another good article that i have read. sharing with all....
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They say there is no comparison to a mother’s love. Stacie Crimm, a mum from Oklahoma gave up her life just so her unborn baby could live, shows us that there is no dispute to that statement.
Ask anyone what their definition of hero is and you’d probably get something that Hollywood has conjured up.
Heroes who are carved out of fantasy and lore, heroes who are made — one retake after another on a studio lot somewhere…heroes who have no relevance to our lives whatsoever. But today, we found a real-life hero whose life is indeed worth making a movie out of.
Darkness looms
Faced with the knowledge that only chemotherapy would save her from terminal neck cancer, newly-pregnant Stacie Crimm, made the ultimate sacrifice. The 41-year-old, who had been told by doctors she would never be able to conceive a child, decided to refuse the treatment so that her unborn daughter could live instead.
Stacie was able to survive for five months before being forced to deliver Dottie Mae, weighing just 2lbs 1oz, by Caesarian section – and even managed to hold her on one occasion before succumbing to the disease three days later.
‘This baby was everything she had ever wanted in this world,’ Stacie’s brother Ray Phillips said in an interview with local newspaper, the Oklahoman.
It was he that Stacie had called in March when she received the delightful news that she was pregnant after years of thinking she was infertile. But strange things started happening to Stacie over the next couple of days.
Her happiness over the unexpected news was plagued with severe headaches and double vision, while tremors struck every inch of her body. She couldn’t tell for sure what was happening to her, but she was astute enough to be worried.
“I’m worried about this baby,” she wrote in a text to her brother.
“I hope I live long enough to have this baby,” said another message.
The messages grew more desperate as the pain grew worst; “Bubba, if anything happens to me, you take this child.”
Stacie was no longer with the father of the baby and would have raised her daughter as a single mother if she survived.
A heroic sacrifice
Not able to prolong her fears anymore, Stacie finally went through a series of health checks and finally, a CAT scan revealed that she had head and neck cancer. The doctors told her that the cancer cells were rapidly progressing and that if she wanted to live at all, she needed to start the chemotherapy sessions as soon as possible.
Problem was, the chemotherapy will ruin the miracle baby she was carrying in her womb. She had to do what no would-be mother should ever have to – - chose between her life and that of her baby’s.
It was an easy decision.
Ray told the Oklahoman that his sister waived the potentially lifesaving chemotherapy in hope that she would eventually hold a healthy baby in her arms. Then on August 16, Stacie collapsed at her home in Ryan, Oklahoma and was rushed to OU Medical Center in Oklahoma City.
Doctors said the invasive tumour had begun wrapping around the brain stem. Two days later the baby’s heart rate plummeted, followed by the courageous mum’s. Doctors and nurses rushed to her aid and decided a C-section was the baby’s only chance.
Dottie Mae arrived into the world weighing less than a third an average newborn. She was quickly taken to neonatal intensive care, while her mother was placed in intensive care in another building. Stacie fought back and managed to wrestle herself off the ventilator and sedation after a few days.
But the cancer had crossed one of her eyes and destroyed the muscle behind her eye. It had paralysed her throat so that when she did talk, it was hard to understand. Stacie was too weak to even be taken to her baby, and her baby was too weak to be brought to her.
“We’d show her pictures and she would cry and she would want to hold her baby,” said Ray.
“It was quite the ordeal. I felt helpless. I wanted to help her, I wanted to do what I could for her – we all did – but they had told us it was impossible for her to see the child”.
On September 8, Stacie stopped breathing and once again was resuscitated. Hospital staff warned the family that she was very close to death.
Seeing how close Stacie was to death, the nurses decided to let her hold the baby she gave up her life for. Stacie held her baby for the first and last time with the help of the nurses for she did not have the energy to do it on her own.
Holding the baby she died for. Also picture; Stacie's brother and sister. (Source: Dailymail.co.uk)
She died three days later. Her funeral was held on September 14.
Dottie Mae now lives with Ray, his wife Jennifer and their four children in their Oklahoma City home.
Unconditional love
What Stacie did was truly heroic and a true testament to the unconditional love a mother bore bears for her child. Mothers around the world have applauded her decision with comments such as;
“I would have done anything for my son, from the day I found out I was pregnant until the day that I die.”
“I admire this woman for doing this for her daughter, and I would do the same in a heartbeat! Whether I had a choice or not!” by a reader of The Stir.
Candace from the US wrote on the DailyMail.com forum:
“I wish all people could value a child’s life as much as she has. Her daughter will one day be touched to know how much she was absolutely cherished by her mother.”
“Death cannot break the bonds of love.”
Another reader wrote on the same site; “At least Dottie will grow up know her mum was a hero.”
And we agree.
Friday, October 28, 2011
Do you believe in true love?
here's a story that i read...reproducing it lock, stock, barrel.....
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Married couple of 72 years, died holding hands
Most people no longer take the wedding vow “Till death do us part” seriously anymore...but not Norma and Gordon Yeager who died while holding hands after being with each other for 72 years. They don’t make love like this anymore...
They lived together, they loved together and after four children and 72 years of marriage, they died while holding hands. This is Norma and Gordon Yeager’s remarkable story of love in a time when rampant stories of bitter divorces have clouded our perception of true love.
A love like this....
Norma Stock had only just graduated high school when she accepted Gordon Yeager’s marriage proposal.The couple got married in Iowa on a spring day in 1939 and went on to have four children together.
Things are not always rosy and smooth for the lovebirds…but they persevered through personal times of turmoil as well as the dangers that came with living through the horror that was World War II.
The way their children tell it, Gordon was the life of the party and Norma was his rock who was always by his side — supporting him in ways that only a devoted wife could. Norma rarely left Gordon’s side in all the 72 years that they have been together.
“They just loved being together,” their son Dennis Yeager told reporters.
“Everybody argues once in awhile, but [my dad still says] ‘I have to stick around. I can’t go until she does because I have to stay here for her and she would say the same thing.”
As with every other aspect of their lives, Norma and Gordon passed on together…while holding hands.
Two hearts beating as one.
The car accident happened near the couple’s home in State Center, Iowa. Gordon, 94, had failed to yield to an oncoming car at a stop sign, and the two vehicles collided. The passengers of the other car were also taken to the hospital with injuries but the Yeagers were in worse shape.
“They brought them in the same room in intensive care and put them together — and they were holding hands in ICU. They were not really responsive” recalled Dennis.
The nurses who attended them know better than to separate the couple. Gordon died at 3:38PM holding hands with his wife while being surround by their family and loved ones.
“It was really strange, they were holding hands, and dad stopped breathing but I couldn’t figure out what was going on because the heart monitor was still going.”
“But we were like, he isn’t breathing. How does he still have a heart beat?”
“The nurse checked and said that’s because they were holding hands and it’s going through them. Her heart was beating through him and picking it up,” said Dennis.
Exactly one hour after Gordon died, Norma passed on too. She was 90-years-old at the time of her passing.
“Neither one of them would’ve wanted to be without each other,” their daughter Donna Sheets said.
“We were very blessed, honestly, that they went this way.”
At their funeral on Monday, Norma and Gordon were still holding hands. Their family plans to cremate them by mixing their ashes, to preserve their memory as a couple who never gave up on each other, a couple that was in it for the long-haul.
Now…where did we put that box of tissues?
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Married couple of 72 years, died holding hands
Most people no longer take the wedding vow “Till death do us part” seriously anymore...but not Norma and Gordon Yeager who died while holding hands after being with each other for 72 years. They don’t make love like this anymore...
They lived together, they loved together and after four children and 72 years of marriage, they died while holding hands. This is Norma and Gordon Yeager’s remarkable story of love in a time when rampant stories of bitter divorces have clouded our perception of true love.
A love like this....
Norma Stock had only just graduated high school when she accepted Gordon Yeager’s marriage proposal.The couple got married in Iowa on a spring day in 1939 and went on to have four children together.
Things are not always rosy and smooth for the lovebirds…but they persevered through personal times of turmoil as well as the dangers that came with living through the horror that was World War II.
The way their children tell it, Gordon was the life of the party and Norma was his rock who was always by his side — supporting him in ways that only a devoted wife could. Norma rarely left Gordon’s side in all the 72 years that they have been together.
“They just loved being together,” their son Dennis Yeager told reporters.
“Everybody argues once in awhile, but [my dad still says] ‘I have to stick around. I can’t go until she does because I have to stay here for her and she would say the same thing.”
As with every other aspect of their lives, Norma and Gordon passed on together…while holding hands.
Two hearts beating as one.
The car accident happened near the couple’s home in State Center, Iowa. Gordon, 94, had failed to yield to an oncoming car at a stop sign, and the two vehicles collided. The passengers of the other car were also taken to the hospital with injuries but the Yeagers were in worse shape.
“They brought them in the same room in intensive care and put them together — and they were holding hands in ICU. They were not really responsive” recalled Dennis.
The nurses who attended them know better than to separate the couple. Gordon died at 3:38PM holding hands with his wife while being surround by their family and loved ones.
“It was really strange, they were holding hands, and dad stopped breathing but I couldn’t figure out what was going on because the heart monitor was still going.”
“But we were like, he isn’t breathing. How does he still have a heart beat?”
“The nurse checked and said that’s because they were holding hands and it’s going through them. Her heart was beating through him and picking it up,” said Dennis.
Exactly one hour after Gordon died, Norma passed on too. She was 90-years-old at the time of her passing.
“Neither one of them would’ve wanted to be without each other,” their daughter Donna Sheets said.
“We were very blessed, honestly, that they went this way.”
At their funeral on Monday, Norma and Gordon were still holding hands. Their family plans to cremate them by mixing their ashes, to preserve their memory as a couple who never gave up on each other, a couple that was in it for the long-haul.
Now…where did we put that box of tissues?
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
maid's issue
i spoke to a brief acquaintance.
finally, she had her domestic helper sent back to philippines.
another case of broken trust, after many weeks of tolerance and she decided to stop trying to 'coach' and 'counsel' the helper.
the filipino helper came to her place and often complained of being unwell. a detailed examination revealed that she has some 'unclean' disease, which needed to be treated with some expensive medicine. the employer paid on her behalf.
the helper had an issue with physical fitness. for 2 weeks or so, she 'claimed' that she was not able to work, so a part-time helper was recruited while the full-time helper rests in her room. how ironical!
to me, she was taking advantage of the goodness of the female employer. coz' i was told, she would get up when she knws that the male employer returns home from work. i was quite pissed off upon hearing such behaviour of the maid.
anyway, it was good riddance after a couple of weeks of endurance by the female employer. in my opinion, why keep someone who's not fit to carry out her duties?
it's really not easy finding a helper who can work well in a household. i'm beginning to appreciate mine at home, who's still teachable and is of a softer personality. the only worry is that, she's young and seems gullible. so, granting her off might pose hazards to my employment....but keeping her at home all weekends is also not a good alternative.
while her contract requires no off day for her, i hv started granting her a rest day on mthly basis (min) and hopes that she will make full use of her time to attend mosque session, make good friends and learn sth worthwhile.
but my hubby just reminded me,"hmm....we hv to get prepared that we will not have a maid one day!" he meant, if anything wayward happens to this current one, we are likely to be left stranded and not wanting to take further risks in getting a new one!
finally, she had her domestic helper sent back to philippines.
another case of broken trust, after many weeks of tolerance and she decided to stop trying to 'coach' and 'counsel' the helper.
the filipino helper came to her place and often complained of being unwell. a detailed examination revealed that she has some 'unclean' disease, which needed to be treated with some expensive medicine. the employer paid on her behalf.
the helper had an issue with physical fitness. for 2 weeks or so, she 'claimed' that she was not able to work, so a part-time helper was recruited while the full-time helper rests in her room. how ironical!
to me, she was taking advantage of the goodness of the female employer. coz' i was told, she would get up when she knws that the male employer returns home from work. i was quite pissed off upon hearing such behaviour of the maid.
anyway, it was good riddance after a couple of weeks of endurance by the female employer. in my opinion, why keep someone who's not fit to carry out her duties?
it's really not easy finding a helper who can work well in a household. i'm beginning to appreciate mine at home, who's still teachable and is of a softer personality. the only worry is that, she's young and seems gullible. so, granting her off might pose hazards to my employment....but keeping her at home all weekends is also not a good alternative.
while her contract requires no off day for her, i hv started granting her a rest day on mthly basis (min) and hopes that she will make full use of her time to attend mosque session, make good friends and learn sth worthwhile.
but my hubby just reminded me,"hmm....we hv to get prepared that we will not have a maid one day!" he meant, if anything wayward happens to this current one, we are likely to be left stranded and not wanting to take further risks in getting a new one!
university admission
hubby and i went for a talk in joy's jc re uni admission.
joy was seated besides me, busy fiddling with her mobile, though she insisted that she was paying attention.
i enquired on paper, the minimum admission grades critera for business course in smu and nus. the result was, it would be safer to get all distinctions to guarantee urself a place.
after the talk, joy proclaimed that she was more inspired to study to meet her goals. well, for me, life's getting tough for the stdts these days, in terms of securing a place in the uni. stds are raised, in part due to increased competition from foreign immigrants!
she has checked with her dance friend from smu about the study envt there. turned out that she was being discouraged by that friend, mainly quoting reason of over-loaded projects and presentation work.
well, hubby and i believe that the uni envt is a place that helps the kids to mature and develop broader thinking skills. ultimately, it's good to have a basic degree to fall back on, even if the kids are not going to pursue the area of study after graduation.
i do agree, office work turns boring after some years. and competition will drive one crazy. it's really letting the kids choose a path of life that he enjoys that will be long-lasting.
joy was seated besides me, busy fiddling with her mobile, though she insisted that she was paying attention.
i enquired on paper, the minimum admission grades critera for business course in smu and nus. the result was, it would be safer to get all distinctions to guarantee urself a place.
after the talk, joy proclaimed that she was more inspired to study to meet her goals. well, for me, life's getting tough for the stdts these days, in terms of securing a place in the uni. stds are raised, in part due to increased competition from foreign immigrants!
she has checked with her dance friend from smu about the study envt there. turned out that she was being discouraged by that friend, mainly quoting reason of over-loaded projects and presentation work.
well, hubby and i believe that the uni envt is a place that helps the kids to mature and develop broader thinking skills. ultimately, it's good to have a basic degree to fall back on, even if the kids are not going to pursue the area of study after graduation.
i do agree, office work turns boring after some years. and competition will drive one crazy. it's really letting the kids choose a path of life that he enjoys that will be long-lasting.
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
being teased?
i was picking claire up from sch in late morn.
suddenly, i saw her dash across the road with her friend. mind u, she wasnt using the zebra crossing too! this act would hv been punished by her discipline master, who happened not to be there!
while witnessing her dashing act, i heard some boys calling her 'claire aw, claire aw'!
she must hv got too 'excited' over boys calling her that she lost her 'sensibility' to perform the right things.
these days, her mind seems to be somewhere else!
i joined her at my car and gave her a mild scolding, telling her that i was wrong to cross the road without looking at the car turning out from the junction. she might hv been knocked down from the way she had dashed across!
she was embarassed esp knowing that those boys who teased her were just across the other road, probably watching her beng reprimanded!
i asked,'who are those boys? are they from ur class?'
she responded,"i dunno. can't really see from far!"
see what i meant by an elusive character?
well, being teased boys is common occurrence for me in sch lah....maybe that would make many girls' blood pressure rise and get her hormonal balance upset, but to me, 'sensibility' must be maintained!
aye, i actually told her,"how to even trust u to go home on ur own, now that i've witnessed ur dashing act, with a lil teasing from boys!'
the boys just hv a way to get into the girls' moods, isn't it? haha....what else can i do but to laugh it off?
suddenly, i saw her dash across the road with her friend. mind u, she wasnt using the zebra crossing too! this act would hv been punished by her discipline master, who happened not to be there!
while witnessing her dashing act, i heard some boys calling her 'claire aw, claire aw'!
she must hv got too 'excited' over boys calling her that she lost her 'sensibility' to perform the right things.
these days, her mind seems to be somewhere else!
i joined her at my car and gave her a mild scolding, telling her that i was wrong to cross the road without looking at the car turning out from the junction. she might hv been knocked down from the way she had dashed across!
she was embarassed esp knowing that those boys who teased her were just across the other road, probably watching her beng reprimanded!
i asked,'who are those boys? are they from ur class?'
she responded,"i dunno. can't really see from far!"
see what i meant by an elusive character?
well, being teased boys is common occurrence for me in sch lah....maybe that would make many girls' blood pressure rise and get her hormonal balance upset, but to me, 'sensibility' must be maintained!
aye, i actually told her,"how to even trust u to go home on ur own, now that i've witnessed ur dashing act, with a lil teasing from boys!'
the boys just hv a way to get into the girls' moods, isn't it? haha....what else can i do but to laugh it off?
a big trantrum that left me a sore throat!
finally, i threw a big tantrum with claire yesterday.
the nite before on tues, i told every one that i was probably coming down with an 'unwell' state. in fact, i was feeling quite frusco and uncomfortable. claire even asked,"mommy, is it ur winter period?"
wow, i hv nearly forgotten this seasonal word that i used with her last yr...thks for reminding me.
yesterday, 1 day after her 11th bdae celeb party with some frds back home, i treated her like an independent girl, asking her to do all necessary revision for english, esp those sections which she was weaker in.
she was her usual 'dreamy' self....throughout the time that i was home, all i saw was some flipping of pages of past worksheets done, then interrupted by reading her archie's comics (received as bdae present)....i had to remind her to 'transfer' her seat to a proper table, instead of always slouching on the sofa, imitating joy.
正所谓，上梁不正下梁歪！
finally, in the night at 7plus, after her return from a play session, with perspiration dripping, she was holding on to her comics book again! that was really an eyesore to me!
i looked at her with rage, hoping that she would take the initiative to go for her shower!
apparently, my 'deliberate stares' were taken frivolously by the 'concerned party'.
there went the volcanic eruption......it spewed hot ashes and wasnt' able to cease for the rest of the night!
surely, claire didnt have a good night thereafter...lectures, shouting, scolding and sitting down to doing necessary work, she had it all!
i always tell her,"i'm not concerned if u pass or fail! but i mind that u grow up not being productive and ignore the proper values to learn....if u attitude is good, u will naturally good harvest!"
basically, claire succumbed to distraction esaily. things that don't interest her, she will deliberately choose not to pay attention to it. she's probably stretching her comics reading time to the maximum...joy was all sympathetic seeing that i lost my 'cool' and told me to just leave her to survive and manage on her own!
in fact, i had little to do with her revision. i would hv expected her to come checking stuff with me, but she seemed to put up a front that she's all ready! yet, i still caught her in making very random errors in the familiar stuff!
i passed a comment at joy,"our generation was so much a better lot...no tuition. everything was our own respy, from dunno to knwing it! nowadays, all resources are provided for and yet, no attn to details is paid and repeated mistakes are made! horrible lot!"
finally, she got some work done. the point is not to get high marks, really.
it's really having the maturity to learn one's stuff, knowing its importance and putting aside all other 'temptations' like i-touch, facebook, reading....i was citing joanna, mebelle and natalie, her 3 cousins who are so independent in their work.
claire, look twds all this good behaviour and learn it!
she tends to take things in her stride, with no urgency, unlike joy and me! characteristics of blood O vs blood A group?
the nite before on tues, i told every one that i was probably coming down with an 'unwell' state. in fact, i was feeling quite frusco and uncomfortable. claire even asked,"mommy, is it ur winter period?"
wow, i hv nearly forgotten this seasonal word that i used with her last yr...thks for reminding me.
yesterday, 1 day after her 11th bdae celeb party with some frds back home, i treated her like an independent girl, asking her to do all necessary revision for english, esp those sections which she was weaker in.
she was her usual 'dreamy' self....throughout the time that i was home, all i saw was some flipping of pages of past worksheets done, then interrupted by reading her archie's comics (received as bdae present)....i had to remind her to 'transfer' her seat to a proper table, instead of always slouching on the sofa, imitating joy.
正所谓，上梁不正下梁歪！
finally, in the night at 7plus, after her return from a play session, with perspiration dripping, she was holding on to her comics book again! that was really an eyesore to me!
i looked at her with rage, hoping that she would take the initiative to go for her shower!
apparently, my 'deliberate stares' were taken frivolously by the 'concerned party'.
there went the volcanic eruption......it spewed hot ashes and wasnt' able to cease for the rest of the night!
surely, claire didnt have a good night thereafter...lectures, shouting, scolding and sitting down to doing necessary work, she had it all!
i always tell her,"i'm not concerned if u pass or fail! but i mind that u grow up not being productive and ignore the proper values to learn....if u attitude is good, u will naturally good harvest!"
basically, claire succumbed to distraction esaily. things that don't interest her, she will deliberately choose not to pay attention to it. she's probably stretching her comics reading time to the maximum...joy was all sympathetic seeing that i lost my 'cool' and told me to just leave her to survive and manage on her own!
in fact, i had little to do with her revision. i would hv expected her to come checking stuff with me, but she seemed to put up a front that she's all ready! yet, i still caught her in making very random errors in the familiar stuff!
i passed a comment at joy,"our generation was so much a better lot...no tuition. everything was our own respy, from dunno to knwing it! nowadays, all resources are provided for and yet, no attn to details is paid and repeated mistakes are made! horrible lot!"
finally, she got some work done. the point is not to get high marks, really.
it's really having the maturity to learn one's stuff, knowing its importance and putting aside all other 'temptations' like i-touch, facebook, reading....i was citing joanna, mebelle and natalie, her 3 cousins who are so independent in their work.
claire, look twds all this good behaviour and learn it!
she tends to take things in her stride, with no urgency, unlike joy and me! characteristics of blood O vs blood A group?
gillian's wedding - 15th oct 2011
venue: shangrila rasa sentosa
weather : humid
well, what was the best part about the wedding? for the kids, they would claim the photo booth, esp the 4 cuzzies, claire, jo, belle and meg. in fact, they took so many good shots but chose to keep them quietly (rather than display them on the bride's album for memory).
hubby and myself hv to sit apart from the 2 girls, coz' of logistics issue? li and chin also ended up sitting at another table. surely, the sisters would hv hoped to sit together for the nite. at the end of it, joy 'lamented' that she missed our presence. surely, she had missed the 'lame teasing' from her daddy, i guess!
food was average.
jenny, the mother-in-law was stunningly pretty. her grey gown and hairdo was better than the morn church wedding's. we ended up sitting with her childhood friends and it was interesting to hear exchange of conversation amongst them in hokkien dialect.
the only pity was that the bridegroom and bride were invited by the bridegroom's family on stage to offer a toast, leaving the bride's parents 'off stage'...i found that a little strange. shouldnt it be unison of 2 families' affairs?
anyway, i had great conversation with mano too! to me, he's a man who takes things in great stride, never worrying about the unnecessary. he cited that he would never skip good food on earth just to stay healthy. his belief is to take necessary (min) medication and still enjoy good food. how does that sound to every one?
he said that his greatest worry is jean cos' he's more senior than her. it was touching to knw that a man cares enough to plan for the woman's future. but many a times, women just need the 'soft touch' from a man, and not just money talk, haha. venus and mars creatures can never see eye-to-eye lah, so fret no more, that's my philosophy! be thankful that we hv our other half with us to share all joy and woes.
well, looking at the newly-wed couple, everything seemed so perfect. but deep in my heart, i knw that marriage path is not a bed of roses. it takes many yrs for each one of us to learn to accept our other halves and be contented and happy.
the only saga that happened during the wedding was my fil's drunken state. apparently, he drank so much with one of the grandsons that he had a bad headache. aye, i wonder, if he was just too excited over the event.
the dinner wasnt filling. hubby and i were left hungry...but then again, for the sake of jenny and peter, it was all worth it!
weather : humid
well, what was the best part about the wedding? for the kids, they would claim the photo booth, esp the 4 cuzzies, claire, jo, belle and meg. in fact, they took so many good shots but chose to keep them quietly (rather than display them on the bride's album for memory).
hubby and myself hv to sit apart from the 2 girls, coz' of logistics issue? li and chin also ended up sitting at another table. surely, the sisters would hv hoped to sit together for the nite. at the end of it, joy 'lamented' that she missed our presence. surely, she had missed the 'lame teasing' from her daddy, i guess!
food was average.
jenny, the mother-in-law was stunningly pretty. her grey gown and hairdo was better than the morn church wedding's. we ended up sitting with her childhood friends and it was interesting to hear exchange of conversation amongst them in hokkien dialect.
the only pity was that the bridegroom and bride were invited by the bridegroom's family on stage to offer a toast, leaving the bride's parents 'off stage'...i found that a little strange. shouldnt it be unison of 2 families' affairs?
anyway, i had great conversation with mano too! to me, he's a man who takes things in great stride, never worrying about the unnecessary. he cited that he would never skip good food on earth just to stay healthy. his belief is to take necessary (min) medication and still enjoy good food. how does that sound to every one?
he said that his greatest worry is jean cos' he's more senior than her. it was touching to knw that a man cares enough to plan for the woman's future. but many a times, women just need the 'soft touch' from a man, and not just money talk, haha. venus and mars creatures can never see eye-to-eye lah, so fret no more, that's my philosophy! be thankful that we hv our other half with us to share all joy and woes.
well, looking at the newly-wed couple, everything seemed so perfect. but deep in my heart, i knw that marriage path is not a bed of roses. it takes many yrs for each one of us to learn to accept our other halves and be contented and happy.
the only saga that happened during the wedding was my fil's drunken state. apparently, he drank so much with one of the grandsons that he had a bad headache. aye, i wonder, if he was just too excited over the event.
the dinner wasnt filling. hubby and i were left hungry...but then again, for the sake of jenny and peter, it was all worth it!
is strict parenting stifling for the child's growth?
claire had a small 11th bdae celeb this week.
6 friends attended her party at my place. girls in all shapes and height were present right before me.
one korean girl told me,"aunty, i can't take chicken or pork. coz' i'm on a 3-mth medication to grow tall, and this medicine forbids me from taking poultry meat. i can only take fish and beef!"
so, i had to make tempura prawn in crepe for her, which she enjoyed. all enjoyed the creamy sauce sphaghetti too!
one girl,z approached me to call her daddy to extend her stay at my place.
she has been ordered to reach home by 1.30 pm via public bus. reason: to revise for her coming exams. so, the phone line was connected.
me: hello, is that mr boh?
he: yes, who's that?
me: oh, i'm claire's mother. we plan to cut the cake at 2 plus, so can ur daughter stay for the party a little while later?
he: (paused for a while) hmm...actually, i want her to come back now. she has to exercise some discipline!
me: (shocked and speechless with the word 'discipline') okay, what about if i let her eat the cake first and then send her home?
he: no, ask her to take a bus back on her own now.
i had to hand the phone back to her daughter, who was looking really upset to leave the party halfway, when the bunch of rowdy girls were having good fun!
without taking a bite of the bdae cake, i let her take home an 'awfully chocolate' cupcake as a substitute.
in the car, i asked z,"is ur home discipline very strict?"
z: ya! my dad always wants us to score 100 marks for exams. he always tells us that he achieved that standard when young and always topped the class!
me: (knowing it was just bullshit coz i hv used such tricks before) oh, i see. but it's quite difficult to score 100 marks, u knw?
so, the strict father had spoilt the fun for the young girl. she might appear obedient now, but it's just another few more yrs before she reaches that 'rebellious' age....in fact, this girl is very street-smart and quite well-liked by the teacher for being outspoken.
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next day, at school, z told claire, "when my parents chided me, i just told them 'it's not my problem, what! my friends wanted me to stay longer and refused to let me go!'"
when claire told me that, i was quite shocked. this girl has begun to put blame on other people in order to avoid the reprimand.....not a very good sign, in my opinion.
frankly, parents' concern over kids' well being and academic performance is understandable. but sths, being overly strict can be over-bearing for the kids. one thing i am certain about, such strict discipline can't work for long.
i would rather give the kids some peace in social life and make sure that they understand their boundaries and not find us over-controlling.
6 friends attended her party at my place. girls in all shapes and height were present right before me.
one korean girl told me,"aunty, i can't take chicken or pork. coz' i'm on a 3-mth medication to grow tall, and this medicine forbids me from taking poultry meat. i can only take fish and beef!"
so, i had to make tempura prawn in crepe for her, which she enjoyed. all enjoyed the creamy sauce sphaghetti too!
one girl,z approached me to call her daddy to extend her stay at my place.
she has been ordered to reach home by 1.30 pm via public bus. reason: to revise for her coming exams. so, the phone line was connected.
me: hello, is that mr boh?
he: yes, who's that?
me: oh, i'm claire's mother. we plan to cut the cake at 2 plus, so can ur daughter stay for the party a little while later?
he: (paused for a while) hmm...actually, i want her to come back now. she has to exercise some discipline!
me: (shocked and speechless with the word 'discipline') okay, what about if i let her eat the cake first and then send her home?
he: no, ask her to take a bus back on her own now.
i had to hand the phone back to her daughter, who was looking really upset to leave the party halfway, when the bunch of rowdy girls were having good fun!
without taking a bite of the bdae cake, i let her take home an 'awfully chocolate' cupcake as a substitute.
in the car, i asked z,"is ur home discipline very strict?"
z: ya! my dad always wants us to score 100 marks for exams. he always tells us that he achieved that standard when young and always topped the class!
me: (knowing it was just bullshit coz i hv used such tricks before) oh, i see. but it's quite difficult to score 100 marks, u knw?
so, the strict father had spoilt the fun for the young girl. she might appear obedient now, but it's just another few more yrs before she reaches that 'rebellious' age....in fact, this girl is very street-smart and quite well-liked by the teacher for being outspoken.
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next day, at school, z told claire, "when my parents chided me, i just told them 'it's not my problem, what! my friends wanted me to stay longer and refused to let me go!'"
when claire told me that, i was quite shocked. this girl has begun to put blame on other people in order to avoid the reprimand.....not a very good sign, in my opinion.
frankly, parents' concern over kids' well being and academic performance is understandable. but sths, being overly strict can be over-bearing for the kids. one thing i am certain about, such strict discipline can't work for long.
i would rather give the kids some peace in social life and make sure that they understand their boundaries and not find us over-controlling.
Thursday, October 13, 2011
kfc lunch
i was hanging loose ystdy with no teachings. wow, the feeling was terrific, not needing to attach my feelings to any stdts.
right aft sch, i picked up joy followed by claire, and off we went to parkway. i intended to buy claire a pair of shoes for this sat's wedding. in the end, it was joy who got a nice pair from charles and keith!
j, my helper tagged along too! she had told claire of her love for kfc chicken. she used to have it while working in malaysia.
so, that was a great chance to help her relive her memories of a fried chicken.
we went to kfc, each of us ordered a set and was gleefully tucking into our meal. together with the cheese fries, we must hv gained some kilos.
sometimes, i really wonder, for those who choose to diet, what's life's happiness about?
recently, i heard from my this 28-yr old lady of her diet switching only to juice and fruits, for the sake of losing some pounds. she has started looking prettier, after 2 changes made to her teeth and eyelid.....she has always wished for a good-looking man who's able to provide.
so, to her, looking slim will be the ultimate way to win a man.
considering how much she loves meat, it must be a torture to alter her diet, i reckon. but she said it was okay.
i even told her,"u r fine. the bone structure, we can't change. if a man truly loves u, he really wouldn't mind about some extra pounds on ur body...furthermore, ur face is already looking pretty!"
women are just so obssessed with their look, shapes and sizes.....maybe, it's a blessing that i'm born petite. this size does give some advantage when it comes dressing. this lady told me,"u see, u can stil wear ...dressing, i hope i can fit in too!"
but, dressing is really individual style. we just hv to find the right clothes for the wardrobe. feeling comfortable in the wear is the most impt, i reckon.
right aft sch, i picked up joy followed by claire, and off we went to parkway. i intended to buy claire a pair of shoes for this sat's wedding. in the end, it was joy who got a nice pair from charles and keith!
j, my helper tagged along too! she had told claire of her love for kfc chicken. she used to have it while working in malaysia.
so, that was a great chance to help her relive her memories of a fried chicken.
we went to kfc, each of us ordered a set and was gleefully tucking into our meal. together with the cheese fries, we must hv gained some kilos.
sometimes, i really wonder, for those who choose to diet, what's life's happiness about?
recently, i heard from my this 28-yr old lady of her diet switching only to juice and fruits, for the sake of losing some pounds. she has started looking prettier, after 2 changes made to her teeth and eyelid.....she has always wished for a good-looking man who's able to provide.
so, to her, looking slim will be the ultimate way to win a man.
considering how much she loves meat, it must be a torture to alter her diet, i reckon. but she said it was okay.
i even told her,"u r fine. the bone structure, we can't change. if a man truly loves u, he really wouldn't mind about some extra pounds on ur body...furthermore, ur face is already looking pretty!"
women are just so obssessed with their look, shapes and sizes.....maybe, it's a blessing that i'm born petite. this size does give some advantage when it comes dressing. this lady told me,"u see, u can stil wear ...dressing, i hope i can fit in too!"
but, dressing is really individual style. we just hv to find the right clothes for the wardrobe. feeling comfortable in the wear is the most impt, i reckon.
good life mommy!
joy was sick on tues morn. sore throat and muscles strain. she complained that she couldn't lift her hands to wash her face.
sounded uncanny but that's precisely how my girl is like. pampered princess lor.
i brought her to the doc, in fact, i had to hold her to escort her in, lest her strained muscles gave way, and she couldn't hold her stature upright, haha.
after the doc, we went to shop and save to top up some grocery.
passing by the coffee shop, she asked,"mommy, these pple got very good life leh!" (well, pardon her for her singlish; she just refused to change her style of speaking. i couldn't tahan it already!)
me: they are mostly retired folks or homemakers who could spare the time her drinking coffee, that's all!
j: r u one of them?
me: well, u knw my morn hours are more flexible, so i will probably be one of those drinking milo on one of the days!
j: wow, i dun mind having ur life leh! so relaxed.
me: joy, when i was working hard and being thrown left and right, were u even aware of it. u hv to understand that, in life, it's 先苦后甜！
well, that's the issue with young pple nowadays. everyone fights to have his sweet slice of cake, before even taking a plunge into hardship.
one thing i'm sure about, if joy were to hv my kind of life, she will sure go out of control and start piling on weight. afterall, she's such a food lover! in fact, she always said,"mom, dun cook good food for me leh. i can nvr lose wt!"
yet, each day back from sch, she will ask as a matter-of-factly,"hey mom, what are we having for dinner tonight!" how ironical!
sounded uncanny but that's precisely how my girl is like. pampered princess lor.
i brought her to the doc, in fact, i had to hold her to escort her in, lest her strained muscles gave way, and she couldn't hold her stature upright, haha.
after the doc, we went to shop and save to top up some grocery.
passing by the coffee shop, she asked,"mommy, these pple got very good life leh!" (well, pardon her for her singlish; she just refused to change her style of speaking. i couldn't tahan it already!)
me: they are mostly retired folks or homemakers who could spare the time her drinking coffee, that's all!
j: r u one of them?
me: well, u knw my morn hours are more flexible, so i will probably be one of those drinking milo on one of the days!
j: wow, i dun mind having ur life leh! so relaxed.
me: joy, when i was working hard and being thrown left and right, were u even aware of it. u hv to understand that, in life, it's 先苦后甜！
well, that's the issue with young pple nowadays. everyone fights to have his sweet slice of cake, before even taking a plunge into hardship.
one thing i'm sure about, if joy were to hv my kind of life, she will sure go out of control and start piling on weight. afterall, she's such a food lover! in fact, she always said,"mom, dun cook good food for me leh. i can nvr lose wt!"
yet, each day back from sch, she will ask as a matter-of-factly,"hey mom, what are we having for dinner tonight!" how ironical!
fat thigh msucles
in the car. joy and me having a conversation.
j: mom, i'm so sad, u knw?
me: why?
j: look at my fat thigh muscles. it's the result of too much dancing.
me: what's wrong? they look fine to me?
j: no...my thigh and calves were of better shape before. but, now they look so thick!
me: would u prefer wobbly flesh hanging loose then?
j: actually, i dun mind leh!
aye, joy is of this age that is particularly sensitive with her appearance. her hair, her complexion, her boobie size, her pelvic bone structure and now, to add on her FAT thigh muscles.
i proposed,"well, if u stop dancing altogether, u will lose all the muscles and then, u will stop complaining!"
guess, that worked with her coz i heard no more gripes.
i often tell my 2 girls, " u r so fortunate to be born with pretty features and hv the love of a family. look at those kids with cleft palate and low mental ability..."
both acknowleged that they r blessed kids....still, it's just human nature to ask for more!
considering where joy was coming from when she was a fat chubby girl, she's already looking slim and pretty these days. so, i hv no idea what the complaint was all about!
千万要记住，知足常乐哦！
j: mom, i'm so sad, u knw?
me: why?
j: look at my fat thigh muscles. it's the result of too much dancing.
me: what's wrong? they look fine to me?
j: no...my thigh and calves were of better shape before. but, now they look so thick!
me: would u prefer wobbly flesh hanging loose then?
j: actually, i dun mind leh!
aye, joy is of this age that is particularly sensitive with her appearance. her hair, her complexion, her boobie size, her pelvic bone structure and now, to add on her FAT thigh muscles.
i proposed,"well, if u stop dancing altogether, u will lose all the muscles and then, u will stop complaining!"
guess, that worked with her coz i heard no more gripes.
i often tell my 2 girls, " u r so fortunate to be born with pretty features and hv the love of a family. look at those kids with cleft palate and low mental ability..."
both acknowleged that they r blessed kids....still, it's just human nature to ask for more!
considering where joy was coming from when she was a fat chubby girl, she's already looking slim and pretty these days. so, i hv no idea what the complaint was all about!
千万要记住，知足常乐哦！
Wednesday, October 12, 2011
bonding with children
i read somewhere that ' we should bond with our children when they are young else, we hv to pay for counselling sessions when they are older!"
this is a thought-provoking statement.
but it distinctly reflects how important it is for parents to invest time in their kids when they are young, obedient and easy to manage.
my niece, nini is the best example. at 2 plus, she will seek permission from her parents to carry out a task. and if mommy said,"no", she would stop short at that!
when kids trsnsform into teenies and then, teenagehood, they started to take pride and ownership in making their own decisions. worse still, if we dun impart the right values from young, they would find communication with the older folks difficult.
take for instance, over the itinerary proposal of joy, the daddy had 'critized' about the shoddy piece of work, citing that lil effort has been put into the work. she actually felt sad over his comment and wasnt too happy about it.
i had to intervene the next day, explaining the situation to her. "dad has been doing the hol planning for us for many yrs. he knws what's a serious proposal. so, no way can u fool him with ur sloppy presentation! he's absolutely rite to question u about the city placing, the express route to take and the travelling time..."
in fact, i told joy that in her future corporate life, she will be facing setbacks every other moment, when proposals get thrown out and efforts ended up not being appreciated. so, taking criticism in good spirit form is the first step to future success!
on the other side, i hv to tell hubby that he should be thkful that his daughter took up the respy to plan, even though her 1st and 2nd round had not met his expectation. but, at least joy is trying and he should not be too critical....well, i'm poor in road map like joy, so i understand her 'woes' to some extent lah.
well ,at least, joy learnt one thing from this whole planning experience, everything starts from reading the map of taiwan.....she should hv obeyed red right from the start! well, it's nvr too late lah!
this is a thought-provoking statement.
but it distinctly reflects how important it is for parents to invest time in their kids when they are young, obedient and easy to manage.
my niece, nini is the best example. at 2 plus, she will seek permission from her parents to carry out a task. and if mommy said,"no", she would stop short at that!
when kids trsnsform into teenies and then, teenagehood, they started to take pride and ownership in making their own decisions. worse still, if we dun impart the right values from young, they would find communication with the older folks difficult.
take for instance, over the itinerary proposal of joy, the daddy had 'critized' about the shoddy piece of work, citing that lil effort has been put into the work. she actually felt sad over his comment and wasnt too happy about it.
i had to intervene the next day, explaining the situation to her. "dad has been doing the hol planning for us for many yrs. he knws what's a serious proposal. so, no way can u fool him with ur sloppy presentation! he's absolutely rite to question u about the city placing, the express route to take and the travelling time..."
in fact, i told joy that in her future corporate life, she will be facing setbacks every other moment, when proposals get thrown out and efforts ended up not being appreciated. so, taking criticism in good spirit form is the first step to future success!
on the other side, i hv to tell hubby that he should be thkful that his daughter took up the respy to plan, even though her 1st and 2nd round had not met his expectation. but, at least joy is trying and he should not be too critical....well, i'm poor in road map like joy, so i understand her 'woes' to some extent lah.
well ,at least, joy learnt one thing from this whole planning experience, everything starts from reading the map of taiwan.....she should hv obeyed red right from the start! well, it's nvr too late lah!
saga over fried fish fillet
i was really mad at dinner time on tues nite....couldn't even finish my rice and dishes.
my helper, j had 'defied' my order of using the tempura flour to fry sutchi fillet pieces. in its stead, she had used another flour type, citing that she wished to finish the remainder powder in the packet!
but, the standard of the fried fish was just terrible - lousy and salty!
even joy, who's a 'chin chye' eater also commented about its saltiness!
so, j ended up being scolded by me. when i' m enraged, i really roar like a lioness..and white certainly doesn't need to tell me that such roar works!
ystday (wed), i called my helper to be down at lobby in 3 mins' time to help me carry stuff. she was nowhere in sight when i arrived to park my car. managing the load of marketing stuff myself, i appeared at the doorway....scolding her again!
she told me that she couldn't hear me well and had sms-ed me as such,"mom sori i come dwn now!' hey, did it even make sense?
my point was clear, anything not sure, plse clarify on the spot; on the phone. sms me for what? did she really think that i hv so much time checking lame msgs while driving, and managing a loadful of grocery items?
i started roaring.....and made her tell me what i detest.
basically, the point was clear. this is my household. i'm most particular about preparing the right food for my family members. instructions are given by me, she's only to amend my order only with my consent. in other words, she has no authority to alter my instruction without my prior knowledge.
sths, it's impt to let our counterpart knw what is 'taboo' in her area of work. holding initiative in job is great, but if the outcome of her own decision sucks, she has to take responsibility.
call me fussy or whatever, but i'm particular about what i feed into pple's mouth.
i actually told her,"just when i'm beginning to believe and trust in u more, u destroy ur own bonus!" she kept apologising, "sorry, mom!"
well, basically, i hv offered to pay her lil bonus at 3rd, 6th and 9th mth to motivate her to work well...so, this is the 9th mth and with such incident and prior cases of my missing T-shirt, i think i probably hv to hold back....if i dun teach and educate now, it will be even harder when she turns into 老油条！
but what i like about her is that, she's emotionally strong and won't cry over slightest things! well, a strong front is required to take on employer's reprimand session!
my helper, j had 'defied' my order of using the tempura flour to fry sutchi fillet pieces. in its stead, she had used another flour type, citing that she wished to finish the remainder powder in the packet!
but, the standard of the fried fish was just terrible - lousy and salty!
even joy, who's a 'chin chye' eater also commented about its saltiness!
so, j ended up being scolded by me. when i' m enraged, i really roar like a lioness..and white certainly doesn't need to tell me that such roar works!
ystday (wed), i called my helper to be down at lobby in 3 mins' time to help me carry stuff. she was nowhere in sight when i arrived to park my car. managing the load of marketing stuff myself, i appeared at the doorway....scolding her again!
she told me that she couldn't hear me well and had sms-ed me as such,"mom sori i come dwn now!' hey, did it even make sense?
my point was clear, anything not sure, plse clarify on the spot; on the phone. sms me for what? did she really think that i hv so much time checking lame msgs while driving, and managing a loadful of grocery items?
i started roaring.....and made her tell me what i detest.
basically, the point was clear. this is my household. i'm most particular about preparing the right food for my family members. instructions are given by me, she's only to amend my order only with my consent. in other words, she has no authority to alter my instruction without my prior knowledge.
sths, it's impt to let our counterpart knw what is 'taboo' in her area of work. holding initiative in job is great, but if the outcome of her own decision sucks, she has to take responsibility.
call me fussy or whatever, but i'm particular about what i feed into pple's mouth.
i actually told her,"just when i'm beginning to believe and trust in u more, u destroy ur own bonus!" she kept apologising, "sorry, mom!"
well, basically, i hv offered to pay her lil bonus at 3rd, 6th and 9th mth to motivate her to work well...so, this is the 9th mth and with such incident and prior cases of my missing T-shirt, i think i probably hv to hold back....if i dun teach and educate now, it will be even harder when she turns into 老油条！
but what i like about her is that, she's emotionally strong and won't cry over slightest things! well, a strong front is required to take on employer's reprimand session!
joy's taiwan itinerary
finally, joy was putting time to plan for our taiwan trip.
for the first time, she bothered to study the map of taiwan and did some homework check about different places!
well, i commented,"joy, u refused to take heed of what qinyi advised u some wks ago, that planning a trip starts with knowing the map orientation!"
to her, it was just putting in activities that she wishes to do, disregarding the route path, the time taken for the travel....so, it was with a harsh 'lesson' with dad (who threw out her proposal) that she was finally awakened!
this micro view of her is clearly demonstrated in her recent GP essay writing too, topic was about 'technology - the advs and disadvs that it brings to society'. she wrote quite a fair bit, but the teacher commented that she lacked the macro perspective (eg. influence on medical research, green globalisation etc).
actually, many advice of the older folks fall on deaf ears of teenagers these days. they live in their own styles, disregard useful advice and tend to correct themselves, only if they hit the wall and end up with cemented nose!
but on the whole, i was telling hubby, do give joy the credit for taking the initiative to check out on many things on the internet...it's not an easy job. but it really made me appreciate what HE was doing for the family all these yrs. i must say, hubby is good PLANNER, we are probably the stimulus behind his work.
but age and bz work schedule are catching up with him....so, let the younger generation take over lah!
for the first time, she bothered to study the map of taiwan and did some homework check about different places!
well, i commented,"joy, u refused to take heed of what qinyi advised u some wks ago, that planning a trip starts with knowing the map orientation!"
to her, it was just putting in activities that she wishes to do, disregarding the route path, the time taken for the travel....so, it was with a harsh 'lesson' with dad (who threw out her proposal) that she was finally awakened!
this micro view of her is clearly demonstrated in her recent GP essay writing too, topic was about 'technology - the advs and disadvs that it brings to society'. she wrote quite a fair bit, but the teacher commented that she lacked the macro perspective (eg. influence on medical research, green globalisation etc).
actually, many advice of the older folks fall on deaf ears of teenagers these days. they live in their own styles, disregard useful advice and tend to correct themselves, only if they hit the wall and end up with cemented nose!
but on the whole, i was telling hubby, do give joy the credit for taking the initiative to check out on many things on the internet...it's not an easy job. but it really made me appreciate what HE was doing for the family all these yrs. i must say, hubby is good PLANNER, we are probably the stimulus behind his work.
but age and bz work schedule are catching up with him....so, let the younger generation take over lah!
Monday, October 10, 2011
lingni's 过大礼日子
8th oct 2011.
it was my cousin's big day of wedding betrothal gifts presentation.
my mom was invited to be at aunty plum's place to help out in the social talk and 还礼习俗！ i wanted to give my support too.
at 8.30 am, i arrived at their flat. i sneaked into the lift quickly and guess what, it was the bridgegroom and 2 other companions.
i asked,"rbr me?"
he said,"ya, of coz!"
then, i was so stupid to ask,"ur parents?"
his reply really embarassed me a little,"erm..my aunty and my cousin!"
u see, i hv no idea that the bridegroom's parents were not supposed to be present for such occasion. next, i should hv studied the age of the male cousin, he's definitely much younger than me (since i soon learnt that his kid is only 5 yrs off)....maybe, my eyes werent awakened yet at that hour, haha!
while at plum aunty's place, she looked so flustered in manner and must be really thankful that my mom was there to calm the atmosphere....and showing her the way to the custom's practice!
i was totally amazed to hear the bridegroom speaking hainanese with his aunty and male cousin...they told me that they come from a very closely-knit family with grandparents living in the same house...ya, that really makes a difference when it comes to kids learning their dialects.
the bridegroom even conversed with the mother-in-law in hainanese and that really put the latter at ease, haha.
well, it's nice to have in-laws who can speak the same dialect, that adds a lot more of closeness and warmth to a relationship.
i went in to the room to join mom and aunty plum. they were deciding how much to take as dowry. aunty commented that her hubby(ie bride's father) felt that a token could be accepted to rhyme with the soon-to-marry daughter as 家里的千金!
soon, it was the finale. the guests left and aunty plum was again bz sorting out the cakes and canned food into bags, ready for distribution. she was all perspiration and told me that she didn't sleep a wink the night before....this aunty plum always stresses herself easily. partly due to her overly responsible character and partly becoz this is the 1st time she is becoming a mom-in-law!
mom and i proceeded to tampines giant for bfst, followed by grocery shopping. both of us seemed to hv same interest in buying food stuff for the family. it was a good time spent on sat morn.
i promised to take her to eastpoint to buy a good pair of shoes for lingni's wedding!
it was my cousin's big day of wedding betrothal gifts presentation.
my mom was invited to be at aunty plum's place to help out in the social talk and 还礼习俗！ i wanted to give my support too.
at 8.30 am, i arrived at their flat. i sneaked into the lift quickly and guess what, it was the bridgegroom and 2 other companions.
i asked,"rbr me?"
he said,"ya, of coz!"
then, i was so stupid to ask,"ur parents?"
his reply really embarassed me a little,"erm..my aunty and my cousin!"
u see, i hv no idea that the bridegroom's parents were not supposed to be present for such occasion. next, i should hv studied the age of the male cousin, he's definitely much younger than me (since i soon learnt that his kid is only 5 yrs off)....maybe, my eyes werent awakened yet at that hour, haha!
while at plum aunty's place, she looked so flustered in manner and must be really thankful that my mom was there to calm the atmosphere....and showing her the way to the custom's practice!
i was totally amazed to hear the bridegroom speaking hainanese with his aunty and male cousin...they told me that they come from a very closely-knit family with grandparents living in the same house...ya, that really makes a difference when it comes to kids learning their dialects.
the bridegroom even conversed with the mother-in-law in hainanese and that really put the latter at ease, haha.
well, it's nice to have in-laws who can speak the same dialect, that adds a lot more of closeness and warmth to a relationship.
i went in to the room to join mom and aunty plum. they were deciding how much to take as dowry. aunty commented that her hubby(ie bride's father) felt that a token could be accepted to rhyme with the soon-to-marry daughter as 家里的千金!
soon, it was the finale. the guests left and aunty plum was again bz sorting out the cakes and canned food into bags, ready for distribution. she was all perspiration and told me that she didn't sleep a wink the night before....this aunty plum always stresses herself easily. partly due to her overly responsible character and partly becoz this is the 1st time she is becoming a mom-in-law!
mom and i proceeded to tampines giant for bfst, followed by grocery shopping. both of us seemed to hv same interest in buying food stuff for the family. it was a good time spent on sat morn.
i promised to take her to eastpoint to buy a good pair of shoes for lingni's wedding!
blur sotong!
my conversation with helper, j.
me: j, can u please make sure that u close my bottle cap tight? yesterday, the water nearly spilt out coz' the water lid was not tighten fully!
j: (with a dazed look) mom, i didn't do it! i think you filled up ur own water bottle yesterday!
me: huh, u mean it was me? ok, but plse rbr to close it tight for the kids too!
i was glad that my tone twds her was kind and unraged, else it would really have been quite an embarassing moment.
so, blur sotong i was!
but the lesson learnt was: always rbr the incident details well and dun jump to conclusion and scold in liberal manner.
me: j, can u please make sure that u close my bottle cap tight? yesterday, the water nearly spilt out coz' the water lid was not tighten fully!
j: (with a dazed look) mom, i didn't do it! i think you filled up ur own water bottle yesterday!
me: huh, u mean it was me? ok, but plse rbr to close it tight for the kids too!
i was glad that my tone twds her was kind and unraged, else it would really have been quite an embarassing moment.
so, blur sotong i was!
but the lesson learnt was: always rbr the incident details well and dun jump to conclusion and scold in liberal manner.
Sunday, October 9, 2011
the love of 阿公
while having my afternoon nap, claire interrupted my sleep,"mommy, 阿公calling u!"
with eyes half open, i answered the call.
阿公was so sweet to ask if joy needed more of the herbs to clear off her facial acnes.
well, he had actually bought some herbs for her 2 mths back, after seeing her terrible acnes on one gathering occasion, and was full of sympathy for this granddaughter.
the herbs are supposed to clear off the tozins in her body and restore her facial youth.
she drank the boiled herbs and is today, looking pretty again.
she joked with me,"mommy, if 阿公 sees me, he will think that his herbs work wonder, haha! actually, my skin renewal is a combination of other products too, like a good facial and using the right pdts!"
well, i told her how fortunate she is to have the love and care of an old folk, who actually bothers to buy stuff for her....and that she must appreciate his effort.
in fact, the last time that the grandpa bought her these herbs, i reminded her umpteen times to call personally to express thks. first, it was exams prep excuse, then others...one day, i had to scold her so badly that she finally 'succumbed' and called him to say thks. but to me, it was not genuinely done right from the beginning...and it was not good!
anyway, joy is having another facial tmrw and i hope she will be all confident to face the crowd this sat....God bless her, i am sure!
btw, both of us are talking about 'how to look slimmer' for the occasion....we both feel so VERY fat, man! i am serious. my weight has breached 50kg and her differential with mine has not narrowed, got it, folks?
with eyes half open, i answered the call.
阿公was so sweet to ask if joy needed more of the herbs to clear off her facial acnes.
well, he had actually bought some herbs for her 2 mths back, after seeing her terrible acnes on one gathering occasion, and was full of sympathy for this granddaughter.
the herbs are supposed to clear off the tozins in her body and restore her facial youth.
she drank the boiled herbs and is today, looking pretty again.
she joked with me,"mommy, if 阿公 sees me, he will think that his herbs work wonder, haha! actually, my skin renewal is a combination of other products too, like a good facial and using the right pdts!"
well, i told her how fortunate she is to have the love and care of an old folk, who actually bothers to buy stuff for her....and that she must appreciate his effort.
in fact, the last time that the grandpa bought her these herbs, i reminded her umpteen times to call personally to express thks. first, it was exams prep excuse, then others...one day, i had to scold her so badly that she finally 'succumbed' and called him to say thks. but to me, it was not genuinely done right from the beginning...and it was not good!
anyway, joy is having another facial tmrw and i hope she will be all confident to face the crowd this sat....God bless her, i am sure!
btw, both of us are talking about 'how to look slimmer' for the occasion....we both feel so VERY fat, man! i am serious. my weight has breached 50kg and her differential with mine has not narrowed, got it, folks?
a visit to jenny's place
6 days before gillian's wedding, jenny was all excited when we visited her yesterday.
firstly, peter was so kind to blend ABC juice for us. for the first time, i tasted beetroot. it was really refreshing and able to quench my thirst right away. knowing the heavy content of vitamin in beetroot, i knw i will start training joy to take this juice, together with apple and carrot.
i had the fortune to see jenny's beautiful grey-coloured gown with a nice attached lil sash. a matching colour bag is to accompany her gown. she should look fabulous with her complete make-up and hairdo on that day, with the courtesy of gillian's artiste.
gillian confirmed that the wedding will start at 9 apm punctual which means that we would hv no reason to be late, despite the early hour which is a real challenge for hubby (who tends to sleep in on weekends).
gillian had a bridal shower party last sat with pete's family. she showed us an album 'churned out' by her bunch of close cousins, with pics from birth till the current ones. the writing therein exuded love and warmth, something that money cannot buy.
she showed me her beautiful blue wedding gown for the night, one with very sexy back plunging line that will reveal her nice back.
there's sth original about her wedding nite reception too. a photo booth will be set up by her cousins which is meant for the guests (i should think the younger teenies') to take polaroid pics with the props available there. these pics are not meant to be taken home..well, u shall see on the actual day!
jenny and peter have even booked a room for themselves and will welcome the relative guests to join in the fun....wow, we are now full of expectation.
more importantly, we hv jean and mano's attendance in this joyous occasion...they are flying in today and we are looking fwd to a party gathering session.....cocktail, anyone?
firstly, peter was so kind to blend ABC juice for us. for the first time, i tasted beetroot. it was really refreshing and able to quench my thirst right away. knowing the heavy content of vitamin in beetroot, i knw i will start training joy to take this juice, together with apple and carrot.
i had the fortune to see jenny's beautiful grey-coloured gown with a nice attached lil sash. a matching colour bag is to accompany her gown. she should look fabulous with her complete make-up and hairdo on that day, with the courtesy of gillian's artiste.
gillian confirmed that the wedding will start at 9 apm punctual which means that we would hv no reason to be late, despite the early hour which is a real challenge for hubby (who tends to sleep in on weekends).
gillian had a bridal shower party last sat with pete's family. she showed us an album 'churned out' by her bunch of close cousins, with pics from birth till the current ones. the writing therein exuded love and warmth, something that money cannot buy.
she showed me her beautiful blue wedding gown for the night, one with very sexy back plunging line that will reveal her nice back.
there's sth original about her wedding nite reception too. a photo booth will be set up by her cousins which is meant for the guests (i should think the younger teenies') to take polaroid pics with the props available there. these pics are not meant to be taken home..well, u shall see on the actual day!
jenny and peter have even booked a room for themselves and will welcome the relative guests to join in the fun....wow, we are now full of expectation.
more importantly, we hv jean and mano's attendance in this joyous occasion...they are flying in today and we are looking fwd to a party gathering session.....cocktail, anyone?
a great day for claire!
other than a fun-filled children's day party at church, claire also enjoyed her afternoon dance in the studio with joy and others.
apparently, it was joy's turn to demonstrate her choreograph dance for next yr's concert (shortlisting success rate is 33% only). basically, she had to stand right in front of a class of 20 or more to show her steps and teach the rest...voting will be conducted at end of the viewing conducted over many weeks, and the successful candidate will get the chance to 'showcase' her dance at 2012 concert.
joy was so sweet to rope in claire to participate in the video presentation, that was shot and sent to the stdts ahead of her demonstration session. joy's intention was to boost up claire's confidence and at the same time, hopeful that claire would be selected to dance with her as well. she introduced claire to do a couple of cartwheels to start the session, which was a piece of cake for the younger girl.
after the lesson, JOY was beaming with joy and pride that she thought her choreo went well. it was fun,easy and acceptable by most stdts. more importantly, the coach realised that claire could actually dance better than her normal show in the class, and actually gave her words of compliment. the other stdts also applauded when they saw claire do her cartwheels. haha, how many pple can actually do ONE-HAND cartwheel at 180 degree turn? few, i reckon.
so, over the short session of choreo, claire sort of rose to 'stardom' which resulted in her grinning from ear to ear. this was despite her homework not finished and she hasn't even revised for her composition exam on mon (ie. today).
when i told her that she wasn't productive on sat, wasting much time in doing non-eseential stuff, she quickly responded in a sweet manner,"ya, mom, i knw i was non-productive. i promise u this will not happen again! i will do my best when i get home!"
well, as i told hubby, a kid's mood is really the main determinant of her behaviour. when she's 'stroked' and feel on cloud nine, even the meanest taunting will not get her into a rage.....
well, with her, i guess she has to learn along the way. joy even commented that claire is very 'cool' about exams, ie. not taking them too seriously. in fact, we have never seen her sitting there like a 12-hr statue to revise her work....she can tell u,"i'm done with reading my compo writing!" yup, and that's over a matter of 5 minutes......
anyway, this girl is eating a lot more and joy is totally envious of her 'ability' to stay slim. we brought her to see a doc at 8 plus coz' she seemd to be very uncomfortable with blocked nose. in fact, her nose mucus was turning thick yellowish and that worried us a little.
well, let's hope this week with all paper 1 stuff will pass by quickly.....and we will be on the way to celebrate gillian's wedding on 15th oct, sat.
apparently, it was joy's turn to demonstrate her choreograph dance for next yr's concert (shortlisting success rate is 33% only). basically, she had to stand right in front of a class of 20 or more to show her steps and teach the rest...voting will be conducted at end of the viewing conducted over many weeks, and the successful candidate will get the chance to 'showcase' her dance at 2012 concert.
joy was so sweet to rope in claire to participate in the video presentation, that was shot and sent to the stdts ahead of her demonstration session. joy's intention was to boost up claire's confidence and at the same time, hopeful that claire would be selected to dance with her as well. she introduced claire to do a couple of cartwheels to start the session, which was a piece of cake for the younger girl.
after the lesson, JOY was beaming with joy and pride that she thought her choreo went well. it was fun,easy and acceptable by most stdts. more importantly, the coach realised that claire could actually dance better than her normal show in the class, and actually gave her words of compliment. the other stdts also applauded when they saw claire do her cartwheels. haha, how many pple can actually do ONE-HAND cartwheel at 180 degree turn? few, i reckon.
so, over the short session of choreo, claire sort of rose to 'stardom' which resulted in her grinning from ear to ear. this was despite her homework not finished and she hasn't even revised for her composition exam on mon (ie. today).
when i told her that she wasn't productive on sat, wasting much time in doing non-eseential stuff, she quickly responded in a sweet manner,"ya, mom, i knw i was non-productive. i promise u this will not happen again! i will do my best when i get home!"
well, as i told hubby, a kid's mood is really the main determinant of her behaviour. when she's 'stroked' and feel on cloud nine, even the meanest taunting will not get her into a rage.....
well, with her, i guess she has to learn along the way. joy even commented that claire is very 'cool' about exams, ie. not taking them too seriously. in fact, we have never seen her sitting there like a 12-hr statue to revise her work....she can tell u,"i'm done with reading my compo writing!" yup, and that's over a matter of 5 minutes......
anyway, this girl is eating a lot more and joy is totally envious of her 'ability' to stay slim. we brought her to see a doc at 8 plus coz' she seemd to be very uncomfortable with blocked nose. in fact, her nose mucus was turning thick yellowish and that worried us a little.
well, let's hope this week with all paper 1 stuff will pass by quickly.....and we will be on the way to celebrate gillian's wedding on 15th oct, sat.
blessed children's day-9 oct 2011
claire invited trisha and lucas to our church for a children's day party this morn.
joy and i decided to skip the main adult service to join in the children's group. partly also to help watch over white's young kids.
for the 1st time, joy finally witnessed how bold and spontaneous trisha was. she raised her hand, without any need of prompting (claire, r u reading this?), to participate in a game. the way she strutted out, haha, with such confidence!
her group came in first and she was given 3 chocolate bars. happily returning to her seat, joy and i had fun watching what went next.
guess what? it was lucas' turn to want to play the game, despite his young age. trisha, plus joy and me, escorted him to the game corner. he was slowly separating the color balls into different cups, while trisha kept her helping hands off....joy commented that trisha is really honest with playing games, unlike the typical kiasu behaviour of many singaporean kids, haha. even i was so tempted to help lucas to speed up his process...but resisted lah.
lucas' team won too and he gaily returned to his seat with 3 hershey chocolate bars. i teased him,"u want me to keep them for u?" he cleverly replied,"ah ah...it's not heavy lah, very light, i can put in my pockets!"
he skilfully tucked in one chocolate each into his left and right pocket of his shirt. i asked if he wanted me to help keep his 3rd bar, he said,"hmm...i still hv another pocket in my pants lah!"
ha, claire, there went ur chocolate bar down the drain. as for trisha, when she got hers, she willingly shared it with lucas and just chucked the other 2 remaining ones into her water bottle. white's 2 kids are really different in handling things, haha. the boy is smarter while the girl is a sweet innocent girl!
while joy and i were singing the songs in the dark with light sticks in hand, halfway, we spotted lucas using his light stick 'fighting' with 2 other boys...actually, they were the ones to 'lure' him out of his 'quiet den'...it was such a hilarious sight to see him blocking his attackers' blow with his different hand patterns, acting like a warrior. joy and i really laughed our heads off to see him so cute and innocent...and that smug look on his face!
in fact, i was really glad the 2 kids were sporty, when it came to singing session too, especially lucas. think he enjoyed the puppet show the most.
then came the finale... when one fellow member asked if anyone would like to accept jesus into their hearts. guess who did? haha, it was indeed trisha, the bold and spontaneous girl. i told joy,"maybe she thot they were asking for game participants!" joy asked,"mom, do u think trisha knws what she's in for? or maybe the holy spirit is leading her!" well, i chose to think so too!
so, she and few others were led into the 'sacred room' to say the sinner's prayer. trisha was scratching her legs with spluttering eyelashes while being talked to. when she was led into prayer, her eyes were supposedly closed. but when joy and i peeped at her from outside the glass door, we spotted her eyes slightly open to 'peep' around....another funny laughter from joy and me.
lastly, it was makan session. the kids had great time eating nuggets, sausages, fishballs, cakes/cupcakes....claire had 3 helpings while trisha, 2.
luas came back to our home to 'shit' it out, haha.
hubby teased trisha saying,"i will call u tonight to make sure that u say your prayer and amen!" she showed a helpless look, not knowing how to tacklet this uncle's lame attack.
more importantly, white had great time with spouse at roland's restaurant. she texted me thereafter, saying that she finally had time to eat slowly, not needing to take trouble to ensure that the kids ate first, but more importantly, she could order her own favourite dimsum...poor white! but, i was sure exhausted after the whole affair with 2 young kids!
joy and i decided to skip the main adult service to join in the children's group. partly also to help watch over white's young kids.
for the 1st time, joy finally witnessed how bold and spontaneous trisha was. she raised her hand, without any need of prompting (claire, r u reading this?), to participate in a game. the way she strutted out, haha, with such confidence!
her group came in first and she was given 3 chocolate bars. happily returning to her seat, joy and i had fun watching what went next.
guess what? it was lucas' turn to want to play the game, despite his young age. trisha, plus joy and me, escorted him to the game corner. he was slowly separating the color balls into different cups, while trisha kept her helping hands off....joy commented that trisha is really honest with playing games, unlike the typical kiasu behaviour of many singaporean kids, haha. even i was so tempted to help lucas to speed up his process...but resisted lah.
lucas' team won too and he gaily returned to his seat with 3 hershey chocolate bars. i teased him,"u want me to keep them for u?" he cleverly replied,"ah ah...it's not heavy lah, very light, i can put in my pockets!"
he skilfully tucked in one chocolate each into his left and right pocket of his shirt. i asked if he wanted me to help keep his 3rd bar, he said,"hmm...i still hv another pocket in my pants lah!"
ha, claire, there went ur chocolate bar down the drain. as for trisha, when she got hers, she willingly shared it with lucas and just chucked the other 2 remaining ones into her water bottle. white's 2 kids are really different in handling things, haha. the boy is smarter while the girl is a sweet innocent girl!
while joy and i were singing the songs in the dark with light sticks in hand, halfway, we spotted lucas using his light stick 'fighting' with 2 other boys...actually, they were the ones to 'lure' him out of his 'quiet den'...it was such a hilarious sight to see him blocking his attackers' blow with his different hand patterns, acting like a warrior. joy and i really laughed our heads off to see him so cute and innocent...and that smug look on his face!
in fact, i was really glad the 2 kids were sporty, when it came to singing session too, especially lucas. think he enjoyed the puppet show the most.
then came the finale... when one fellow member asked if anyone would like to accept jesus into their hearts. guess who did? haha, it was indeed trisha, the bold and spontaneous girl. i told joy,"maybe she thot they were asking for game participants!" joy asked,"mom, do u think trisha knws what she's in for? or maybe the holy spirit is leading her!" well, i chose to think so too!
so, she and few others were led into the 'sacred room' to say the sinner's prayer. trisha was scratching her legs with spluttering eyelashes while being talked to. when she was led into prayer, her eyes were supposedly closed. but when joy and i peeped at her from outside the glass door, we spotted her eyes slightly open to 'peep' around....another funny laughter from joy and me.
lastly, it was makan session. the kids had great time eating nuggets, sausages, fishballs, cakes/cupcakes....claire had 3 helpings while trisha, 2.
luas came back to our home to 'shit' it out, haha.
hubby teased trisha saying,"i will call u tonight to make sure that u say your prayer and amen!" she showed a helpless look, not knowing how to tacklet this uncle's lame attack.
more importantly, white had great time with spouse at roland's restaurant. she texted me thereafter, saying that she finally had time to eat slowly, not needing to take trouble to ensure that the kids ate first, but more importantly, she could order her own favourite dimsum...poor white! but, i was sure exhausted after the whole affair with 2 young kids!
Wednesday, October 5, 2011
claire's sports carnival today!
finally, it's claire's sports carnival day today.
she's to wake up at 6 am and be in sch before 6.30 am, before the gate closes on her (so reported by her to me last nite).
what's the big deal, if u might ask.
well, this yr, for the first time, she's in the dance representing her green house. it was upon invitation by another girl and it was with some consideration/ deliberation, that she decided to participate.
knowing her to be lil shy, it was a great booster for her to dance in front of pple. in fact, she was so encouraged after being openly complimented by the dance teacher-in-charge, that she suddenly turned so responsible twds the event.
yet, till tday, only joy has the luxury of watching (just once) the house dance....to me, must be those 'ra ra' dance that makes a lot of exaggerated noise.
hope this whole event will give her more confidence and bring her dance to a higher level.
well, every kid needs just that breakthrough level, right?
like how hubby put it the other day (in a comical/ sinister manner) : 要竖起大姆指！(result of his attendance of one parenting seminar with me).
frankly, who would mind being shown a thumb signal of 'very good'?
she's to wake up at 6 am and be in sch before 6.30 am, before the gate closes on her (so reported by her to me last nite).
what's the big deal, if u might ask.
well, this yr, for the first time, she's in the dance representing her green house. it was upon invitation by another girl and it was with some consideration/ deliberation, that she decided to participate.
knowing her to be lil shy, it was a great booster for her to dance in front of pple. in fact, she was so encouraged after being openly complimented by the dance teacher-in-charge, that she suddenly turned so responsible twds the event.
yet, till tday, only joy has the luxury of watching (just once) the house dance....to me, must be those 'ra ra' dance that makes a lot of exaggerated noise.
hope this whole event will give her more confidence and bring her dance to a higher level.
well, every kid needs just that breakthrough level, right?
like how hubby put it the other day (in a comical/ sinister manner) : 要竖起大姆指！(result of his attendance of one parenting seminar with me).
frankly, who would mind being shown a thumb signal of 'very good'?
sticky keys cost me...
thru red, i got hold of mr ang's contact no.
i required his svc on piano tuning.
joy's kawaii piano has many sticky keys. for the last 3 yrs, the tuner would just turn up at my door, sit thru for half and hour or more, then left with $50-60 without much complaint. yet, the sticky keys issue nvr got solved.
this time round, mr ang took the whole spare part back home to repair. plus tuning, the cost will come up to $400. he commented that's joy's piano is for beginners' learning and casually asked,"what grade is ur daughter learning now?"
i replied,"diploma!"
he expressed shock, since he thot the piano was really more suitable for just below lower grade learners. then, joy happened to pass by and gave me a smug look,as if telling me,"see, mom. i still managed to get good grades, despite learning on such lousy piano!"
in fact, this girl was so lame, citing that she would pick up a skill of playing sidebyside on 2 pianos, if we were to get her an extra one. this was the result of her watching a taiwan show perfce at popo's house last fri.
of coz not, joy. 1st issue, space constaint. 2nd issue, no money. 3rd issue, u will not be able to squeeze time to practise.
in fact, i will be happy if joy can squeeze out some time to read up more....until today, i'm still on same old issue...read more, learn more and enjoy the knwledge acquisition. dun study for exams sake, that's the most lame excuse to study.
anyway, hping that her piano keys will all be fine and i'll hear more melodious piano sound in my home, in a week's time.
i required his svc on piano tuning.
joy's kawaii piano has many sticky keys. for the last 3 yrs, the tuner would just turn up at my door, sit thru for half and hour or more, then left with $50-60 without much complaint. yet, the sticky keys issue nvr got solved.
this time round, mr ang took the whole spare part back home to repair. plus tuning, the cost will come up to $400. he commented that's joy's piano is for beginners' learning and casually asked,"what grade is ur daughter learning now?"
i replied,"diploma!"
he expressed shock, since he thot the piano was really more suitable for just below lower grade learners. then, joy happened to pass by and gave me a smug look,as if telling me,"see, mom. i still managed to get good grades, despite learning on such lousy piano!"
in fact, this girl was so lame, citing that she would pick up a skill of playing sidebyside on 2 pianos, if we were to get her an extra one. this was the result of her watching a taiwan show perfce at popo's house last fri.
of coz not, joy. 1st issue, space constaint. 2nd issue, no money. 3rd issue, u will not be able to squeeze time to practise.
in fact, i will be happy if joy can squeeze out some time to read up more....until today, i'm still on same old issue...read more, learn more and enjoy the knwledge acquisition. dun study for exams sake, that's the most lame excuse to study.
anyway, hping that her piano keys will all be fine and i'll hear more melodious piano sound in my home, in a week's time.
Sunday, October 2, 2011
teen's episode?
i was in the gym early this morn, after sending claire to school.
i met B couple whom i've not met for a long while.
mr B told me that their secondary sch grandson is putting up with them for 2 weeks, as the exams is round the corner.
out of curiosity, i asked why.
mr B 'leaked' out that the grandson's academic results hv slipped due to his pre-occupation with computer games. the parents are working and they have completely control of his involvement at home. so, they need to rope in the help of 'grandparents' to watch over him after sch hours.
mr B, the grandfather, said that his way of working with this boy is to be back home in the afternoon, to slowly 'talk him out' of the online games activities. to me, it's clearly addiction. aye, the power of virtual addiction is so horrific that it can erode one's normal lifestyle and upset one's body balance.
pulling the plug completely is a tad too harsh, so i guess it will be a long process of cajoling...hopefully, the young boy will come to senses.
in conclusion, every coin has 2 sides to it. if we lose balance in our usage, the gadget becomes a bane in our lives.....just ystday, hubby and i were just talking about how parents lost control of kids as they grow up and become masters of their own lives, defying orders and failing to appreciate the parents' provisions.
he commented that if the kids fail to respect him in any way, including taking things into their own hands for major affairs, he will go to the extent of 'disowning' them and 'boycotting' any formal ceremonies....to him, respect is in mutual form. to a certain extent, i agree with him!
i met B couple whom i've not met for a long while.
mr B told me that their secondary sch grandson is putting up with them for 2 weeks, as the exams is round the corner.
out of curiosity, i asked why.
mr B 'leaked' out that the grandson's academic results hv slipped due to his pre-occupation with computer games. the parents are working and they have completely control of his involvement at home. so, they need to rope in the help of 'grandparents' to watch over him after sch hours.
mr B, the grandfather, said that his way of working with this boy is to be back home in the afternoon, to slowly 'talk him out' of the online games activities. to me, it's clearly addiction. aye, the power of virtual addiction is so horrific that it can erode one's normal lifestyle and upset one's body balance.
pulling the plug completely is a tad too harsh, so i guess it will be a long process of cajoling...hopefully, the young boy will come to senses.
in conclusion, every coin has 2 sides to it. if we lose balance in our usage, the gadget becomes a bane in our lives.....just ystday, hubby and i were just talking about how parents lost control of kids as they grow up and become masters of their own lives, defying orders and failing to appreciate the parents' provisions.
he commented that if the kids fail to respect him in any way, including taking things into their own hands for major affairs, he will go to the extent of 'disowning' them and 'boycotting' any formal ceremonies....to him, respect is in mutual form. to a certain extent, i agree with him!
Saturday, October 1, 2011
johnny english reborn
johnny english reborn - nice show. unexpectedly nice.
now, rowan atkinson is my 'idol', haha. actually, he's really funny with his 'helpless' but 'cool' expression.
hubby and the 2 girls seemed to like it too.
i laughed a lot....over all silly scenes and 'mr bean's' innocent look.
it's a nice sat afternoon hiding in a big theatre with air-con.
we proceeded to arcade at great world. we were challenging a game of racing..claire ended up 1st, out of the blue. hubby 2nd. i was the 3rd.
the whole joke started when joy came patting my shoulder and asked,"u got last?"
i responded,"no, i was 3rd. i was wondering how u got to be the last!"
"no, i didn't play. so, u were the last!" answered joy.
aiya, so i was the last in the race....blur me again.
go watch this show. won't regret.
now, rowan atkinson is my 'idol', haha. actually, he's really funny with his 'helpless' but 'cool' expression.
hubby and the 2 girls seemed to like it too.
i laughed a lot....over all silly scenes and 'mr bean's' innocent look.
it's a nice sat afternoon hiding in a big theatre with air-con.
we proceeded to arcade at great world. we were challenging a game of racing..claire ended up 1st, out of the blue. hubby 2nd. i was the 3rd.
the whole joke started when joy came patting my shoulder and asked,"u got last?"
i responded,"no, i was 3rd. i was wondering how u got to be the last!"
"no, i didn't play. so, u were the last!" answered joy.
aiya, so i was the last in the race....blur me again.
go watch this show. won't regret.
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