lettting go or supporting them?

in the car, while fetching my 2 princesses to the kembangan mrt station for them to make their way to pioneer station, jurong, claire asked,"mommy, u knw some parents offer their support for the concert rehearsal. i'm sure u will not do it, rite?"

huh, what a way to question me?

well, frankly, staying through with the kids on their rehearsal is a waste of time for me. in fact, last week, hubby and i made our way to jb jusco to have a great dinner and being in each other's companionship was great (without the kids' presence). couples do need such free and easy time, once in a while!

well, i reckon many mothers offer to help, coz' they want to assure that their kids' interest are taken care off...from food to make-up to changed dressing and hairdo.....

i responded,"frankly, i'm very proud that both of you are independent enough to handle things on ur own...seriously, so many dances that require different outfits change and yet, u could do it backstage on ur own! esp for claire who's probably the only young girl who has no 'parental support' and yet havent lost any thing so far!"

on the same issue that claire had raised, i continued,"not that i'm reluctant to do it, it's just that when it's time to LET GO, i hv to learn to do it! i gotta learn to trust in ur ability to do things on ur own, instead of stringing u on."

indeed, giving support comes in different level. when overly done, kids will lean twds us all the times and lose its independence to work.

i do salute parents who give their time and energy to help out their children in the dance rehearsal and actual day performance. if such effort is for the benefit of the wider group of children, it wins my admiration. but mostly, u see that parents just wanna be there to make sure that their kids change on time to go on stage for their show.

so far, only one parent will bother to buy snacks for other children, while serving her own child, making her the STAR parent, haha. i like her too, a very generous woman who patiently waits for her 2 girls to finish up the dance!

talk about independence, i recalled during claire's debut hip hop concert in 2008 (p2 then), i had to worry about her being a fussy eater. dinner pack was provided but knowing her, i had to specially prepare sushi and other snacks for her, and leaving words with a a parent support mom to watch over her...yes, iwas very protective over claire then, more becoz i didn't want her to have gastric discomfort!

in fact, i even went to the backstage to look for her, in the midst of the stuffy claustrophic atmosphere, to ensure that everything was alrite with her.

since p4 however, i reminded her that she's grown up and has to learn to buy food from canteen instead of creating inconvenience for me and helper to deliver food on certain days, when she needs to stay back......today, she's more mature although joy thinks that she still has room for improvement when it comes to taking public transport to school, instead of relying on us to fetch us to and fro each day!