i read somewhere that ' we should bond with our children when they are young else, we hv to pay for counselling sessions when they are older!"
this is a thought-provoking statement.
but it distinctly reflects how important it is for parents to invest time in their kids when they are young, obedient and easy to manage.
my niece, nini is the best example. at 2 plus, she will seek permission from her parents to carry out a task. and if mommy said,"no", she would stop short at that!
when kids trsnsform into teenies and then, teenagehood, they started to take pride and ownership in making their own decisions. worse still, if we dun impart the right values from young, they would find communication with the older folks difficult.
take for instance, over the itinerary proposal of joy, the daddy had 'critized' about the shoddy piece of work, citing that lil effort has been put into the work. she actually felt sad over his comment and wasnt too happy about it.
i had to intervene the next day, explaining the situation to her. "dad has been doing the hol planning for us for many yrs. he knws what's a serious proposal. so, no way can u fool him with ur sloppy presentation! he's absolutely rite to question u about the city placing, the express route to take and the travelling time..."
in fact, i told joy that in her future corporate life, she will be facing setbacks every other moment, when proposals get thrown out and efforts ended up not being appreciated. so, taking criticism in good spirit form is the first step to future success!
on the other side, i hv to tell hubby that he should be thkful that his daughter took up the respy to plan, even though her 1st and 2nd round had not met his expectation. but, at least joy is trying and he should not be too critical....well, i'm poor in road map like joy, so i understand her 'woes' to some extent lah.
well ,at least, joy learnt one thing from this whole planning experience, everything starts from reading the map of taiwan.....she should hv obeyed red right from the start! well, it's nvr too late lah!
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Nini is not 2+ but she will be exactly 2 tomorrow or today at SG time. :)
ReplyDeleteActually she is not that obedient but I'm glad she is obedient to a certain extent. At least now, she will still listen to me most of the times. Must keep the bonding going to hold my rein on her. Haha!
yes, 13 oct her bdae lah.
ReplyDeletehappy birthday to nini and hope she will hv a terrific time in SF, ridden off jetlag drowsiness soon.
that's the problem, when kids are too young, they dun hv full experience of a travel...quoted by joy and claire. joy, in the case of her korea trip at 5+ and claire, in japan when she just turned 2.
well, red, u r rite, joy will learn along the way. teens are the most difficult lot when it comes to taking advice from folks. coz their brains are so much affected by radiation (from hps), that's what i always tell joy.
Nini will have clearer memories of her travel cos she is always looking at the photos and watching her videos which I loaded on iPad. That's how technology is helping in this aspect, so not all bad things.... :)
ReplyDeleteI thought little L quite enjoyed his HK trip. Of course, small T remembered more of it.
ReplyDeleteI would he wouldn't give me too much trouble for the coming Korea trip.
He should be fine. Just make sure they are both warmly wrapped up. No kidding if they catch a cold and have fever like me. And bring along your cup noodle 'cos it's really spicy diet over there.
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