love is where the home is...

i was told of a boy, now 11-year old and bedridden since 3, lives opp my friends' hse at east coast.

his state stemmed from a high fever at young age, which also resulted in muscular and nerves damage. i was told he looks handsome too.

when such thing happens, my friend told me that it's inevitable that woman (ie. the mother) will take such blame on her own shoulders. truly, when such 'accidental' turn of events happen, how can the adult live in carefree manner?

my friend, who's a christian is holding the boy and mother in prayer support. she told me about her wish to minister to the boy (actually, it's a christian family too). i was puzzled and asked,"why the boy, and not the mom? isn't it easier for 2 women to talk?"

guess what? she told me,"it's always difficult for mother to talk to her own child, esp if it's a boy! i am also experiencing such feeling with mine!" i was pretty shocked when she opened up to share with me about how her son, now a young adult, has been neglected as a child due to her dedication towards taking care of a 'special needs' child, and not knwing that she has unconsciously slipped into a depressed mood for a long no. of years, not was somehow unaware of the severity of his state of neglected mind.

as she opened up more, i could really feel the pain of a mother, although i hv 2 lovely daughters who enjoy yakking away. when sth so common like a proper communication is lost between close immediate family members, one will really weep, i think.

she even told me that her boy did not feel comfortable to socialise, mostly locks himself in the room to do his own stuff. to me, it's all about insecurity.

can the clock be turned back? well, no-no. she's hoping to talk to him thru sms, sharing the right words and values with him, hoping that he will understand her love and her position.

seriously, parenting is rewarding, but many parents also feel that it's real tough coz' it's not yielding good crops. how many times have they wept inside their hearts, when they see the kids turn astray!

it's really amazing how the modern family, despite the nuclear size, faces such phenomenon. look at us, big families, siblings bullying one another, yet we grew up healthy and rosy, ready to charge fwd.

anyway, those were the days.

the msg her to draw her is: watch over the mental and spiritual health of our kids from young, surely that will not cause communication breakdown. love has to be expressed in proper manner so that the kids will always have a sense of security in their hearts, and will be able to spread this love to their spouses when they form their own families. without families, we will be like a drifting sampan.....love is where the home begins! i strongly hold to this belief....