late at 7 am. that meant only 1/2 hr for her to wash her hair, tidy herself up and getting ready for sch. with the courtesy of helper j, who didn't succeed in her 'wakening' mission, due to joy's sleepyhead propensity.
imagine how 'tearful' joy was when i suggested sending her off to sch. yes, it was just one bus-stop away.....and i recalled teasing her that despite the proximity of the sch to our house, she might need this service once in a while....my 'prophesy' has indeed come true!
after sending her off and driving back to home, i received another call. joy needed another svc, for me to deliver 'mama lemon' detergent for her lab work.
aye, this scatterbrain. or should i say, she's a last minute worker. always ignoring impt things to be done till the next day.
i hv been commenting recently that she's too distracted with her new i-phone, always fiddling and meddling with it....and yet, not with the intelligent unit stuff, but all the 'bo liao' facebook and other feature stuff.
after i drove into her sch admin block and dropped off her required detergent, she shouted out loudly,"mom, u r really my LIFE SAVIOUR!" wow, that made me sound like a great WOMAN!
she ended late that day, about 9 pm. with all the dance audition practice, she was bushed and worn out. but her bad luck stories did not stop there.....on and on she recounted to us, but all that we could do was to advise her about the reality of life...
first, it was waking up really late at 7 am. that meant only 1/2 hr for her to wash her hair, tidy herself up and getting ready for sch. with the courtesy of helper j, who didn't succeed in her 'wakening' mission, due to joy's sleepyhead propensity.
imagine how 'tearful' joy was when i suggested sending her off to sch. yes, it was just one bus-stop away.....and i recalled teasing her that despite the proximity of the sch to our house, she might need this service once in a while....my 'prophesy' has indeed come true!
after sending her off and driving back to home, i received another call. joy needed another svc, for me to deliver 'mama lemon' detergent for her lab work.
aye, this scatterbrain. or should i say, she's a last minute worker. always ignoring impt things to be done till the next day.
i hv been commenting recently that she's too distracted with her new i-phone, always fiddling and meddling with it....and yet, not with the intelligent unit stuff, but all the 'bo liao' facebook and other feature stuff.
after i drove into her sch admin block and dropped off her required detergent, she shouted out loudly,"mom, u r really my LIFE SAVIOUR!" wow, that made me sound like a great WOMAN!
she ended late that day, about 9 pm. with all the dance audition practice, she was bushed and worn out. but her bad luck stories did not stop there.....on and on she recounted to us, but all that we could do was to advise her about the reality of life...
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
portrait drawing
claire is into arts, weekly lesson.
she's enjoying it thoroughly, esp with acrylic painting and has also attempted oil painting.
i was happy to learn that she'll be moving into portrait drawing next week. it's sure a progressive learning for her.
the teachers are friendly and supportive, and the studio, well air-conditioned, is like a 'hideout' place for the kids.
best of all, she has found 2 good friends there, whom she feels well-affiliated to.
i hope that claire will continue to learn well in this arena, and i am so glad to see her being creative and independent in her school artwork.
in fact, she did sth really well for class 2 wks ago, and her teacher actually complimented her on the nice work done.
for parents to explore and develop the kids' interest, is really impt. compulsion doesn't work with kids nowadays, so getting them in tune with their heart's aspirations is the utmost consideration.
she's enjoying it thoroughly, esp with acrylic painting and has also attempted oil painting.
i was happy to learn that she'll be moving into portrait drawing next week. it's sure a progressive learning for her.
the teachers are friendly and supportive, and the studio, well air-conditioned, is like a 'hideout' place for the kids.
best of all, she has found 2 good friends there, whom she feels well-affiliated to.
i hope that claire will continue to learn well in this arena, and i am so glad to see her being creative and independent in her school artwork.
in fact, she did sth really well for class 2 wks ago, and her teacher actually complimented her on the nice work done.
for parents to explore and develop the kids' interest, is really impt. compulsion doesn't work with kids nowadays, so getting them in tune with their heart's aspirations is the utmost consideration.
visit to dermatologist
joy's complexion has seen acne breakouts, almost a new addition every other day.
so, being a firm believer that a girl's beauty is more than 50% derived from a good skin, i decided to bring her to a dermatologist in the east.
the dermatologist, an experienced one, recommended by red, is a motherly figure. when she knew joy is in vjc (same as her daughter who's now studying medicine in oxford), she had a long chat with joy, such that the nurse has to enter her room to remind her about patients waiting outside.
the funny part was, when she kept asking joy to lift her long hair to show her neck. at first glance, she thought joy's neck looked swollen and worried that it might be thyroid. of coz, such fear was dispelled after her careful examination.
i like what she reiterated with joy,"enjoy your life in the college. try different things but, at the end of it, you must still get As to get to your goal..." "you can pursue anything in life, but having a basic education support cannot be sidelined. concentrate to build on your intellectual capacity...even if you dance, dun forget about the study part....pple see dancers as bimbos..."
when i shared the 'bimbos' with hubby, we had great laugh coz' he has coined a new term on joy - bambo!
truly, i recalled with joy, how some mths back after her 'o' level, she was toying with the idea of selecting a course in poly, instead of going to college. i had to handle it carefully, by telling her if there's any specific poly course that interests her. it turned ouf that it was a mere 'escapade' route for her, coz' she has heard so much about the stress level in jc, esp vjc.
truly, one and a half mths in jc life now, i see that she's stressed with time mgt and pursuit of her dance interest. but, she thot her life is enriching, and that's a great knowledge for me.
sometimes, in life, we might be so tied up with many things, but at the end of it, we feel empowered and enriched to want to excel.....this makes a great difference for someone who's a low achiever, coz he probably not knws what is life's meaning.
jiayou, joy! (i look fwd to her doing part-time piano and dance teaching, and can help 'supplement' my meagre teaching income, haha~!)
so, being a firm believer that a girl's beauty is more than 50% derived from a good skin, i decided to bring her to a dermatologist in the east.
the dermatologist, an experienced one, recommended by red, is a motherly figure. when she knew joy is in vjc (same as her daughter who's now studying medicine in oxford), she had a long chat with joy, such that the nurse has to enter her room to remind her about patients waiting outside.
the funny part was, when she kept asking joy to lift her long hair to show her neck. at first glance, she thought joy's neck looked swollen and worried that it might be thyroid. of coz, such fear was dispelled after her careful examination.
i like what she reiterated with joy,"enjoy your life in the college. try different things but, at the end of it, you must still get As to get to your goal..." "you can pursue anything in life, but having a basic education support cannot be sidelined. concentrate to build on your intellectual capacity...even if you dance, dun forget about the study part....pple see dancers as bimbos..."
when i shared the 'bimbos' with hubby, we had great laugh coz' he has coined a new term on joy - bambo!
truly, i recalled with joy, how some mths back after her 'o' level, she was toying with the idea of selecting a course in poly, instead of going to college. i had to handle it carefully, by telling her if there's any specific poly course that interests her. it turned ouf that it was a mere 'escapade' route for her, coz' she has heard so much about the stress level in jc, esp vjc.
truly, one and a half mths in jc life now, i see that she's stressed with time mgt and pursuit of her dance interest. but, she thot her life is enriching, and that's a great knowledge for me.
sometimes, in life, we might be so tied up with many things, but at the end of it, we feel empowered and enriched to want to excel.....this makes a great difference for someone who's a low achiever, coz he probably not knws what is life's meaning.
jiayou, joy! (i look fwd to her doing part-time piano and dance teaching, and can help 'supplement' my meagre teaching income, haha~!)
Monday, March 7, 2011
joy's bz with dance!
within a short span of admitting to vjc, joy has fulfilled her dreams of being in the dance cca and joining the cheer dance team.
the former cca is a really tough activity, unlike her weekly sun hip hop which is more relaxing and fun. the sch dance focuses heavily on 'basics training', the right 'standing' and 'stretching' posture.
no wonder, my poor joy always comes back from sch with bruises and ache all over her body and limbs. mild complaints aside, i think she understands the perseverant side of learning dance, having been 'brain-washed' by her daddy on such training being an essential move.
the latter cheer lead dance is more fun, as it's a dance choreographed by herself for a group of 8, to cheer the house team on. u knw, every time when she watches the taiwanese entertainment show, she will exclaim,"how i wish i can be the one being thrown upwards! but i knw it will be impossible, given my size and weight!"
but now, in vjc, she's taken up this role to choreograph a 'pokemon' dance. using her own resourcefulness and connection, she has designed the steps and was eagerly showing me last night. in my view, it was adorable and cute!
one hurdle done. her next fear was to dance in front of the whole school, competing agst other house groups.
well, i told her,"this week is an exciting week for you. u will definitely accomplished at the end of fri, with these events going on and tests..."
well, vjc is an active environment where students are encouraged to participate in stuff and develop their potential. time juggling might be a challenge, but i am sure, joy has the quality of manage it well, and excel in all things. 这样，青春才不会白留！
in fact, she will be having another hip hop concert in sep, and the instructor has encouraged a few of them to try choreographing the dance steps and teach the more junior ones....it's certainly exciting for me, as parents, to witness such growth in her.
the former cca is a really tough activity, unlike her weekly sun hip hop which is more relaxing and fun. the sch dance focuses heavily on 'basics training', the right 'standing' and 'stretching' posture.
no wonder, my poor joy always comes back from sch with bruises and ache all over her body and limbs. mild complaints aside, i think she understands the perseverant side of learning dance, having been 'brain-washed' by her daddy on such training being an essential move.
the latter cheer lead dance is more fun, as it's a dance choreographed by herself for a group of 8, to cheer the house team on. u knw, every time when she watches the taiwanese entertainment show, she will exclaim,"how i wish i can be the one being thrown upwards! but i knw it will be impossible, given my size and weight!"
but now, in vjc, she's taken up this role to choreograph a 'pokemon' dance. using her own resourcefulness and connection, she has designed the steps and was eagerly showing me last night. in my view, it was adorable and cute!
one hurdle done. her next fear was to dance in front of the whole school, competing agst other house groups.
well, i told her,"this week is an exciting week for you. u will definitely accomplished at the end of fri, with these events going on and tests..."
well, vjc is an active environment where students are encouraged to participate in stuff and develop their potential. time juggling might be a challenge, but i am sure, joy has the quality of manage it well, and excel in all things. 这样，青春才不会白留！
in fact, she will be having another hip hop concert in sep, and the instructor has encouraged a few of them to try choreographing the dance steps and teach the more junior ones....it's certainly exciting for me, as parents, to witness such growth in her.
poor claire
last week, claire came home exasperated that her file was all wet and the ink on most of the pages had smudged.
the cause of it all?
the new helper, j had not tightened the tumbler lid properly for her, so that caused the water to spill in her school bag. the poor girl was really upset about it.
well, i told claire to inform j about it. instead, she kept to herself as she had no intention to add more stress onto her. somehow, my 2 girls like her, even though she might not be as smart as the previous one. maybe, it's her 'subservient' attitude, being new, i'd reckon. haha.
so,last night, i saw claire continuing to struggle with re-writing on those pages, after having hung them dry, with little complaints here and there. (thk gdness, it was her math file, so not so taxing like science).
this morning, i told the helper, with the impt msg driven that, sometimes, a small mistake on her part can cause unnecessary inconvenience to another.
i think claire is really sweet and thoughtful towards j. with my 2 girls around, there's no reason why j cannot settle in my home.
truthfully, she has improved. just this morn, i asked her,"why u slept so late last night? is there anything at home that worries you?"
she replied innocently,"no lah, mum, i'm just thinking how to do my job better!"
well, i gave her some words of encouragement to spur her on. in fact, i'm looking for a cheap radio for her, since she confided in my girls that the only thing that takes time getting used to here is, "no music". funny, right? who knws she might be the next superstar in my family, after the bundle of 'joy'.
anyway, like what my hubby said, give her time, but do get prepared to run the household without a helper. i will keep myself afloat with positive thinking.
one saving grace, at least i need not worry about housework, something that i hate the most.
the cause of it all?
the new helper, j had not tightened the tumbler lid properly for her, so that caused the water to spill in her school bag. the poor girl was really upset about it.
well, i told claire to inform j about it. instead, she kept to herself as she had no intention to add more stress onto her. somehow, my 2 girls like her, even though she might not be as smart as the previous one. maybe, it's her 'subservient' attitude, being new, i'd reckon. haha.
so,last night, i saw claire continuing to struggle with re-writing on those pages, after having hung them dry, with little complaints here and there. (thk gdness, it was her math file, so not so taxing like science).
this morning, i told the helper, with the impt msg driven that, sometimes, a small mistake on her part can cause unnecessary inconvenience to another.
i think claire is really sweet and thoughtful towards j. with my 2 girls around, there's no reason why j cannot settle in my home.
truthfully, she has improved. just this morn, i asked her,"why u slept so late last night? is there anything at home that worries you?"
she replied innocently,"no lah, mum, i'm just thinking how to do my job better!"
well, i gave her some words of encouragement to spur her on. in fact, i'm looking for a cheap radio for her, since she confided in my girls that the only thing that takes time getting used to here is, "no music". funny, right? who knws she might be the next superstar in my family, after the bundle of 'joy'.
anyway, like what my hubby said, give her time, but do get prepared to run the household without a helper. i will keep myself afloat with positive thinking.
one saving grace, at least i need not worry about housework, something that i hate the most.
Thursday, March 3, 2011
love is where the home is...
i was told of a boy, now 11-year old and bedridden since 3, lives opp my friends' hse at east coast.
his state stemmed from a high fever at young age, which also resulted in muscular and nerves damage. i was told he looks handsome too.
when such thing happens, my friend told me that it's inevitable that woman (ie. the mother) will take such blame on her own shoulders. truly, when such 'accidental' turn of events happen, how can the adult live in carefree manner?
my friend, who's a christian is holding the boy and mother in prayer support. she told me about her wish to minister to the boy (actually, it's a christian family too). i was puzzled and asked,"why the boy, and not the mom? isn't it easier for 2 women to talk?"
guess what? she told me,"it's always difficult for mother to talk to her own child, esp if it's a boy! i am also experiencing such feeling with mine!" i was pretty shocked when she opened up to share with me about how her son, now a young adult, has been neglected as a child due to her dedication towards taking care of a 'special needs' child, and not knwing that she has unconsciously slipped into a depressed mood for a long no. of years, not was somehow unaware of the severity of his state of neglected mind.
as she opened up more, i could really feel the pain of a mother, although i hv 2 lovely daughters who enjoy yakking away. when sth so common like a proper communication is lost between close immediate family members, one will really weep, i think.
she even told me that her boy did not feel comfortable to socialise, mostly locks himself in the room to do his own stuff. to me, it's all about insecurity.
can the clock be turned back? well, no-no. she's hoping to talk to him thru sms, sharing the right words and values with him, hoping that he will understand her love and her position.
seriously, parenting is rewarding, but many parents also feel that it's real tough coz' it's not yielding good crops. how many times have they wept inside their hearts, when they see the kids turn astray!
it's really amazing how the modern family, despite the nuclear size, faces such phenomenon. look at us, big families, siblings bullying one another, yet we grew up healthy and rosy, ready to charge fwd.
anyway, those were the days.
the msg her to draw her is: watch over the mental and spiritual health of our kids from young, surely that will not cause communication breakdown. love has to be expressed in proper manner so that the kids will always have a sense of security in their hearts, and will be able to spread this love to their spouses when they form their own families. without families, we will be like a drifting sampan.....love is where the home begins! i strongly hold to this belief....
his state stemmed from a high fever at young age, which also resulted in muscular and nerves damage. i was told he looks handsome too.
when such thing happens, my friend told me that it's inevitable that woman (ie. the mother) will take such blame on her own shoulders. truly, when such 'accidental' turn of events happen, how can the adult live in carefree manner?
my friend, who's a christian is holding the boy and mother in prayer support. she told me about her wish to minister to the boy (actually, it's a christian family too). i was puzzled and asked,"why the boy, and not the mom? isn't it easier for 2 women to talk?"
guess what? she told me,"it's always difficult for mother to talk to her own child, esp if it's a boy! i am also experiencing such feeling with mine!" i was pretty shocked when she opened up to share with me about how her son, now a young adult, has been neglected as a child due to her dedication towards taking care of a 'special needs' child, and not knwing that she has unconsciously slipped into a depressed mood for a long no. of years, not was somehow unaware of the severity of his state of neglected mind.
as she opened up more, i could really feel the pain of a mother, although i hv 2 lovely daughters who enjoy yakking away. when sth so common like a proper communication is lost between close immediate family members, one will really weep, i think.
she even told me that her boy did not feel comfortable to socialise, mostly locks himself in the room to do his own stuff. to me, it's all about insecurity.
can the clock be turned back? well, no-no. she's hoping to talk to him thru sms, sharing the right words and values with him, hoping that he will understand her love and her position.
seriously, parenting is rewarding, but many parents also feel that it's real tough coz' it's not yielding good crops. how many times have they wept inside their hearts, when they see the kids turn astray!
it's really amazing how the modern family, despite the nuclear size, faces such phenomenon. look at us, big families, siblings bullying one another, yet we grew up healthy and rosy, ready to charge fwd.
anyway, those were the days.
the msg her to draw her is: watch over the mental and spiritual health of our kids from young, surely that will not cause communication breakdown. love has to be expressed in proper manner so that the kids will always have a sense of security in their hearts, and will be able to spread this love to their spouses when they form their own families. without families, we will be like a drifting sampan.....love is where the home begins! i strongly hold to this belief....
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