stress! stress! stress!
more hrs in a day, please!
this is the cries of the 17-yr old teenager at home.
joy's promo exam for jc1 is coming up on 12 sep. she's not finding enough time to revise her work. her dance rehearsal re concert perfce in sep is far taking up too much time!
we were having a chat the other day. she asked,'mom, do u think i should drop one h2 subject to h1?'
'yup, why not? i did 3 h2 subjects only! afterall, the impact is minimal unless u want to do for research or overseas scholarship prog!' i responded.
'ya lor, mom, u get a distinction for an h2 subject, but the point awarded will be halved, equivalent to a distinction in h1 subject. and mind u, it's easier to get a distinction for h1 than h2 syllabus!' analysed joy's little birdie brain.
well, h2 is akin to 'A' level std while h1 is 'AO' std.
after some brief discussion what she's likely to downgrade to h1 level, she continued her revision.
that was fri.
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sat nite. after her concert rehearsal that ended close to 11.30 pm at jurong.
joy was totally bushed. once she hopped into the car, she whined that she hadnt got the chance to even revise the notes that she brought to the concert hall.
once home, after a fresh shower, she was checking her iphone msgs and facebook comments, her usual routine.
suddenly, she turned emotional and said,"mom, actually i'm glad to hv parents like u and daddy."
i was puzzled and asked her,"why do u say that?"
she replied, "one of my dance friends just told me that you are both so supportive. when i told my frd, zy that i am only aiming for a pass in the promo exams, she asked me how my mom would feel. i told her that mom felt it was alrite, since i'm juggling between dance and sch activities. she said that u r so understanding..'
wow, that's a big hat for me to wear. but that's the truth. vjc's std is so high. the kids are no longer talking about a distinction grade. everyone just hopes to breach the passing 50 mark, i'm not kidding here!
well, but joy fails to qualify to her frd, zy, who's a diligent undergraduate pupil dabbling well between dance, piano and sch, that i actually meant,'ok to just pass for jc1 promo exams, but for next yr 'A' level, more effort has to be put in!'
well, i wouldnt like to have a nerdy daughter who spends her time mugging at home and fails to find joy in doing any other stuff. like how joy puts it,"i'm enjoying my life so much now...the thot of being able to take part in dance competition and go on stage just made me want to push myself harder in my study...it's a motivation for me!'
加油啦，小乐乐！
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I sure wish I've had a mum like u, Veryln. Yes, marking standards at the top few JC's are always higher & stricter than the actual exam from my experience. Same with AJC those days. But make sure you know your work at JC1 cos' it's building up towards JC2. Otherwise, it'll be too late to catch up. Maybe Joy can play more when she enters the Uni as 'A' level is the big hurdle. Well, work-play balance is the key.
ReplyDeletehaha jean, i can't be your mom lah, coz' i'm ur sister-in-law.
ReplyDeleteanyway, i forgot to add that when her friend told her 'your mom is so understanding!', joy responded,"my mom trusts me!'
when she related it to me, she was lil emotional...haha, that's my lame daughter, bringing a lot of laughter to the daddy's life with her wry sense of humour!
only she can understand her dad's lame jokes and fart...oopss!
truly, i always emphasise to her that i need not micro-manage her (coz' it's so tiring to do so) simply becoz' 'i trust her'! these 3 words are powerrful if u said i from the heart!
haha jean, i can't be your mom lah, coz' i'm ur sister-in-law.
ReplyDeleteanyway, i forgot to add that when her friend told her 'your mom is so understanding!', joy responded,"my mom trusts me!'
when she related it to me, she was lil emotional...haha, that's my lame daughter, bringing a lot of laughter to the daddy's life with her wry sense of humour!
only she can understand her dad's lame jokes and fart...oopss!
truly, i always emphasise to her that i need not micro-manage her (coz' it's so tiring to do so) simply becoz' 'i trust her'! these 3 words are powerrful if u said i from the heart!
Joy really has so much energy to do so many things at the same time, this is youth. Not like us, old bones liao. Actually your way of handling Joy works cos it is Joy. May not work on Claire. Every child needs a different method, ya?
ReplyDeleteyes red, we are old horses with old mane and weak bones.
ReplyDeleteof coz, one method cant fit it all....
but all i knw is that, if we trust our kids, they will feel the commitment to keep their promise of doing their best in everything.
some kids need more supervision than others, but who to blame? it's the upbringing process where parents held on to the kids' noses so closely, like a leash on the dog's neck...so to 'wean' them off subsequently after spoonfeeding for such long time, will be a challenging process.
yes red, we are old horses with old mane and weak bones.
ReplyDeleteof coz, one method cant fit it all....
but all i knw is that, if we trust our kids, they will feel the commitment to keep their promise of doing their best in everything.
some kids need more supervision than others, but who to blame? it's the upbringing process where parents held on to the kids' noses so closely, like a leash on the dog's neck...so to 'wean' them off subsequently after spoonfeeding for such long time, will be a challenging process.